Boyfriend left 6/25/12...need some support!!

[dukelvr]

Okay, so I'm brand new to this site and let me just say, it's comforting to know that others are going through the same thing I am. However, the pain is still here and I can't seem to escape from it. I've dated my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we did have a break in that time frame. During that time is when he decided to sign up for the navy. Lets just say, I was devastated. I always told myself I wouldn't date someone in the military, now look at me. So like I said, he left on Monday the 25th, today is Saturday the 30th, and all I seem to know how to do is cry. He called me at 12:45 EST (so technically early, early Tuesday morning). It was a minute phone call and he said he would call me in 2 weeks, I hope that's true. I've already written him a letter, even sent him FB messages even though he wont get it for 8 weeks. I just feel horribly alone right now, and my biggest fear is that we are going to grow apart and he wont want me anymore. Thinking that upsets me more and brings on a waterfall of tears. These 2 weeks are going to be hard, since we can't have any calls or letters. I just wanted to hear other stories and if there is any advice y'all can give me. I'm trying to stay busy, but it doesn't seem to help. It seems like I think of him every minute of the day, and I just can't get him out of my head. I'm worried, scared, and I just want that feeling to end. I'm already picturing when he calls me and I feel like all I'll be able to do is cry because I've missed his voice so bad. But anyway, sorry for the rant. I just feel like I could meet others that understand what I'm going through. Anything will help!!!

[TeamChas]

My boyfriend left 6/26/12. I am here for you if you need to talk! We can count down the 8 weeks together!

[dukelvr]

Yes, definitely! I'm not sure where he is staying yet, his mom is going to get all that information (hopefully soon!) But it would be awesome if our boyfriends were staying in the same place!

[kling]

Dukelvr I PROMISE you, it will get a little easier with each day that passes...It might seem like 2 weeks is going to be forever right now because he just left, but if you stay busy and write him letters when you're missing him, those 2 weeks will go by quicker than you think. :) If you two have been together for 2 years before boot camp and were pretty solid before he left, haha I don't think boot camp will diminish that one bit. They are literally isolated from everything, and he'll be missing you as MUCH as you're missing him.

My boyfriend left in April, a week short from us being "officially together" for 2 months, so I had the exact same concerns about us growing apart. I couldn't stop crying for the first entire week and I seriously thought those 8 weeks were going to be absolute hell. It turns out though that writing to him helps, and you come to look forward to the Wednesday/Thursday you get those letters because boot camp turns even the manliest man into big sappy romantics :P

Oh... And about that phone call he said he'd give you in 2 weeks...I'm sure this won't help...but please, please don't expect it because if it doesn't come, you'll be crushed....Phone calls are unpredictable and a privilege in boot camp so he can't really be SURE that he can call you in 2 weeks before he starts :/ BUT, if you don't expect it and you get one, it'll be a pleasant surprise instead of a disappointment when you don't :)

[dukelvr]

Yeah, we started dating back in September 2010. We dated for over a year and then we broke up for like half a year! Honestly, we just officially started dating again on June 3rd, even though we acted like a couple when we  were on break (The only reason we took the break is because I was overwhelmed with school). And I would love to think he is missing me as much as I am missing him, but I feel like he is too busy to be worrying about that.

So do you always get his letters on Wednesdays and Thursdays?? I wasn't sure..but I did read online and on the forums that apparently they can only write on Sundays?

And about the phone call, I'm trying not to get my hopes up! But even when we were on a break we would talk everyday!! See, the one of the hardest things for me right now is waking up and not having a sweet "Good Morning" text from him. I always pull my phone out, expecting something from him. 

I've been picturing the first phone call I will get from him. All I see is me crying though!! I hope I can stay strong for him, but I'm such an emotional wreck. I would ask you about A-School, but I'm kinda a little confused about it. I know my boyfriend was going to be doing something with computers, but I don't know if that's too broad of a subject...if you have any idea I would appreciate it! I've also been reading about C-School, but I don't think he is doing that? I've never heard of C-School, so I hope that's not something he is doing. He told me he would be gone like 6 months...that's all I really know right now.

[kling]

Oh, he'll be kept suuper busy for sure, but he'll be missing you just as much, I promise. I thought the same thing, but he would write in every letter to write him as often as I could 'cause it was the best thing to get back to after the long day.

