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Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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My boy left on November 15th.
His PIR date is January 20th..
I've been pretty okay.
Dealing with the fact that he isn't here.
That's not what gets me.. (Not yet, anyway.)

...what I'm scared of?

My boy is the most emotional, sensitive, loving (, amazing) that I have ever met, with the most goofy, idiotic personality. We've been dating for almost 3 years.

I'm just so fearful...

..I don't want BC to harden him, to make him into an ultimately different person, to cause him to never be the same ever again.

Others have told me not to worry, he'll still be that same boy that walked out the door November 15th, but it doesn't help me...I know they try their hardest to completely break them there, and...

..I just don't want him to lose that soft, warm nature he has about him..

...*She sighs*'s really the only thing that upsets me, that thought. I can't stand it.
Anyone have any words of advice/support/anything for me?

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Comment by BurstingwithPride on November 27, 2011 at 1:31am

Hi! Sounds like you're describing my son! No husband, whom I met after was out of the Navy is such a softie at will change a lot of things, but I believe, only for the greater good...his inner core, who he is deep down, cannot be changed, especially around someone he loves and trusts, you! Another example I can give you is that my son's best friend just finished boot camp via the army, and I thought when he came home to visit us, he'd be completely different but boy was I wrong, still the goofy sweet kid who joked around in my house all their young assured! Hang in there! 

Comment by Nan(Ship 9 Div 247) on November 27, 2011 at 11:30am

My son finished BC in August and is in his last month of A School.  I too was worried about what changes would take place.  I have to say that he is the same person but only better, if that is possible.  He didn't loose who he was but gained confidence and a sense of self that he never had before.  He is more open, loving and actually happier than before.  He learned a lot about who he is and what he has and seems to appreciate everything more. The time in BC was not always easy and he was discouraged at times but he got through it as will your SR.  My experience is that you will see a stronger, well rounded person at the end of this journey.  Good luck to both of you.

Comment by Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45) on November 27, 2011 at 2:06pm

Thank you so much, ladies...I've always been the one to worry about everything, even stupid, little things, and it always manages to overwhelm me.
It really helps me, to see the experience didn't alter your loved ones as I fear.
I can't wait to get his first letter!

Comment by allie42989 (ship07/div036) on November 29, 2011 at 12:20am

almyraia - i can't wait for you to get your first letter, either! it was one of the best experiences. my boyfriend never really let his emotions show - like, EVER. but in his letter, he wrote me things that i would have never expected. it was everything i was hoping it would be - and more! crossing my fingers that it gets to you soon. it looks like we're about a week and a half ahead of you and i got my first letter a week ago. hopefully it is soon!

Comment by Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45) on November 29, 2011 at 4:28pm
I got my first letter yesterday, Allie, and it was great. Very, very short, and very, very him. I screamed and started bawling as soon as I saw it in the mailbox, and read it about 6 tymes before I finally put it down for a second. I know it's just the beginning, but he hasn't changed at all, and it makes me feel so much better. =)


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