Honestly?

[RobsPrincess12]

Is the first week the worst or does it feel like this the whole time. Today is our first weekend apart (he left on the 5th) and I literally think I'm going crazy lol. Any advice?

[Dina0106]

The first week really is the worst. You are just starting out and can't really see the end even though you know it's coming. You have recent memories of being together that sting the loneliness you are already feeling. It gets better, because honestly you have no choice really but to find a way to move on while you are waiting. Keep yourself busy, even though for me even while I was busy, I was still miserable. The only solace I found in my first few weeks was sleep, and anticipating my first letter. You should join your PIR group as soon as you know his grad date, I love my PIR group. When I can't post anything relevant in this group, I can always go there and post knowing we're all in the same boat.

[Eryn]

It does get better. The first few weeks were the worst, then the end of the first month was better, this second month has been even better. Some days are as bad as the first few, but not many. So things that will make you happy and don't dwell on the fact that he's not there, keep yourself busy so the time goes faster. When you are having a bad day just cry and let it all out and then move on. Think of things you can do together after graduation, etc. Even though you don't have his address you can start writing and mail it when you do. Always be encouraging, print out pictures on computer paper and send them, send funny pictures like memes or something you know he will enjoy. If you're having a bad day you can tell him but my advice is to do it in a way that's more like "Well today sucked, I miss you a whole lot and work was annoying (or something bad that happened) But I'll be just fine, I'll sleep it off tonight and tomorrow will be better!" It's just a really hard time for them and it would be easier if he wasn't too worried about everyone back home. Get something in the mail everyday if you can, even if it's short. I sent a bunch of stamps and envelopes and with each of my letters I send a self addressed stamped envelope. I also send a piece or two of note book paper in my letters. If he writes a lot he may run out of those before he gets another NEX trip. If you have any questions everyone on here will do their best to answer you and if you haven't yet find the group for everyone that will have the same graduation date as you (or you might have to wait until the form letter comes for there to be a group, I don't know how that works because I knew his graduation date before I joined here).

[EmilyNicole98]

It gets sooo much easier after the first three weeks and you start getting letters...I was miserable that whole time but I wrote him every single day and it helped. Whenever I had a really bad day, I would write him a letter blowing off steam but then I would throw it away. By the time I finished writing it, I had usually calmed down and was able to write him a letter that was more upbeat! Sometimes you need to throw on a sad movie and just cry, but most days you need to throw yourself into activities and being around people even when that's the very last thing you want to do. Be prepared to sob over his first letter, lol. By the time you get it, bootcamp will be almost half over and the second half flies right by. Once he's in school you'll be able to text/call him and talk to him online, so it's not hard like it is now. Keep your chin up! :)

[sailorwifenmom]

It does get better.  The best way to get through it is to just stay busy, let yourself have your time to cry, but don't let that be all you do, and give it time.  Right now, you're in the emotional disorganization stage, but this stage doesn't last forever!

It's pretty long, but here's a link to a post from awhile back that talks about the different emotional stages that are common, so you can have sort of an idea as to what to expect.

http://www.navyformoms.com/group/girlfriendsfianceswivesofsailors/f...

[bittersweet914]

Time will heel most of the emptiness that you are experiencing. My SR is on week 3 now and I can’t tell you how many time I broke down emotionally from just the thought of him being away bur with the support from this site and writing him every day, and I mean EVERYDAY! It had balanced out. One you get his invite and graduation day you will be a little more at ease because you can count down the days like im doing in less than 1 hour I will have 39 days until he graduates. Just please understand that you will not hear from him and the only form of communicating is writing, I was checking my phone every second for the first week thinking he was going to call, I did get luck he got to call after a week of being there and it was extremely short (19 secondss to be exact). It will get better! Stay busy! Pray! Be understanding and Humble!

[RobsPrincess12]

I got that phone call today! I was soooooo happy just to hear his voice! It was like, "Hi.....ok bye" but it meant the WORLD to me lol! 18 seconds and Im smiling from ear to ear!