Help!

[ChayNicole]

So my boyfriend of 4years left about 3 weeks ago. This is the longest I've never been away from him. I'm looking forward to getting some help from some of you guys. His graduation is May 25th which is the day after prom. I have a choice of either going to my senior prom or his graduation. Help? Also when will i be able to talk to him? It was always a touchy conversation when we talked about him and the Navy i was very hard headed when it came down to it nut now i have soo many questions. Anyone out there to help?

[Katie]

Like nearlymaysonet said it's hard to imagine missing your senior prom. I'll tell you this though on a scale of 1-10 moments in my life I will never forget prom rates about -20 and seeing my fiance after 9 weeks and seeing him succeed in such an honorable way ranks in at 50,000. I will never ever forget how proud I was of him. If you have any questions we are all here to help. My advice. Dont' miss this graduation it's absolutely amazing and worth it.

[ChayNicole]

Thank you so much i will keep all of this into consideration ! Im super proud of him for doing all of this. You guys are a great help. Do you know if after graduation he will be able to be with us for a little or do they leave right after?

[Katie]

If he is staying in Great Lakes then he will check in  right away and that will take a couple of hours, however he will have all weekend with you. He will have to check in at nights though. If he's going somewhere else then you will get to go to him right away and he will be able to leave for a certain time on Friday. Find out when and where his flight leaves the next day. My fiance had A school down in San Antonio. So we had friday until about 8 pm and then I figured out what airport he was going to and I spent the day with him on Saturday because his flight didn't leave until 5pm. 

[meagan5220]

I have heard recently they have become more strict about letting the sailors in A school up in Great Lakes about getting the whole weekend. Idk if that is true or not but just a rumor I heard. Knowing what A school will help. He should know closer to the time when he will be leaving. My husband stayed until the tuesday after he graduated but some do leave the next day like Katie said :)

[Ryansgirl12/148]

I am in the Air.Force and I am missing a military ball to attend my fiances graduation. We have that military bond and we understand we both have to make sacrifices for each other. His ambition was to.go active duty but chose not to because I I wad active duty. I love.him everyday for supporting me. Message me if you have questions.

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

here is the link to your PIR group...lots of info about PIR there

http://www.navyformoms.com/group/pir05252012

[meagan5220]

I would choose graduation def... but I wasnt fond of my high school and didnt really care either way about doing anything involved with my school. As far as when you will talk to him it will be when they let him. Sometimes they get a call at three weeks to say "Im alive" and then they give a call after they complete battlestations. that is the "Im a sailor" call. They will get to write letters and send them out every week. As far as questions... there is TONS to know about the Navy you are going to have to be more specific. I would say start researching via google and through discussions on here and then if you have specific questions it will be a lot easier to help you from there.. I could write for pages about even one question. :)

[sea_sick]

Knowing how my senior prom went, I would for sure say graduation. If you have been to prom then you have been to prom and it is as simple as that. Prom is just another school dance with people whose importance is going to being to dwindle quickly. If you think you have a future with your sailor then support him, even if it means missing your prom. It's really about what you feel like you will be most happy with though. 

[sailorwifenmom]

I have a bit of a different perspective on it that you might want to consider.  I'm not saying to go to either of them, or to not go to either of them.  I'm just wanting to give you some things that you might want to think about, because it could affect your decision...

1) Is this someone you anticipate possibly marrying down the line?  In 10 or 20 years, which do you think you're going to regret more - missing this moment in his life, and he's important to you, or giving something up that is important in your life?  It could go either way, depending on you and your personality - and there's nothing wrong with either way.  You're the one that knows which one is more likely to bother you.

2) Since you say that this is your Senior Prom, then I think it's a safe assumption that you are still in high school, very likely still a minor, and even if you aren't, most likely still living with your parents.  What do they say?  Are they even willing to allow you to go to Chicago for the graduation?  Because if they aren't, then, honestly, the decision will be out of your hands. 

3) Is his parents / siblings going?  Because Recruits only get 4 seats, and there's a chance that his family have already called "dibs" on those seats.  (Even though I'm a Navy wive and vet, I'm also a Navy mom, and I know that my son's PIR seats went to me, my husband, and my inlaws... 

I would encourage you to talk to your parents and to his parents, and see what they think, and then make your choice based on that input and on what your own knowledge of you and your boy friends personalities are. 

Either way, good luck to  you, and congratulations :-)

[NavyDoll Ebony]

Well, im sorry to disagree with everyone else but i say go to your prom. Prom is a big thing in a girls life just like getting married is. You only get one chance to do it for the first time. With your bf, there will be other navy events and times where he will get speacial awards and ceromonies and things like that, that you can attend. When you look back on your life years from now, u want to be able to remember all those memories that u and your friends shared at prom. Whose to say u and your sailor will be together long frm now(Not saying it wont happen, u just never know). This is YOUR life and u need to be able to cherish these moments that ARE milestones in a girls life. Your bf will understand. I bet he got to go to his Sr Prom. In the end u will choose what u want but i think theres only ONE Senior Ball and u dont want to miss out on all your high school experience.

[ChayNicole]

Thank you all so much for the help ! He actually wrote his mom today and is totally depressed. I most liky wont be able to go to his graduation because they only get a certain amount of tickets but thinking positive when hes done with A school hoefully ill see him then. This guy means alot to me and even if i miss his gradatuon the same as hes missing both of mine. I know for a fact he will understand. Thank you all again!!!!! I will have questions as soon as i get to talk to him more.