Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Anndrya, maybe our men have the same grad date lol - that would be nice. Since they left the same day and we're both patiently waiting for these letters! Once you get it lemme know! I can't wait to get home today to check the mail. It better be there! I want to get these letters out tomorrow that I wrote him!

I actually JUST emailed his recruiter a few mins ago. I just asked him if he'd at least have the address. The waiting game is so annoying! It's like by the time u start sending out letters or getting any from them, bootcamp is half way through! Oh well - i hope you get yours today, as I hope mine comes toooo!

well the thing that saddens me....is, if im correct, they start reading their letters the monday after their second sunday there....and well - that's his upcoming monday - i don't have his address yet, i have SO many letters to send him, and he will be empty handed on mail call that day...and i feel bad because he'll probably think i never wrote....it just makes me sad....

Ok well that's good news. All i can hope for is that the form letter comes to me before this week is up. That way I can get my letters out to him. When did your bf go through bootcamp? Was this recently? I assume he is finished it now?

Oh so yours just graduated. Did you go to his PIR? Mine should be done sometime in mid November I believe. He left 9/11. Is yours active or reserves? Mine is reserves. After BC he goes to A school in FL for 4 months. So I'm guess he won't be back home till February/March. Same as you....very long. It sucks.

I look forward to PIR. I just need a break in this no contact. It's god awful. Where is your bf going to A school at? Also, what's his rate and job? 7.5 months is def a long time - mine had an estimated 6 months of being away, including bootcamp, but as I see it changes all the time with the navy....so it could be longer...who knows at this point :(

Well that's encouragement. I'm on my second week of boot camp and I seem to be doing better than I was the first week. The first 2 days were my worst. I've told alot of people - as creepy as it sounds, him being away and us having no communication almost feels like a death to me. I can't help relate it to anything else at the moment as morbid as it seems. I mean...we can't talk - no phone calls, texts, emails....not even a letter yet. Then I come home to our place...and all his stuff is there...sitting right where it was when he left. It's just an odd feeling that I cant pass yet. I work all week so I keep myself busy and distracted but I can't say this is easy. I have my good and bad moments. How long have u been with your bf? I've been with mine for 2 years now. He will be gone for his birthday...thanksgiving, christmas, and new years. That really makes me sad. I'm very new to the lifestyle as well - so this is a learning experience. I'm hoping as everyone has said all along that it only makes your relationship a better one....I fear that time apart will pull us apart....I can't help but worry sometimes.

Day 15 and you still haven't gotten the letter??? Oh my gosh...now you're depressing me. I can't imagine waiting another week for this form letter!

Hi Everyone :) My Name is Brianna and I'm from Michigan. Im a senior in high school. Roger, my boyfriend of a couple years now,left for bootcamp on September 5th. I miss him, but I have been doing suprisingly good. Im proud of myself for how Ive been handling the whole situation. He is ship 09 Div.355, his PIR is 9/5. Im just here to say hello and chat with people who I can relate to.

Wilson sucks for posting that on here.  

i agree with you anti m!!! 

I have to agree with you there. Trust is key with this process. As the same with me, my fiance is the first guy I've ever been with that I've had a real true, genuine connection with - and since the day we met up until now...he's never done me wrong and has always been loyal to me. Not once have I ever not had trust in him. I think it's just natural for all of us to worry sometimes - besides it's just a woman's instinct to assume the worst at times. It's horrible! I've been writing alot of letters - and some are very sappy, lovey dovey. I guess I'm getting a chance to tell him some of the things I've never said...or never said enough really. You take for granted that person being there every single day....and now that he's gone I wish I did certain things differently. It's weird. Especially since I know he's coming back. I guess it's just normal to feel regrets because you miss them so much. I've been okay. Like everyone I have my moments. My moments mostly come when I'm alone. I'm dreading the rest of this year, which actually is sucky....because this is the time of year that I love. The fall weather, the holidays...thanksgiving...his birthday, and christmas/new years. Now I have to learn how to spend those times without him - and to think last Christmas was our very first Christmas together while under the same roof. Now I have to wake up alone on that day....

I just really hope his form letter comes. I want to communicate with him and just let him know that I'm here...I'm fine...and I'm waiting for him. As I planned to do from the start. Next week is my third week - which actually went pretty quickly. So I'm hoping maybe I'll get that unexpected phone call...or finally a letter from him. Time will tell....I'm just so anxious with waiting!!

