they say the first weeks are the hardest..

[emlovee]

for many of you it seems after the first couple weeks everything gets easier, its not as hard to get on with your days.

 

well no one every told me how it would get hard again!

its the 5th week i think and here i am again feeling like its the first week!

he is so torn down now and so exhausted that in his letters he is depressed, he is questioning if i am being faithfull,

it sucks!!

because for 1 nobody wants to hear their loved one sad!

and for 2 they must be reallllly breaking them down if hes questioning my loyalty!! that is one thing i NEVER could have suspected!

were planning a wedding! so now i just stopped with all plans and am stuck.

 

i know i need to just think positive and realize that these last weeks are hell for them, and that they are completely broken down now.

 

but to get excited that i got a letter and to read that its completely negative kinda set me back!

and then to think their is nothing i can do to make it better except keep sending positive vibes, sucks!!

i honestly was in suck high spirits before that i never would have guessed i would be right back to square 1 trying to build up my positivity.

 

now im REALLY ready for this to be over with!!!

[Sweet*Southern*Lady]

1. Not being with the person you love never gets easier.

     a. You get more used to it.

     b. You learn to cope with it.

     c. You'll find hobbies, crafts, or girl nights that you'll learn to enjoy and even miss when his at home.

     d. Have a slumber party! I did 23 yrs old with other navy girlfriends we had a blast! It was better than when you were 12 cause well Wine and beer. haha

2. Knowing you get to see your loved one makes it worse.

     a. I try not to think about how many days left

     b. I also try to never ever give on that i'm super sad if i speak to him

     c. I personally try to write a reason why i love you, reason why i miss you, reason why we are so great       together in every letter on the back side big letter with numbering or bullet points

3. Behind every great man is a few women

    a. His wife or soon to be

    b. His mom who spent time raising him to be the man he is today

4. His doubts come from the fact that some men in is house with have probably got "dear john" letters

    a. Be reassuring that your there for him. You love him and are his number one supporter.

    b. Keep sending those love letters, they work even on the toughest guys.

[emlovee]

yeah,

i understand hes exhausted and i know he either has rtc's in his head trying to break him about how im not being faithfull or else hes actually hearing stories from guys around him, and i know in his heart he knows better thats why i just put on that fake smile and wrote him a bunch of cute letters and cards after. its just not something i want to hear when im sitting here a huge pregnant whale lol i knew the military life is full of sacrafice and i am preparing myself for that, i just dont like hearing him like this. im ready for this to be over for HIM more then for me.