Day 1

[abuon18]

So I'm considering this as Day 1 of my boyfriend's boot camp adventure, because the last 2 days have been travel days and he's been able to call me every chance he got.

 

I've been through A LOT in my life and I think today is by far the hardest. It's the first day I actually don't get to hear his voice or even get a stupid text message from him. I can't even tell you how many times I've picked up my phone to text him, remembering just in time that by the time he can turn his phone on and read it, it will be irrelevant. I miss his voice so much already! I've already started writing him letters.... after I got that last text last night telling me he had to shut his phone off I cried. I definitely feel a little lost right now. I know I need to keep myself busy but I've worn myself out over the last few weeks so all I want to do when I get home is relax, and I can't even do that because I'm just sad. I feel like these 9 weeks are going to be never ending and I have heard it gets easier but right now I'm so far from that that I can't see how it will get easier. I know he is doing something he wants to do and it's an incredibly selfless thing but I'm selfish and it doesn't make it easier. I just want him back home with me!

 

I can't wait until I get his PIR date and his first letter. It just doesn't seem real yet and I feel like I'm just standing still while the world is spinning around me because I don't know what to do. At least that will give me some direction.

[ProudOfMySon (Ship 09 Div 291)]

Hang in there, I'm told it gets easier. Before you know it, you'll be traveling to Great Lakes to see him graduated.

[brenny]

i fully understand what you are going threw.i cried every day maybe 12 times a day.

the hardest day for me was when the federal express guy came to the door and handed me a box and when i opened it was all the stuff they were wearing when they got to boot camp and i fell to the floor and cried.

but i am looking forward to july 29th at her gradguration,i am going to be so proud and i better have a box of kleenex with me.

[Nautical Mom]

He'll arrive and get all his new stuff & send the old home...Don't expect a letter for 2-3 weeks.  My Sailor left 6-19 and i got my first letter last week...they have to earn every privilege.  Buy him a pre-paid land line phone card and activate it off your phone...i've been told that if they have to activate - it chews up the minutes.  I've got 29 days to go and no phone call as of yet...hoping for one by this weekend...the first 2 weeks will be the hardest for both of you.  Keep the letter's going, when you get his address...i'm writing everyday now.  about week 3 they seem to drop like flys and become discouraged...send pictures too...hope this helps...this will pass before you know it and you'll see him graduate, Blessings, Cindy  if you want, you can friend me and i'll help with all i can - new at this too, but learning everyday

[abuon18]

Thanks everyone... I hope what I'm feeling is pretty normal so I can look forward to feeling better too! It's just the waiting that is so hard! I will not be getting his box, that is going to his parents in a different state. So I will not be getting the letter either, which makes it even harder because I won't know when it arrives!

[abuon18]

@Cindy-I hope you get your phone call this week!

[Cassie ( Ship 12 Div. 295)]

My boyfriend starts bootcamp today also. And I am so glad I read your post. I also feel like I am standing still. I am applying to medical school right now and I have so much work to do, but with him gone I dont have the energy to do anything. Its like nothing sounds good. My friends and family have tried to comfort me but there really is nothing short of bringing him home that is going to make a difference in my mind. I will be able to talk to him one more time after he gets off the plane ( I hope). It is so hard not having an exact date of when you are going to see them either. I guess we have to get used to the Navy keeping us in the dark though. I really hope people are right about it getting better. Right now it feels terrible, I have never had such emotions like this. I am so happy and proud of him, but so sad that we will be spending this chapter of our lives seperated.

[abuon18]

Cassie thanks for reading and commenting! I thought I was the only one who felt this way! I really feel like until I at least have his graduation date I just won't be able to move on... there is nothing for me to look forward to right now except seeing him again and since I don't know when that is, I don't know what to do! Applying to med school, good luck with that! That will definitely keep you busy!

[Cassie ( Ship 12 Div. 295)]

Did your SR say anything about having to stay up overnight and untill 10pm tonight? Mine didnt but I have read other posts that said the were going to have to. I hope not because he sounded so tired already with his last call.

[abuon18]

He did say that from the time he woke up Tuesday morning (his travel day) he wouldn't be able to sleep until Wednesday... didn't tell me about what time though. They keep them up for like 2 days I know that.

[Cassie ( Ship 12 Div. 295)]

Yeah I dont think he knew about that part. He is going to be grumpy!