Ashley1026- hi my boyfriend got his orders for c-school in california and was suppose to stay there for 2 years before deployment, and he had only been there for about a month and a half and they sent him overseas.... I think its best if you wait and see how things go in c-school for the first month, i guess it would depend on what his job descriptions implies as well. i hope this helped a little

Sorry i've been reading your comments and came up on being deployed while in A school? Do anyone of you know how common that is? Trying to plan a wedding and now i have another worry / stress. haha. 

The thing is that being in the navy you really never know! i have basically taught myself not to get my hopes on anything to be honest because it never ends up that way.... Orders are always change and its something that you have to get use to being in the military. I knew what i was getting myself into and this journey hasnt been easy but in know that in the end it is going to be worth it for me and him. It gets harder through this journey and he has only been in the navy for 7 months and has already gone throught bootcamp, A-school in florida, C-school in California and now DEPLOYMENT.  We plan on getting married right after he gets back but we wont start planning until we are settled in..

Kyla-  it depends on what squadrion he is in, I am not sure about A-school because they are just in training but as soon as they are in c-school it more sure they will be sent out. C- school is hands on, my bf  is AO Aviation Ordiance and he has already worked on planes at C-school, A-school is just studying.

nickswifey... what?   I have NEVER heard of someone being sent to the fleet before finishing A school, unless they flunk out.   It is true some sailors go to their command before a C school, but never A school.  Some rates do have OJT, but not very many.  I'm dying to know, what rate?  I would like to research this.  Thanks.

Anti M - I will ask him tonight.  I think it would have been an engineering rate because my husband is going to be an EN and most of his ship seems to be engineering rates.  He said a ship deployed 4 months early and they pulled some guys out of school and sent them to that ship.  I had the same question - What about what they are learning??  Isn't that sort of necessary?  He said he supposed they would get on the job training.  I'll see what I can find out about it.

Wow, unprecedented ... at least to me.  We need to ask Angie, she was an EN.   She'd know if this was something new.  The ship would need to be very short-handed. Maybe a unique situation?  All were snipes?  MMs (machinist mates) can do their job learning by OJT.  Sorry, I'm very curious, I was a twidget, not a snipe.

I know there are rates it simply wouldn't work with, the AECF and nukes for sure, and the corpsmen.  Some of the aviation rates too.

Just a note for those who don't know yet, the Navy communities all have nicknames for each other, a very old tradition.  They sound insulting to untrained ears, but they're more like pet names.   I can call my nephew a "glow in the dark bubblehead" and he'd just grin and give me a thumbs up.  Like a friendly rivalry between colleges is the closest I can describe it.  A great source of pride for the old hands, although some sailors get uptight about it.  There are always those who get high-strung about something.  (My uptight areas are OPSEC and EO). 

Snipes are the below decks rates, twidgets are the techies, nukes glow in the dark, bubbleheads are on subs, and there are many more.  There are a few which aren't to  be used, because they are insults.  Easy to figure out when you hear them though.  

Just realized I've made it a month without seening him moren than the 2 day weekend we had together.So I only have to make it a little over a month without seeing him at all.lol.I may be able to do this.lol.

Nickey's wife- You may be talking about my husband's ship. It's extremely public knowledge that they were deployed 4 months early to cover for another ship's problems in the yards. I know we did pull several sailors off of the Reagan that sat next to them (for the entire 3 months they were in port collectively) for this deployment. I've never heard of anyone on the ship that was pulled out of A school though. I know we needed personnel pretty bad, but people who haven't completed their schooling wouldn't be of much use.

I FINALLY got my form letter from my lovey. I'm so very happy right now. Just to see his cute little perfect handwriting on the envelope makes me miss him more. But I feel so much more happier just knowing he's out there...and ok. Where can I find a link to the groups for which division he's in on here? Any clue?

I found my division. Btw, thanks for the RTC website! I found it on facebook. So cool! Gosh, i'm SO excited! I feel happy tonight for a change. I can't wait to wake up tomorrow and send out my letters :)))))

Juliette, what division is your SR in?? 

Boca, he's on Ship 14 Div 368...yours?

"Where ever we're together that's my home".

Boca, that's great! I'm sure we'll def run into each other at PIR :)

Do Battle Stations happen the week before PIR or the week of?