June BC Calendar

[MidwestMom]

Here is a calendar to keep track of when our loved ones leave for BC June 2011.  Stole the idea from the Leaving in March group!  I tried to go back through the site to get dates from those posted.  Help me keep it updated!  :)

Sunday	Monday	Tuesday	Wednesday	Thursday	Friday	Saturday
May 31                                     Laura H                                     HM Mom			1 WhiteMountain Soon2bWife	2 Mare1012	3	4
5	6 Paloma Twinspin Terri77 Toriimarie	7 LisaR&Amber 2/938 Dantes<3 MDS1962 JosFO122 AliceH51 Theraysmom Djrnova Edeli Lisavdz Susan	8 Nan 9/247 TCMagic Creative4u	9	10	11
12	13 Lisaladybug5 Momofkgw Natacha  BCMadness Lt'sMom12/251 Nadine Bobbijk3/250 Andyswife	14 HowiesMom Alwaysamom Mom4Life Jfutty1 USNavyMom Drew'sMom KSam2/939 1/2Heart2/939	15 MonkeyM9/255  ProudM10/257 VincentsMom  ElleBee & Brenlou 2/939 JaredsM9/254 MattsMomCo SailorCheco DansMom CindyL9/255	16	17	18
19	20  StPeteMom GoDerek10/262 PamB	21 ScottsM10/261 AmyTX Mbb10/259 Katiegail79  MomofaSailor Jvptx10/265 Jma2/940 Mom'o10/266 Clrcrossland Whatelk10/261 Cheryl2/940	22 Duhhuh10/267 FutSailorDav J&RMom10/267 Davesmom icutu22003 Pmbell02 BonnieRN NavyMom	23 Leahscottsdale NavyMomSandi Mom3k10/265 Janice	24	25
26	27 DannyCBCM Alex nycHM BtownS10/267 MikesM7/270 WestonM7/269 pmqcakes Balsuz7/271 OregonM2/273	28  Sharon HMwife!11/273 Kimberl11/274 Lili2/941 Patttea11/273	29 SlrBritty11/276 TexasLiz11/276 Relluv1	30

 

[lisarobin]

Hey Sam's Mom. Don't feel bad my son is getting moody too. I really think it how they are just dealing with it. I told him I wasn't going to offer any more information unless asked for. I'm just trying to stay positive and talk about other things with him. That seems to help. Happy Mother's Day! All my kids are here and I am happy about that.

[lisarobin]

Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow June Moms! Cherish this day with them. I know I will with mine.

[MidwestMom]

No, you aren't the only one Sam's Mom.  I read a LOT more than I post and this seems to be a common thread for a lot of families.  My DEP leaves in just over a week, but he's pulling away constantly.  We moved him home from college on Wednesday and he went camping all weekend...didn't spend much of it with us at all.  To be honest, my emotions are pretty up and down as well so maybe it is a good thing. 

In the future...just don't delete US because we know what you are going through!  Ugh.  And this too shall pass.  Happy Mother's Day!

[Nan(Ship 9 Div 247)]

Thanks MidwestMom, it was just a reaction to my "know-it-all" son.  I can only imagine what it's been like for you haveing to reset your mind to your son leaving a month early.  A year ago I was completely against this but as it gets closer for us I truely believe the Navy will be the best thing for my son and I feel much better about his leaving. (Thank goodness for N4Ms).

Happy Mother's Day to you all.

[monkeymind]

It's so reassuring to hear about your childrens' attitudes. It was starting to break my heart the way he's acting so selfish and filling EVERY second of his time with friends. My husband has told me to stop taking it personally; it has nothing to do with how he feels about his family. He still randomly hugs me and waits for me to scratch his back when I think we're angry at each other. I guess he sees it differently. I'll keep hugging back and take the little scraps I can get, I encourage you all to do the same. Happy Mother's Day!

[J&R's Mom]

Hang in there ladies!! I have one in BC now and let me tell you it is totally natural for them to pull away before they physically leave.  Whether they are aware of it or not it is a defense mechanism so it is not so hard when they leave.  My son was not rude or mean, but he went out every night for the weeks leading up to his departure.  This site was my savior.  My husband swears it was why I was so strong.  My son did not want a going away party, but we had one anyway and he LOVED it!!  My husband put together a video montage to music that played on a loop the entire time and it made everyone cry.  Pictures from birth to the week before he left golfing with his dad and brother.  The evening before we dropped him at the recruiters office (at his request, kiss in the car, no tears, stay in the car) he came in my room, told me his room was completely packed up except the dirty clothes he left in the garage for me to wash and add to the last bin in his closet - LOL!!  MORE LAUNDRY - HA HA HA.  We were all so exhausted the entire house was in bed at 8:30 that night.  Needless to say, now 3 weeks before his BC Grad, his letters home are filled with "I miss you all so much" and "I love you all so much".  Hang in there moms, It DOES get better!  They DO learn to appreciate home and family!  You WILL make it through this with the support of this site and the moms here.  Love to all.

[MidwestMom]

You just described what my DEP is doing...trying to fill up every night going out with his friends and leaving me with his laundry.   I guess those are my scraps of his attentionl!  Unfortunately, I don't think he'll have his room packed up though.  :)

[J&R's Mom]

MidwestMom - I went to Walmart and bought 3 large plastic tubs and told my SR to pack whatever he intended to have me hold onto for his perm home for him into those tubs.  Otherwise toss in the garbage or bag up for donation.  Once he really got down to it, it only took him a few full days to dig in.  I really have not gone into his room to strip the bed and wash everything up and super clean his room.  I have only gone in there a few times since he has left but we have been super busy.  I think I will do it next week end.  Now I am on my next SR's Ass about getting his room cleaned out and packed up and his ship date is 7 weeks away but he is putting it off.  He is also putting off his studying but his brother has written letters telling him and his buddies who have enlisted that it is much harder than they thought so they need to study NOW because they do not have time to study once they are there.  I told my oldest son one bag of trash a day and study hard.  He began yesterday and I think he felt pretty accomplished. This is just another step they find hard to take but if they put it off then we have to do it and I told my boys that I will probably throw out everything so better they do it than me.  Hang in there!! Go buy the tubs and tell him to get on it.   Next time they say they are going some where, I just say "Not until you throw out a full bag of trash from that room".

[lisarobin]

I've been bringing boxes home for my son to start packing up but he hasn't started yet. I think I am going to just take and day and say let's go through it all or at least his clothes. Maybe that will spur him on. I don't think they realize how hard it is for us to say that to them. We just know it is better now than trying to figure it out later.

[lisarobin]

Welcome Brenlou! We are always glad to have more in our group!

[MidwestMom]

We have you added, Brenlou!  ElleBee--you are a very thoughtful DIL!

 

[MidwestMom]

Natacha - 6/13 - is also a spouse of a DEP.  Hopefully the two of you can travel this journey together since your husbands may PIR together.