My boyfriend asked me to marry him before buds.

[candicemunguia]

 i want to say yes.. what exactly would i be getting my self in to? like being a "navy wife"

[Brittany proud Navy Wife :)]

imo if you love someone you marry them no matter what they "do".. whether youll be a bankers wife, or a navy wife. 

Spec Ops if diff than regular Navy so there will things that you will have to deal with that the rest of us dont. Like if he is a navy seal there may be a time where he has to leave.. he cant tell you where he is going or when he will be back and you have to trust him. But other rates dont have to deal with that, some of us know where and when.

Being a navy wife is what you make of it. So far I love it, and its not really different than before he joined now that we are together at his duty station. Except we are states away from home 

[candicemunguia]

yea hes going for seals. 

yes thats true i just know him being in the navy will be different if he where a banker..because the banker goes "home" everynight.. where as he wont. 

but i get what your saying.

thank you for your help!

[brianna1013 (Ship 11 div 366)]

If me and my husband could go back we would have gotten married before he went to basic. Both of our parents wanted us to wait and we let time pass then he was gone. Once he graduated he told me the date he would be home so I planned for that, that changed a couple times, but we did get married on his leave and left 2 days after that to move to his new command. It was very stressful on me having to plan on my own in 2 weeks but I pulled it off and it was perfect <3 As long as you 2 love each other and you are ready to make that life commitment then I say go for it! Waiting till after basic is good though just to make sure you can withstand the hardship of no communication and the time apart, it made our love grow so much. You can message me if you need anything girl we are all here to help <3

[candicemunguia]

Thank you so much. 

i bought my plane ticket today to to his graduation. and mailed off my first letter 2 days ago once i got his address. it was 35 pages. :) (i started writing him before he left.. id write about the days we were together) and i sent him 10 pictures of the me and the babies i volunteer with a day care :) i miss him so much! but i know it will get easier once i get a letter or a call. i cried he first week and got told i looked emotional dead.. but im doing better. knowing each day im closer to feb 3. i still get choked up when i see the k-y jewelers commercials with the guy whose in the service Lol. hopefully you've seen it or shed a tear watching "ours-taylor swift. 

once again.. thank you..

[Jo (Wife of an ET Radioman)]

My fiance is in Groton, CT for submarine school / A school right now, and that Kay Jewelers commercial makes me cry every time. EVERY time. 

(Nevermind that I think the jewelry being advertised is ugly, lol. My mom thought I was in tears because I thought it was so hideous. My mom is weird.)

[ddsweety]

My husband and I got married before BUDS. It was during one of the weekends he was in pre-buds at Great Lakes. I am from the great lakes area so it made that so much easier for me, yet I still planned the wedding without much help from him. The Navy isn't going to move you out with him until he passes hell week...If I remember right that is like 4-6 weeks after the start of BUDS. During that time, while I waited, I lived with my parents so we could save money.

No matter what your husband/boyfriend ends up being in the Navy, it is very stressful, but I believe love matters more then that so if you want to marry him then marry him. I also believe all the times we have to be away from our husbands makes our hearts want them even more. Good luck!!!

[candicemunguia]

im from texas, thats where hes at right now.

im flying up there the day before his graduation.

i cant deiced if i want to wear a cute vintage 50's sailors dress or go elegant,

i wont be able to move with him due to me getting my bachelors in science for nursing. 

for another couple of years. "/

 thank you so much for your help.!!

[ddsweety]

Wear whatever will make you comfortable because the LAST thing you want is to be self-consious when your supposed to be thinking about your man! :)

That is wonderful! I put off getting my BA because of moving out to CA with my husband and have yet to start again two years later so you are doing the best thing I think.

[Brittany proud Navy Wife :)]

Im from texas two =) I just finished my associates in teaching, and plan on finishing my bachlors here in FL with him. 

Id where something you are comfortable and confident in. Nothing too revealing or sexy, you dont want to be the girl all the other are talking about back in the barracks/bunks or whatever =)

being seperated bcuz of not only the navy but school too will be stressfull, but would be even if you were just dating.. I personally feel like being married just adds the extra security and comfort.  

[candicemunguia]

:) what part?

 & yeah i wont. iv got an appointment on next Thursday at davids bridal to look for a dress. im hoping i find the perfect dress :)

  

Thank you for your advice it really helped me :))

[Jo (Wife of an ET Radioman)]

I'm not officially a NAVY wife yet, but as a fiancee....holy crap. There are days where I know I can be his rock while his world is more or less flipped upside down (still, he's at BESS and A school, basic ended the day before Thanksgiving)...and there are days where I feel like I'm drowning in all the new things I have to learn and deal with and all of the things.

I think it'll be easier once Matt and I are actually married and are in the same city or on the same base. Right now we're about 1000 miles apart. 

I knew when Matt said he was enlisting in the NAVY that I would be by his side for all of it--I can't stand the fact that he's in, but it is what it is. I want him in my life until the end of my days--so I will have to keep my opinions on his enlistment to myself. Complaining and getting up on a soapbox spewing my opinion to him every chance I get will do nothing productive for either of us or our relationship. When it really gets to me, I write it down on a piece of paper and set it on fire (safely, of course!). It helps immensely.

[candicemunguia]

i totally get you

kevin and i are a little more than 1000 miles apart.

:/

i know that when kevin went he was questioning it at first.. but i told him ill support whatever he does.

i think he was only questioning it because he didnt expect it to be that hard on both of us.. but i told him it will get easier.. because i would never want him to think he had to choose between me & the navy. i told him yeah it will be hard..but we can make it.

i mean our realationship is like every normal one.. 

could i ask you a person question?