Can I make it?

[SailorsTrueLove]

Can't stop crying. My babe is leaving today. I knew this day was coming but it came too fast and I am not ready. How can I soothe this pain in my heart? How will I be able to go through my day without being able to pick up the phone and call/text my babe? Or go in the house and see that gorgeous face that I love so deeply

[Le Shelby]

One thing we all have in common on here is that we ALL made it through the two months that our other half was gone at boot camp. No constant communication will be hard for a while but then you get to write letters back and forth, and get a couple phone calls, then graduation day comes and i swear its a day youll want to relive again! Keep busy, with friends/work/school, any hobbies, etc. No words may comfort you right now and i found the first 2 weeks to be the hardest but just stay positive (and busy!) and itll be over soon.

[SailorsTrueLove]

Thank you so much for your words. I am glad that someone understands because my friends haven't been through this so they really don't know how I feel right now. Its great to know I am not alone with the feelings I am having

[SailorsTrueLove]

Thank you for that. I think writing the letters will help some. I may have like 20-30 letters wrote before I get the address LOL.

[sailorwifenmom]

First, (((hugs))) I know this is hard right now, and it will be hard for awhile, but it does get easier!

Second, like the other ladies have said, keep busy! That will help a lot.

Also, try to avoid looking at it as two months. You can't do the whole two months all at once, so don't try to. All you can do is one day at a time, so all you need to focus on is getting through that day, and ahem that gets to be too much, just get through that hour, or the next 5 minutes.... You can handle ANYTHING for 5 minutes!


I find showers to be very helpful. When it gets to be too much, I take a hot shower - as hot as I can stand it, and I just stand in there and cry. Let it all out. Then, as the water starts to get cold, that's my cue to start "wrapping it up" and stop crying, get out of the shower and go DO something - anything - other than sitting around crying some more. Clean a closet, go to a move, go for a walk with a friend, etc.

Realize that sometimes, it's ok to have a bathrobe and cereal for dinner day. But if every (or even most or half) of your days are like this, you might want to find some help.

Last, and in some ways most important, do NOT tell yourself you can't do this. You CAN AND WILL make it through this. You are stronger than you think, but if you keep saying "I can't" then you'll convince yourself that you can't, which will only make it worse. Because, and this is NOT meant harsh, but at this point, you have no other choice but to do it and make it through. He's going, that isn't changing, so you either do 2 months without him or you end the relationship and do forever without him... You WILL do it, because you have to. And you CAN come out of this stronger and more committed to each other than ever.

I have faith in you!

[SailorsTrueLove]

Thank you so much and that is true. I really have to believe that I can get through this. I know the time will pass but its just hard to look up and not see my babe looking back at me. Or the I love you text messages just because. Oh thank you for the shower idea.

[Wynona]

I actually feel kinda like this today too. My husband is gone for about a week. You know, no calls and texts. Or of course no physical touch. I really miss him. Sometimes I break down and cry too. 

[SailorsTrueLove]

I would really love to be able to talk to someone who understands. I cussed out one of my friends a little because she said that exact thing. She missed her boyfriend and he was coming right back. I told her you don't know how lucky you are that he is coming right back in a couple of hours.