Remembering My Son, Matthew James Bergman

[navymom777]

Dear Navy Moms,

 

First I want to take a moment to thank every one of you for the service of your sons, daughters and spouses. It is important to reinforce how important our military personnel are to the United States and her citizens all over the world. I am very grateful to be amongst this great community of people who have joined together to honor those who work everyday to insure our freedoms and our liberties. It is my hope that this entry will be an encouragement to all of you who look to one another for support while sailors are doing what they love to do and that there are no regrets in good times and times of peril. Be encouraged by this post.

 

Matthew James Bergman was destined to impact the lives of everyone from the day he was born. Everyday he woke up smiling and ready to live each day to the fullest. I cannot remember a time where Matt was not engaged in learning everything about everything. When he started school his teachers talked about his uncanny intelligence and how they felt he was way beyond his learning level. 

 

When Matt was in the first grade he was placed in classes to test his IQ and in the second grade he went into a program called Spectrum that allowed kids to expand their learning capabilities and exercise their knowledge. As he grew and excelled it was apparent that Matt had a gift to learn way beyond his age range and he was antsy in school. Many times he would even challenge his teachers but they would find ways to help him excel in everything he did. He hated homework and thought it was a bit silly. However, he loved studying with other people and finding ways to help his friends get through school by showing them quirky ways to learn their subjects. He loved his friends and being around people and exchanging jokes and talking about anything and everything.

 

Anyone who knows Matt would agree that the most endearing quality about Matt was that he knew how to find solutions to just about anything. He was a great listener and helped people come together and resolve even some of the hardest problems or issues that they might be facing. He never spoke out of turn or made anyone feel less than #1. So many times he would happen upon some very difficult situations and he was always able to help people find a way to get through.

 

Matthew and I were very close. There were no "10 minute" phone calls. We would talk for hours about everything and anything. When he was a senior in High School we would get up at 5 in the mornings and go to the park and walk or jog and talk about all of the things he wanted to do in the Navy. His service to his country was very paramount in his mind and he was determined to do the very best at everything he did, no matter how small.

 

The years that he was gone for DLI school and his time in Georgia he would call and we would talk about his deployment and his language studies. I feel honored that he shared those times with me. Looking back throughout his life I cannot think of one time where we ever exchanged an ill word. His relationship with me surpassed every trial and overshadowed every personal issue we might be facing at the time. I feel honored that God chose me to be his mother and I will forever be thankful that He saw me worthy to be a steward over such a lovely person. 

 

I cherish every word that ever passed between Matthew and I. My last conversation with him was brief but the words that I will hold forever were, "Mom, I love you very much. Kiss Hawk for me. Talk to you soon. I love you". 

 

This Saturday will be both celebratory and bitter sweet. I know he will receive the highest honor and we will stand tall and remember Matthew the way we ALL knew him. Sweet, resolute, compassionate, joyful, intelligent, observant, faithful, loyal, true, honorable, vivacious, ambitious, full of hope and ready to serve anyone at any time. Please hold your heads up for him and remember that his life is a tribute to God and that God knows his name and one day we will all see Matthew again, smiling, waiting and reaching out for us all.

 

God Bless America,

Melody Paxton

[Dave's Mom]

Words cannnot express what i feling as i'm reading this tribute to your son. He sounds like he was an amazing young man. Thank you for giving us an AWESOME soilder. You are truely an inspriation to me. God blees you your family & most of all your amazing SON Matthew!!!I

[SonandSea]

Thank you for sharing about Matthew. May the Lord continue to comfort you with the blessing of these memories. I am humbled by your faith. 

prayers and love to your family♥ 

 

[Ashleysmamaluciana]

Melody,

So sorry for your loss,your words are so beautiful and inspiring.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. 

 

[kab]

Thank you for sharing your son with all of us -- he was a remarkable young man. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.

 

[proudmama ship10 div267]

Dear Melody, I cant even begin to imagine what you and your family are going through.May God bless all of you and bring you peace.I will be with you tomorrow in spirit,hang in there and know that we are all here for you!

-RUTH

[D~W~G]

Oh that was such a beautiful tribute to your son. God Bless Melody. We will all be praying for you and thinking of you on Saturday. Big Hugs

[Proudmom]

Dear Bergman family,

What a beautiful letter and tribute to your son. He is truly a hero! I have been thinking about what really defines hero and patriotism since my child left for BC on the 25th. It is those people who are willing to sacfrice, if necessary their lives for their fellow man. To me that defines a hero and greatness. When my son made the decision to join the Navy I was very apprehensive. We had numerous discussions concerning his decision, when he told me, "mom someone has to do it, someone has to be willing to take care of the soldiers when they get hurt" it took my breath away. It was a sobbering moment for me, and I realized then that my SR made the right decision. He has not waviered from his decision. It is those decisions which make us realize that our children are substanial human beings, capable of greatness.

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Wanda (HN Rota, Spain)]

So very sorry for your loss, I can't even try to imagine what you and your family are going trough.

May Matthew always be remembered as a hero who served his country and a beloved son.

My prayers are with you and your family.

[lwcar]

So sorry for your loss. Blessings to you and your family. Our prayers are with you and your family, and to your brave Matthew

[mom 56]

we will all be thinking about you tomorrow and holding you in our hearts  god bless you and your family