Fiancé goes to bootcamp tonight

[Juliette]

So my finance should be in Chicago right about now. He didn't take his phone with him but he called me at the airport before his flight took off earlier this evening. He won't be able to enter bootcamp till around midnight as he told me so he'll be waiting around at the Chicago airport for a few hours before they pick him up. He said he'd call me once more tonight once they land. As I speak I'm waiting on his call. My question is this, do all the recruits get a phone call to home once they arrive? I'm having a hard time already and he's only been gone for two days and I miss him terribly :( I'm just hoping I hear his voice till there's that few weeks of total silence till we get to speak again. What should I expect? I'm so dreading the last call but I'm also hoping he gets to make it so we can talk for the last time...

[ZeeKittiKat Ship2Div950]

Yeah I had exactly 59 seconds with my husband when he finally got to the base.. it was around midnight ish.. Dont worry he will call... ^_^

[Juliette]

they call with a scripted call? I know they can't exactly talk long but still....

[abuon18]

It will be after 10 pm, it will be a minute or less and yes it is scripted. It's literally just to say they got there. They will have instructors yelling at them in the background to get off. You will not have time to actually talk and barely enough to say I love you.

[Juliette]

god that's awful...i guess it's enough to know he called me when he arrived at the airport. How hard does this get? I'm really dreading the 2 months of no contact except the letters...it's insanely depressing to me...It's only day two and I'm overly sad about everything and miss him incredibly bad....especially since we lived together, I feel so lonely...

[abuon18]

I felt the same way but I promise you it DOES get better! When my husband first left I couldn't imagine feeling better or it getting easier but it does! I wrote to him every night, as if I was talking to him in person, and once you receive your first letter you will be on cloud nine! Once you get that first letter it gets 100 times easier!

[Jenn_NicksWifey]

Expect something very short.  I missed my hubbies call and got a voicemail that sounded scripted.  He said something like, "Hi, I made it safely.  In about 3 weeks, you'll get a box and a phone call.  Love you, bye."  He was wrong on the box part, it only took 3 days.  I did get another call from him a week later but it was because he needed some copies faxed and when I asked if everything was ok, he said, "This isn't a chit-chat call".  I assumed that he had supervision.  I got a real "chit chat" call from him at about the 3 week mark.  That was nice, we got to talk for about 45 minutes.  One thing that really helped me get through bootcamp was writing to him every day.  I wrote about everything, like I was talking to him.  He said it made a big difference knowing he had such a supportive wife who took the time to write to him every day.  A lot of the other guys got "dear John" breakup letters. 

Good luck, you can make it!!  Feel free to message me if you want. 

[Juliette]

I def will have my phone at my ear tonight so I get his call. I'd feel awful to miss it, even if it's very short and scripted. I just want to hear his voice one more time before it goes silent. That's my fear...the silence. And being alone and just missing him terribly while he's in bootcamp. It seems so far away and an eternity right now until he graduates...it's an awful feeling. I definitely will be writing him every night so i have plenty of letters to send him once i can start sending them out. It's like you said, it feels like you are talking to him - and thats a good feeling. I hope time passes more quickly than it seems...I feel like waiting will just make it drag so badly!

[Juliette]

So..unfortunately I never received my phone call from bootcamp when he arrived. He did call me on someone's cell phone when he landed in Chicago, but it was a quick conversation because he was getting ready to head out. Why no call from boot camp? I stayed up waiting for that call too....I wonder if he didn't think it was necessary to call me so late since we talked when he landed. He did say, you know I'm here now and landed safely so if you don't hear from me at boot camp know that I'm okay....But still, I wanted that call :( Now I have to go that drastic 2-3 weeks with no contact from him at all. This will be the hardest part I assume? When should I expect my first letters from him? I've already started to write to him....So I will have stuff to send him once I get his address...

[Anti M]

It probably was not his choice.  If they get in a lot of recruits to begin processing late at night, the time for calls vanishes.  They only get a short scripted call anyway, can't even say I love you most of the time.  In the rush and chaos, someone often doesn't get to the phone.  Never attribute a motive to Navy procedures.  It simply is what it is...

[Juliette]

Yeah i figured as much....because i knew he would have called me. Oh well. So again, when can I expect his letters? He left in the middle of the week, and got there yesterday...so maybe the first week of October? or is that too soon...?

[Juliette]

I dont think I'll get a box to be honest with you. My fiance virtually left with nothing lol. He took his worst clothes and shoes, and didn't bring his cell phone. They had told him he would have the opportunity to ship it all back once he arrives, or just donate it - and I think he wanted to donate it. But who knows, maybe I'll still get it back? Not sure...but you seemed to receive a letter pretty quick. I'm hoping the same. I just wondered about the call from bootcamp - i assumed it was out of his hands....but still terrible that he wasn't offered one call home...oh well. I guess I just have to move on, which isn't easy. I'm so worried about him :( But I agree, I met some kind people through here that's helped me very much....because nobody else in my family or friends understand this lifestyle yet...I'm still getting used to it!

[abuon18]

Trust me-if there was something wrong he would have called. He is alright if you didn't hear anything.... One thing about bootcamp is "no news is good news" is 100% true! If you don't hear anything then you can assume he's safe, not hurt, sick, etc.