And yup! I always got mine on Wednesday, starting the 3rd week he left. They can write after TAPS if they want to, but the letters only get sent out on Sundays for the first few weeks. After a while though, if his division does well, they'll be able to send out letters more often during the week :)

Mine would send me good morning texts too! I got all excited, then sad whenever I got a text from someone else in the morning for awhile. You could compensate for that by writing "Good morning" or "Good night" or both on each of your letters and on days that you don't just put a "x however many days" afterwards. Haha, it became a game for us to see who could keep track of the days.

And I can definitely help you with getting more general info about A School :) He's a Nuke, so I'm not sure if your boyfriend's A School will be the same time-wise. But if you can get through these next 8 weeks, A School really is a lot easier to go through! 

[dukelvr]

What is "TAPS"? Sorry, I guess I don't know that much about this whole navy thing lol. And that's a really cute idea about writing the "Good Morning" stuff! I'm trying to think of new things I can send him. And I hop A-School will be easier to get through! At least we have the phone, and I plan on getting a webcam so we can skype :) I just wish that time was now!! 

[kling]

TAPS is lights out, lol don't worry, I'm a huge newbie on it too. I only know some of it 'cause he wrote me a letter with a glossary of Navy lingo I'll probably hear him say. :)

Oh! Send him pictures and funny things from the internet, mine seemed to enjoy those. He likes to sing to me, so I wrote out the lyrics to our favorite songs. Any ideas for yours?!

And believe me, A School is waay easier to get through. You'll get there! He'll be able to talk to you nearly every day there :)

[dukelvr]

So your boyfriend is out of boot camp, right? How far along is he in everything? And honestly, I can't think of any songs that are actually "ours" haha. But I wasn't sure if I could send him funny things from the internet or whatever. I read online how this woman sent her son the Sunday funnies from the newspaper, and apparently the guy in charge took it and wouldn't let the son keep it..I thought that was pretty messed up.

[kling]

Yup! Actually, he finished exactly a month ago (whoa, time seriously does fly, I just realized it's been a MONTH already!). He's now in A School at South Carolina and since he's a Nuke, I believe he'll be there for at LEAST a year, if not more. I think Nuke's have 6 months of A School, 6 months of Power school, and then another 6 months or so of Prototype? 

Aww, don't worry about the songs beings specifically yours :) I started to just write him a bunch of lyrics from songs I knew he liked or just to mess with him, he used to get a few songs stuck in his head that he NEVER knew the words to, so I would purposely stick random lines of those songs in my letters to get them restuck in his head xD

About the funny things - it really all depends on his RDC. I sent him a buuunch of internet clippings along with a few pictures of us, and he said that he never got in trouble for them. People told me to just send them until he tells you not to because he's gotten in trouble. Most of the time, if your letters aren't too thick and are in standard letters without flashy things on them, they don't even check them. :)

[dukelvr]

Wow, he's going to be gone that long!? That seems like forever! I wish I knew for sure how long my boyfriend would be gone for. I want to say half a year, but I honestly have no idea. And that was another thing I was curious about, the letter size. I didn't know how big or small the letter had to be. 

[kling]

Oh! I used a standard 4x9 envelope and I guess that was fine, but he used the smaller ones. I think either works just fun :) Mainly, just don't use BIG envelopes and if you have a thick letter to send or multiple ones, send them in multiple envelopes

[kage39]

Staying busy really is the best thing you can do right now. Right now im on week four out of 8 since my boyforned left and trust me i was in ur same shoes. I would cry constantly and mope around all day. But then i forced a schedule out of myself. Im about to go to college so right now i have a bunch of free time for the summer but what i found helped me was making a stroct schedule to stick to, for example every morning inwork out, then i do stuff around the house, then do an activity fir a while, like with friends or just crafty stuff u know? Then maybe i bake smething, then write my boyfrined a letter everyday. I completely understand missing his voice, the first phone call he got he couldnt call me and i was so jealous kf his parents butbthen i got his first letter and those letters really help. It also helps to mark off the days on ur calandar, at least i think so. Being without such a significant person in ur life is devastating i know, but every tiem u hear from them or see them just makes u stronger and makes ur heart soar. My boyfriend and i actually broke up when he left but over our letters, weve gotten back together. Distance brings people closer together :)