Missing my son

[susang (Ship 04 Div 815)]

I am new to this whole thing and not sure what to do. It is a huge adjustment to go from seeing, talking to my son everyday to not! I know he is on a road that will take him to his goal. He has worked so hard for so long for this opportunity. I am really happy for him but I am having a really tough day. I really, really miss him. It has been bitter sweet since he left almost 2 weeks ago. I will be glad when I can navigate through this web site. I think it is really going to help me get through the next few weeks :) 

[ReneeBC]

susang.

If you stay on the main bootcamp group there will always be someone there to direct you and listen.  In addtition, once you know your son's PIR date, you can join that group as well.  Then there is the specific ship/division group where you will find moms and wives travelling the same path with sons/daughters/spouses who bunk and train as well as graduate together.  This group will also have a "closed" facebook page where you are able to talk openly about your SRs with one another.

We are all a teary messy at times, some days more, some days less, but we are always here for eachother.  Is your son's PIR date the 6th or 13th of July?  What is his ship/div #  I can't say it enough...write to him every day (even before knowing his address), as it is cathartic for you and a necessity for him.  Your relationship with your son sounds like mine with my son.  Just put pen to paper and say whatever you would have said outloud, but on paper.  Describe stupid commercials, something you might have told him about that you saw driving down the road, describe an episode of a favortite tv show you watched together, what you're fixing for dinner, just say it on paper.  He will love it and probably share your letters with others!    

You are welcome to message me anytime!  Your son is going to be surprised at how much you know/ have learned while he's been gone.  He will be proud of you, too!

[mn navy mom]

I didn't find this site until week 5 of my son being gone. Those first 5 weeks were horrible for me because I felt alone and that nobody understood what I was feeling. I had so many people tell me"I know how you feel. When I took my kid to college I was a wreck" One day I snapped! It is NOT the same when they go to college you can talk, text and email everyday if you want with BC you cannot for 8 weeks. Finding this site was the best thing that had happened to me. And a week ago was my son's PIR. The first 2-3 weeks are the worst and after that you will be getting letters and sending letters. And before you know you will get the real phone call! Then it's PIR. Try to keep your letters up beat also some kids, like mine, will worry and not be able to stay focused.

Please know that you are not alone we ALL know how you are feeling. Feel free to friend me I'm still a newbie but will do my best to help.

 

[Jaime A-Corpsman St. MOM]

I think, it WILL really help you. ESP as you learn what he's going through and begin your connections. I really feel for you, it'll be Ok! Yes, write often, find jokes to send, you will be able to laugh too! This site has been great, but the FB group has been very helpful too. YOU are not alone! My son has 3 more weeks left of BC. Will be so happy when that day arrives! I have been amazed at the wealth of information on here. Has made time fly by much quicker too.

[stormy1123 ship 12 div 203]

susang, I DO know exactly how you feel. My son was the only one of my 3 boys who stayed around here so even tho he had his own apt., we talked, texted, or saw each other every day. After he left, it was like losing my best friend. My husband, who is never sentimental like me, felt the same way. After 2 weeks, I felt he had completely fallen off the face of the earth. Then, this last week, things started looking better...we got 3 letters from him all at once, I started learning how to get around this site, and PIR started sounding closer.  I promise you, my dear, it WILL get better. Do I still have bad days? YES, but I don't feel that tremendous ache and sadness that I felt before. Just get on here, read the comments, and it will help ease the worry. We're all in this together!

[Sharon-Erin's Mom]

Hang in there Susang. I miss Erin like crazy too. Have you gotten your form letter yet? I don't have any awesome words of wisdom, just know that you are not alone. Our kids are where they want to be and achieving great things.

[IndyMom]

   My son left a day after yours.  He and I are very close and it has been very hard since I say him almost everyday.  I got the box, but have not gotten a letter yet either.  I think the holiday and midweek start for our kids, has but things back for them.  I just wish I knew how to send a letter.  We have about another week and hopefully then we will get a call.  hang in there....

[kathyrc(Ship03DIV175)PIR 6/08/12]

susang - Hang in there...It does get better.  It's easier if you go in prepared to not hear anything for the first 3 weeks. You may get a letter shortly before that, but not a phone call - unless they need information.  No news is good news is a great motto to go by, but it is very difficult.  After you get the first letter, you do feel better.  The first phone call is wonderful and then its hard, but not quite as hard.  Soon after, the time passes quickly.  I can't wait for my sons PIR (graduation) in two weeks!!