Ship 11. Div 081

[HannahKathryn17]

Anybody else's boyfriend, fiance, or husband on ship 11 div 081? 

[Missy]

We got his form letter on Friday and I was on it! They can only invite 4 people and he put his dad, mom and me and then wrote a note saying his sister and brother could fight out who got the 4th spot! I was so relieved to be on it. I guess it was one of those paranoia things wondering if he would change his mind or something.

I have a daily countdown on my phone which was probably not a good idea. I do get excited every morning when I wake up and am one day down though.

He also called and left me a voice mail on his way to bootcamp so I listen to that whenever I want to hear his voice. He did it specifically for that reason. He had to take a bus because we only live a little over 4 hrs away from GL.

I might see if his mom will let me snatch up the hoodie that he wore when he left that would of come back in the box. I love it and he wore it often. To be honest I don't think that she thinks of things like that!

[HannahKathryn17]

I really wish I had the relationship with my bf's family that you guys have with yours. That's the kind of relationship he had with my family. Both my family and him cried when he left my house for the last time. He showed more emotion there than he did with his dad when he left after he swore in. Them not communicating with me is making this whole situation harder. But the way I see it, if we can get through these first 2-8 months with little to no help from his parents, we can get through anything.

He gave me his hoodie a few months ago when I went to one of his ultimate frisbee games. It was freezing and I already had a hoodie, but I put it on top of it. He never asked for it back, and I used to hide it when he come in fear he would. He never really wore cologne, but I loved the way his deodorant smell so we got the spray of it and I lounge in it ALL the time. Plus, I spray the giant penguin he won for me. He refers to it as our child. 

One of the first things he said to me after telling me he was leaving in January instead of his original date in March was that I had to promise him that would stay strong, concentrate in school,  and hang out with friends. He also said this countless amount of times at the airport. He HATES seeing me cry, he would always tell me to "stoppeett" in a ridiculous voice, because he knew I couldn't resist laughing. 

[Samantha322]

If your love for each other is strong enough to make it through this, then you can make it through anything. Just keep your head up and wait for that first letter. And write to him everyday, write how your day was, what you did anything just write.

You have to keep in mind that it is hard on him too. He's probably on his one for the first time and now he can't communicate with the outside world in ways that he is used to, so he is counting on you to keep him in contact.

How long is his contract for?

[HannahKathryn17]

Six years. He is doing the nuke program so it is longer. But that doesn't matter anyway seeing as he planning on career. I haven't even seen his form letter, but from what I hear those are the intended guests. They make their final decision later, I think , but I am not 100% positive.

[Missy]

Well hopefully his parents start to loosen up. If he loves you then I think that they should too. It will only put a strain on their relationship with him and who wants that. I have a large family and there have been plenty of boyfriends/girlfriends that my parents haven't liked, but they just get over it because they know that my sister or brother is happy. I am sure that they will come around eventually.

I just can't wait to see him! It's going to be quite the shock too because he has always had a beard (he shaved that off the day before he left and he looked like a totally different person) and pretty long hair so it will be weird to see him with hardly any! After he shaved his beard he kept asking if I still thought he was cute. I think that he looks amazing no matter what! :)

I agree about the getting through anything. Although we haven't been together long he told me on several occasions that if we are still together in 2 years he is marrying me. He figures if we can get through all this Navy stuff then we can get through anything. I totally agree with that. Separation is hard on a relationship, but going through stuff like this only makes it stronger. Your bf's parents should give you credit for sticking this out with him. It is a huge step!

[Samantha322]

His parents got the letter Friday too and I didn't get to see it. His mom just called me and told me what the letter on the back said it was so nice to "hear" from him.

I have a weekly countdown in my phone and that makes me so excited too!

I listen to all the voicemails he has ever left me just to remind me of him.

He also took one of my notebooks before he left, without me knowing, and left me notes in the back of it.

 

[Missy]

The notebook thing is so incredibly sweet. He just posted a bunch of our songs on my Facebook wall right before his recruiter picked him up.

[HannahKathryn17]

I hope so too. It's really hard. The other day I tried to listen to them the other day and my phone deleted them. I as devastated.