Who will get the letter?

[Michelle]

Hello Ladies,

So the hubby has been gone for a week now and I am dying to get that letter that lets me know were he is and where I can start mailing these letter to. Me and my husband were both living at our parents house before he left so I am wondering where the letter will be sent, will I receive it or will it be sent to his mother's house??? His "life in a box" was sent to my house so that's what has me kind of confused about where the letter will be sent. 

[abuon18]

Where ever he addressed it.

[Michelle]

I know that the letter he writes and physically puts my address on will make it to me, my question was referring to the form letter the Navy sends that states the address that he is in where we can send out our own letters to them. Since we are married they have my address on the paper work but his mother's address is also on file because that is where he was staying before he left to boot camp. So I'm confused as to where they would send it since both of our addresses are on file. 

[Angie]

He addresses the forum letter that goes out, so where ever he sends it.

[Michelle]

Thanks Angie! 

[abuon18]

Yes the form letter, whatever address he writes on it is where it will get sent.

[mollybub]

If the Box came to your house, I'm going to assume the letter will be sent to your house as well. I know how you feel about wanting that letter to come, because my fiance's took thirteen days - felt like forever! But when it does come, you will feel so relieved. It was the first time I cried happy tears since he had gone! I hope you get that letter soon!

[Michelle]

Thank you so much Molly! Yes the wait is HORRIBLE I'm really hoping that letter does get sent here, there's alot of people that live in his mother's house and alot of times letters get misplaced and I would HATE for that to happen to happen to this letter. 

Did you actually receive his written letter to you on the 14th day or just the form with the address? 

[mollybub]

While I obviously can't know for sure, I'm fairly confident you'll get the form letter at your house. It's the recruit who chooses the address, and if he chose your house for the Box, it only makes sense that he'd send the form letter to you as well, you know? :)

The form letter came on day thirteen, and there was nothing from him at all - definitely was NOT in his handwriting, haha. The most valuable information in the form letter is his graduation date, the list of people he puts down to attend graduation (he can only have four), and of course, his address. From what I understand, letters written directly from the recruit don't come until around the third week. I'm just beginning the third week, on day fifteen - yes, I'm counting every one, haha - and anxiously waiting for some news from my fiance.

I understand how you feel, too, in a way, because the box and the form letter were sent to my fiance's parent's. He was living there when he left, and I'm guessing he didn't think I would want those sent to me - honestly, I didn't think I would either, but I'm seeing now that it's so hard going through his parents. They have been great and like a second set of parents to me as well, but it feels to me that this should largely be between my recruit and me. Maybe a bit selfish, but we're planning to get married in the next couple of months. Sorry that this turned in to my own little rant - I just always have way too much to say!

[Michelle]

Thanks so much! I completely understand how you feel, I am on the exact boat as you I count every day too and count down till I see him, I'm only on day 8 and 51 more days till I see him. I don't think your being selfish its just a natural feeling to want to feel that one on one connection with him without needing to involve other people. I wish you all the best in your wedding!! Me and my husband decided to get married before he left just to make everything a little easier since we have a little girl together. I'm planning on moving out to where he is once he's in A school but getting through these 2 months is what's killing me. I honestly did not think it would be this tough I thought "2 months is nothing it'll fly by" but boy was I wrong. 

[mollybub]

It's all about the count down! Haha, it keeps my spirits up, to think of finally getting my arms around him again. Thank you for your good wishes! While I think doing it the way you guys did, getting married before he left, is really smart, and sometimes I wish we had...I know it wouldn't have been the right thing. We have to go through this separation, almost like a test to our relationship, and come out on top together. But my situation is totally different, since we don't have a child - it seems to me like you did the right thing for your little girl :) 

Believe me...I know. All summer, I kept telling my fiance, it's just eight weeks. No big deal. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks, and I'm missing him so badly. It's why I'm going through so much research about getting married while he's in A school. This experience has totally confirmed to me that we are meant to be together, and I know my recruit feels the same way.

[mollybub]

That's interesting - is it REALLY my recruits handwriting on that form letter? Haha I'm shocked! I just looked over the form letter, and now that you say that, I can see some of my fiance in the letters. Is that crazy to say? I remember the way he wrote his capital Ls and and Ds, and his 2's and 6's... Maybe I'm just trying to connect with him, since I have heard nothing from him yet, but I swear I see it!