fiancee in crisis

[Ari♥]

I´m very sad, I love my fiance and he is the most important person in my life, but im feeling a little bit overwhelmed because we were going to get married soon and now this its the second time we have to postpone the date, i now this is his job and this kind of stuff are going to be happening very often, but how can I plan when I dont have anything stable, everything seems to be against us, the inmigration papers(I´m from mexico), the wedding date, the money, the distance.... i knew this wasnt going to be easy, but now im not so sure im going to be able to handle it, my biggest  fear is  being away the most of the time and start from zero in a new place without friends or family, without job and I´m scared if i cant find anything, i have a career in my country but I don´t know if its valid in USA.
I  think if I start chatting with spouses that are already in the NAVY I can have another point of view and to know im not the only one with this kind of fears.

[Angie]

I am hopping your soon to be husband doesn't have a job that requires a secuirty clearnace as if he marries someone from a different country it can mess up his clearnace and he can loose his job.

 

You all just need to go to the JP if you want to get married, trying to plan a big wedding isn't going to work very well. 

 

Lots of spouses have issues finding jobs with a spouse in the military.  It is hard as you move around alot, also not sure what you do in Mexico but not all college degree's from other countries are seen here as degree's. 

 

 

[Ari♥]

Hi Angie, what you're saying it is another of my worries, I don´t want to be the reason that he lose his job, a few days ago he told me about the security clearance and  they´re going to tell him this friday what it is going to happen with his job if we got married, but im a little bit upset because in september I  went to the base and I had an interview for the security clearance and nobody told us anything about a problem, they asked us if we were planning of getting married soon and I told them we wanted but we doesn´t have the date already, if they had told us about this before, maybe in this moment he could it be finishing in another school were doesn´t need a security clearance.

He is in A SCHOOL in Groton at submarine base, his PIR its in December, do you think he could be expulse from the Navy if we got married, or just move to another job inside the NAVY??

[Angie]

It is a wait and see game...but he won't know until after you get married.  I have seen people who loose their clearnace get another job, but have also seen others get kicked out of the Navy.