Mother in Laws..

[allisonG]

I have a question for you ladies.. Do you get along with your MIL? And if so, what are some secrets to making it work. if not how are you trying to make it better... Here's why I am asking this.. When I first met my MIL she was nice and very talkative and wanted to get to know me and almost attached onto me.. but now.. 4 months into our marriage she treats me like I dont exist! She will email my hubby and most the time he is too busy to respond, so i respond for him, telling her its me. Well she wont email me back.. she will just email him again asking the same thing, as if I never answered her question! I have tried to be nice and friendly but she is starting to put alot stress on us because she is always bugging my hubby! I dont know what else to do! Its like hes 5 yrs old again instead of a grown man! Any advice?

[Smoke]

I don't know.

I get along well enough with his MiL, but I can find common ground with both of his parents because of having too many hobbies. There's also that he's the second of 3 children to be at a greater than 6-hour time difference, so they know how to let go.

The path of least resistance might be to learn how to impersonate your husband even to her... but that's dishonest and won't do anything to fix the problem.

I wish I could offer better advice than to be the bigger person. She might listen if he tells her to play nice.

[allisonG]

so my hubby just emailed his mom telling her to be nice to me and respect me.. we shall see how it goes..

[Smoke]

I just thought about how it might be easier to try and build a bridge with your MiL that doesn't involve your husband.

When I'm talking to either one of his parents, much of the conversation is about whatever projects they have tackled lately, or what project I'm working on. The snippets about what the sailor is doing tends to weave its way naturally into conversations that way.

[annie]

I don't think i get along with my MiL that well. Her only son is in the military and she knows him and i talk often.. but she never makes an effort to call me. He has been deployed for almost a month and she hasn't called me either. I know for a fact that he hasn't called/emailed her too. =( We have been together for 8 years and married for 6 months and it has always been like this. I know how you feel Allison, you are not the only one. I did everything i can.. at least you can say that i did my part.

[Lette]

Wow, Mother in Laws . Mine does not like she says that I am overeducated because I have a Masters Degree. She rarely even calls my husband I think he talkes to her 4 times a year. We are getting ready to have our first child (her grandchild) and I wonder if I should try to make peace with her or leave it alone. My husband say to leave it alone. What do all think?

[KaywaaB]

I looove my mother in law! Shes become one of my really good friends. Which is odd considering we got married before I even met them. I think she has to WANT to have a relationship with you. If shes being bitter for no reason... its nothing you can do to fix it. And sometimes going out of your way makes it more stressful for you. Dont let her get to you.