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My man left for the RTC last Wednesday, and I'm missing him like crazy. But that's not what I need help with. I can't get my family ( my mother in particular) to realize what the two of us have is serious. We are both in our mid-20s, both have college degrees, and we made the decision for him to enlist together. We saw that this would be the only way we could both stand on our feet and get ourselves going.

Two weeks before he left, I moved out of my parents house and into an apartment beside where I work. The day I moved out, my mom looked at me like I was 18, and said that I need to end this meaningless thing and get my priorities straight. I looked at her and said that he loves me, and that's all that matters. I wouldn't be putting myself through this if I didn't think it was the real thing. We are planning on getting married at some point in the next coming year. Whether it be during A-school, on his leave, or after we are playing by ear to see when its going to be easiest.

How have you ladies dealt with difficult family situations? I just watched my best friend go through her entire family hating her now husband as of Saturday, and I fear I'm about to go through the same. Any ideas would be appreciated.

Thanks!

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Parents can be difficult.  My dad tried to get my aunt the social worker to "talk" to me about my second marriage... at age 30.  Then he met my fiance, saw the diamond pendant and drove us to Vegas.  My MIL, on the other hand... well, e don't live in the same state for a reason.

Let your mom know you love her and respect her, but at this point in your life, you must make your own adult decisions.  Even if you make a mistake, it is your own mistake to make and to learn from.  Not saying you're making a mistake, but that's what she sees.  Chin up!  Prove your actions are smart and a path to a great future.

Touchy subject.  I do not envy your position.  If it were me, and of course I do not know you or your family...  I would simply say, "I'm an adult and these are my decisions to make.  You have two choices.  You can be there for me and be supportive or you can choose not to.  I know you want what's best for me.  I believe this is best for me."  Hopefully, when you put your foot down and show them that you mean what you say, they will begin to see you as an adult.  If she chooses to not be supportive, when she starts ragging on your decisions, say something like, "You have a right to your opinion, but I really don't want to discuss this with you."  Be civil, but set boundaries, be firm.  You will have enough to deal with being in a relationship with a military member, you do not need someone dragging you down from the other end.  The hope is that she will see you for an adult and not a kid who needs guidance.  Good luck!  I hope this works out for you. 

The problem is, she really is dragging me down. I woke up happy ( which mornings have been the worst for me since he left) and I got his box today. I was thrilled, and then I get a text saying that I NEED to stop by they're house this weekend. There is no verizon cell service at their house, and I don't want to be out of reach for my SR just in case he gets a chance to call. I've told her that I'm an adult and these were my decisions to make before, but she just doesn't get it. I guess being the baby girl in her eyes doesn't help this. I really do appreciate the advise!

Then it sounds like you're on the right track.  Keep setting and maintaining boundaries and stay happy!  Are you going to his graduation?

If he left on Wednesday, chances are he won't be making a call this early.    Week three is more common.  

I was dad's baby girl until the day he died.  Seriously, he was questioning my decisions at age 30, and 40, and 50.  

Oh I realize its not very likely, but I know myself. The second I say that there's no way and go ahead and do it, I'll miss a call haha.

 

When we first started dating, I was more worried about my dad hating him, but in the few weeks before he left they hit it off really well. I know I have him working on my side to calm my mom down, which is a huge help.

I wouldn't miss his graduation for anything. He's staying at GL for A school, and I would never give up those three days with him. His whole family is stretched for money and won't be able to make it. Plus he's left me in charge of all of his affairs while he's going through BC.

Hi there,

I don't have a hard time with my parents but my future in laws are another story. We planned to get married in December and they started off with the whole "we want to treat you as adults..." line and then started treating us like children. They think us getting married will stress out my fiance too much and make him flunk out of school...I don't get it! and we're both in our mid 20's! They just think they know best, even when they don't. Chin up! It sounds like you have your feet on the ground and know what you want. 

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