Lonely

[Dee]

So my boyfriend graduated a couple of weeks ago and is in Pensacola for his A school. He is my absolute everything and without him I am pretty much a loner. Something that I have gotten really used to, but now I am longing for something to do. Most of my friends are interested in partying all the time, not that I don't enjoy parties its that I wouldn't know much people and I am not the best at small talk. Point is my Sailor has met pretty awesome people and having a great time and I can't help but be jealous. Jealous that my life has to revolve around him and make sure I am not giving him any bad vibes. Trying not to make him feel guilty for going out and not giving me attention that I need. I feel incredibly guilty for even being jealous of his new chance at life. I am happy for him and love to hear that he is happy. But I guess I just feel left behind while everybody is doing great. Please tell me anyone else relates!

[Joni]

Dee,

I agree with Traci. You can also make life changes and keep busy as he keeps busy. Talk with him about a visit; I am sure he would love to see you as well. Are there local groups for wives and girlfriends that you could join?

[Antsmom]

Dee,

Whether someone is a girlfriend or spouse, always be comfortable being you. While he's  building/starting his new career, you should try to keep busy building yours too. I know it's hard and I'm sure many people can relate (I know I can, and did at one time). Traci was right, plan a trip to visit and get to know him in his new life. Learn as much about what he's going through, like Navy acronyms and the type of school he's attending, so when he talks to you about it you aren't lost. Remember, you can only control you, not anyone else. Stay strong.

[AnthonysGirl]

I have this almost same problem. My boyfriend is in bootcamp right now, but i can totally see this being a problem when he goes to A school. hes such a social butterfly and i have him and only him. I had moved home with him after two years of college, so all my old friends are gone and now he is too):

[Tx Mom of Far Away Nuke]

Girls.  Your only supporter is yourself.  I'm saying this from an older jaded experience, having gone through youth, and now, more mature (older) experiences.  Believe in yourself.  Stand up for yourself.  Be a proponent for your own future.  All Navy men (or women) are building their own careers.  You have to weigh and decide, if their career path works with yours.  Especially those that are still "Just dating".  Their whole world experience is changing so much.  Most of them are growing up, as they progress through their Navy experience.

I know my son is.

So, I wish you all a happy ending.  Please be prepared if life doesn't end up like you planned.  I don't intend at all to offend anyone.  I hope everyone stands up for their futures and fights for what they want.