My love just left for bootcamp last week.

[Mama Bearr293]

It has been sooo much harder then I thought it would be. :/

Anyone else have a Sailor in bootcamp that left 10-14-11?

Lets chat. I'm in desperate need for a friend that's going through what I am. Mine don't seem to understand nor care much.

[HoldFast86 (Ship 12 Div 325)]

If at all possible write him everyday, I write my husband sometimes more then one letter a day, I'll get one in the mailbox then start missing him horribly and have to write him again but remember, keep the letters as happy as you can. Our guys need to know that we are being strong from them even if we break down even night, Keep a journal of your own so you can write down your fears and hurts...I've had to do that and my husband has only been gone 3wks as of tomorrow. I'm 26wks pregnant so it just harder with the more the baby grows and missing the way he would always talk to my stomach....For me like abuon said below, the first few weeks...and the nights....But this site is great for support because I'm sure your friends that haven't gone through this won't understand exactly and that understanding helps, a lot. I gave some links above, use them, them are great for help as well.

[Mama Bearr293]

Girl I started writing him an hour after he called to say the bus was coming! I completely agree with Aburon18! Writing everyday helps SOO much. I feel alot better. Whenever I feel a cry sesson coming on I just write to him. I got his address today so I feel relieved. And I was soo excited. I can't imagine how excited I'll actually be to get a letter from him and a call!!

Saying goodbye was DEFINITELY hard for me. :/ But not talking to him is killing me. After his mom told me she got his short 5second call to say he was there I LOST it. :[ It's really really hard. And we're in the same boat(haha boat, that made me laugh) I'm totally here for you girl.

We'll get through it together!

[Courtney]

yes i lost it to after i got the call from his mom saying he made it safe. im doing alot  better today though ive set goals for myself like to lose 20 pounds and look smoking for when he sees me again to find myself a better job. im trying to stay strong for  him cause i know he doesnt like it when ive got the whole water works going on as he would call them. its so nice knowing that were all going through the same thing though

[Mama Bearr293]

I've set goals too!! To be inshape and not get fat and lazy while he's gone. haha And to find a job that'll go with what I'm going to school for. We have tons of time to do things for ourselves.

And keeping the thought of seeing him in his uniform next is definitely good incenitive to keep my head up! :] I cannot wait.

[Courtney]

i know same here. what are you going to school for? and where are you from?

yes i look forward to the uniform part!!! im thinkin i want him to wear his dree blues for our wedding :) although they look more black??

[Mama Bearr293]

I sent you a message! :] Easier then having a convo on here. haha

[Courtney]

thanks ladies. and yes no one really under stands beside my sister in law. our brother in law is about to be deployed so she gets me a little more than like my mom who isnt as there as much. mom just tells me i cant cry forever and be down forever which i know i cant its just superrr rough on me right now especially with school and work as well. i already wrote my 1st letter for him and yes im sooooo im patient that im gonna email the recruiter asap to get the 1st on in the mail. my goal is to try and write a letter everyday to him. i cant wait till all this is over so we can plan our wedding!!! thats another thing pushing me through this is knowing we get to get married when hes done with boot and a school :)

[abuon18]

I really wasn't sure how I was ever going to manage to write him a letter a day but it's so much easier than you think! And it's become my favorite part of my day too! I write right before bed so I can tell him everything and put it in the mail first thing the next morning :) Even if all you have to tell him is what you did that day that's more than enough for them! They want to know things are still normal at home and being able to read about what you're doing makes them feel more normal too.

[HoldFast86 (Ship 12 Div 325)]

That is exactly what I do =) I just got my first letter and he was talking about how he can get mail a lot more then he can write...but that is why I do it...not something for me but for him so he can know that he is always on my mind...

[abuon18]

My boyfriend says mail call is his favorite time of the day! The first day they were allowed to get mail he said he received about 10 letters from me, and it was definitely the most in the division and it made him feel really awesome lol. Isn't the first letter so great? You'll be amazed at how much easier it is from this point, when I got my first letter I looked back over the previous weeks and couldn't believe how long he'd already been gone! The days go slow but the weeks go by fast... for both of us! And pretty soon the days will start going by faster too! I hope it was a good letter! A lot of the mom's and gf's of SR's in my division said their first letters were really bad...

[HoldFast86 (Ship 12 Div 325)]

It was really great to get something from him but apparently there have been some issues so I dont know if I can breathe easier now or worry more...is it true that they only get to write on Sunday? And do they have limited time to write? My husband just seemed...rushed. Pregnancy hormones plus worrying too much already isn't a pleasant combination.

[Courtney]

i cant wait to get his first letter!  thats another thing im looking forward to getting me through this all is the letters! hope he gets to write alot more then we anticipate!