Trying to plan this wedding.

[trentsbaby]

My fiancee is in basic his PIR is Oct. 19th then he goes to pensacola for school. Should our family come to pensacola and have a small wedding there one weekend or what do I need to do. My grandfather is going to marry us.

[Le Shelby]

Is he going to be there long? Or are you able to wait until you and him have more information about when he can leave base or even get leave to come home

[trentsbaby]

I don't know. I have my house for sale and this lady is coming to look at it tuesday and if she wants it then she will have it bought and be moved in by the end of march. So we wanted to go ahead and get married so we can get housing and all takin care of so i can move when it comes time.

[trentsbaby]

He will be there 2 months

[Anti M]

They won't give you housing, you'll get BAH for a rental. That takes time to get the paperwork through, it is not an instant payment.  A few weeks/ a couple pay cycles.   He won't be allowed to live offbase, his time there is too short to be a brown bagger, although he can apply anyway.  Don't plan a marriage for the first weekend, he won't have earned his liberty privileges that fast.  Also, he must ask permission to marry, and it will be granted, but they may want him to do a course or see the chaplain.  He should get on that special request chit as soon as he checks in to P-cola.  With an A school that short, he may get his follow on orders during boot camp.  What rate will he be?

If his A school is over the holiday, he will come home on leave for ten days~two weeks.  All the schools shut down for Christmas.  I suggest you hold off planning too much until he gets to his A school, checks in, and finds out his holiday schedule.  

[trentsbaby]

I't makes it hard because of the holidays and all my family is in lousiana and I live in alabama

[abuon18]

Wait until he graduates boot camp and gets settled in A school before you start trying to plan. It's just going to make you crazy right now trying to figure all of this out when you need to talk to him. He is the only one who can tell you when and where. Once he gets to Pcola he has to earn liberty phases before he has weekends free. Even if you want until the end of October to plan you will have plenty of time before you have to be moved out of your house. Yes you will be able to get married while he is in A school but no one except your boyfriend can give you a time frame and worrying about it now when he's not available to answer your questions is just going to drive you crazy!

[trentsbaby]

He is in aviation mechanics we were going to have an outside wedding on the beach in pensaola but i didn't know if he could leave the base for the weekend during a school. I am just really stressed cause my family and friends want to know what they need to plan for so they can travel and all. I will keep that in mind I just want to make sure we have a place to live when my house is sold.

[sailorwifenmom]

I know it's hard, because they are all asking you for info and wanting to make plans, but this is one of those things about military life - you have to be able to be flexible, because the military schedule has to come first, and until he gets there, and gets started, he's not going to know what that schedule is.  I know that there are several schools in Pensacola, at 2 different bases there, and they have different requirements for how long their various phases are.  My son just left there a few months ago, and he phased up a lot faster than his friends that were going to the aviation schools. 

If your family keeps giving you a hard time about it, and it's very important for them to be there, yet you're trying to get the money legalities worked out, it might end up being best if you wait until he gets there, gets squared away, then get married, either by your grandfather or at the courthouse, and get the legalities worked out.  Then, plan to have a re-dedication ceremony at the beach like you plan, when you're able to get more of a "heads up" for planning purposes.

Like I said, I know it can be hard, I can't tell you how many times over the years I've been left in a bit of a Navy limbo, waiting for more info to work its way down to us about what was going on before we could make plans, but it's just something we have to work around :-( 

Also, the ladies are right, unless his school is 6 months long or longer, he won't be authorized to have family there with him.  You will start getting BAH, but it gets a bit tricky when they aren't authorized family at their duty station and you are trying to live there, as far as all that goes.  It might be better if you look at either renting a place short term where you are once you sell your house, or putting your stuff in storage and staying with family and friends until he finishes his school and gets orders. 

I know this isn't the good news or easy solution that you were probably hoping for, and I am sorry about that :-(  I do hope that it helps you though (at least you know what you are up against for planning purposes), and that you do get the wedding you want with your family and friends there! 

[Ashley-PO2 Spouse]

Honestly, I'd try to just plan to stay home with family and then come down for a weekend or two. There isn't a whole lot of time for them to get off base, and you'll spend a lot of time alone. Even though my school was only four months, I ended up there for eight because I got sick. You should get married before he picks his orders though. It will make it easier for you to be on his orders.