Boyfriend left on December 11th

[SP_]

Hello ladies! I just wanted to reach out to anybody who had a recruit leave on the same date! I could really use somebody to count the days down with that understands the struggle! Anyone get a box or PIR date yet or address? I know all of this comes at once, but I kinda think his PIR date will be 2/7/14 I hope that is correct atleast. I'm fairly new to all of this I'm flooding my brain with info to help with the worry. Is it too early for phone calls? I know he wont be able to write until next Sunday probably. I began writing letters yesterday. Any advice or conversation would be great!

[She'sLove]

Hi, my SR left on the 11th also. I got the box on Saturday, and I'm still waiting on the form letter. I got a call from the recruiter, and it looks like my SR got assigned to division 913, and if my information is correct, the PIR date will be 2/7/14. I'm counting the days as well, and the first couple were really hard. I can already feel it getting better though. Just remember, time's always passing, so you guys can only get closer to seeing each other again (: Hang in there, the first week is almost over!

[SP_]

You're right! Time is always passing. I finally started to be a little more comfortable today with him being gone. The holidays coming up is what makes me uneasy. I'm glad you got his box, his family and I are still waiting to receive his. I hope his date is 2/7/14 as well. I'm eager to find out his division. Have you gotten any letters yet? Do you think I should send him any stamps or a phone card in my first letters or should I wait for him to say he needs those?

[She'sLove]

His box should arrive soon if not today. I haven't gotten any letters yet; they may not get to write until the second or third Sunday, I think. The recruiter just got back to me with an address! I'm pretty stoked, but I'm also cross-checking information from the recruiter with this site, and vice-versa. Hmm, I would personally send them if I can, just in case. I think it's better for them to have it and not need it than need it and not have it. I'm also unsure when they'll be receiving the letters from us, since they need to be assigned to a permanent address and have a mail officer before they can receive mail. At this point I just can't wait to be able to communicate again.

[SP_]

Right! I'm dying for any type of communication again. Your form letter didn't come with your box? His mom got his box today though so that is a moral booster! She's gonna let me know his PIR date and ship address when she's home later. I might send him a few stamps when I mail his letters tomorrow just in case. I hope you get concrete information soon! Planning the trip for graduation might move time a little faster.

[She'sLove]

Nope, my form letter didn't come with the box. They're sent separately, as far as I know (FedEx for the box, USPS for the letter). I think I'm going to throw in some stamps in my letters too. Thanks! I think planning for graduation will help too. It's almost been a week; I'm doing the old-fashioned crossing off dates on the calendar thing. I'm just looking forward to the form letter now. I know a lot of families are getting them. I'm glad you have your boyfriend's information and can start sending him letters!

[SP_]

Well we got his box with a few items of his clothes and some paper work, but no form letter. I had no idea that they arrived separately. Another few days of waiting won't hurt. I have an app on my phone counting the days I look at it every night. It seems like seeing one day pass means so much what are you doing to stay busy? Not a lot distracts me, work helps sometimes but he and I would usually communicate during my shifts so not having that is different. We've all made it past a week so that's great news! I think as soon as we can send and receive letters it will cruise on by. Have a great day!

[She'sLove]

I actually spend a lot of time writing letters. We spend a lot of time our together, and if we're doing our own thing we usually know what the other person is up to, so I'm writing journal-style letters. Oh, also, I was made to promise to do at least one thing that makes me happy every day, so I work on that and include it in my letters as well. I know what you mean about communicating during work. I'm actually still sending texts every so often because it's comforting. The cell phone service has been suspended, but I figure the messages will still be readable when service is reactivated. Yes, congratulations to all of us that have made it through the first week! i do believe it will get easier. I hope you had a great day (:

[SP_]

Omg! I totally still text his phone too. I thought I was crazy! It definitely helps me sometimes. I like the idea of doing something everyday to make you happy I might try that. I've written him four letters, I don't wanna overwhelm him once he gets them so I sent those to his mom today and hopefully she'll get his form letter soon and get those I've done sent. I'm not sure if I should wait to hear back from him first before sending more or what, but I will definitely keep writing it keeps me sane knowing eventually he'll read it and be able to reply.

[SP_]

Welcome to the club! I write on his wall all the time too. It's so crazy how things I thought were insane a lot of us do. I cuddle with his hoodie when I miss him. I talk with his mom a lot too. Besides the ladies I've communicated with on here she seems to be the only one who gets the good days and bad days concept. My boyfriend and I were together but not together together about a year before we made it official. So officially it's been 7 months. Complicated right lol I guess we were both in denial for some time. That's so cool his PIR date falls on your birthday. More reasons to celebrate! We still haven't received his form letter but I'm pretty sure his will be 2/7 too. Thanks for reaching out! It's nice to have people that can relate. Counting down the days seem endless. Have you started planning for his graduation?

[SP_]

I understand. I'm going with his parents too and we are still working out finding the cheapest way and all. We don't really have any concrete plans for long distance. He wants to get married and live wherever his bases are right away, but idk if that's really something I wanna do. I'm still young and in college and I would really like to finish first. As I read more about girlfriends versus wives I see I might change my mind sooner. The whole military spouse thing honestly freaks me out a little bit, but I couldn't ever imagine being with anyone but him so I gotta learn. It's weird because I'm usually able to bounce ideas back and forth with him and we are able to decide on a direction, but it's all me right now so I second guess and double check everything. I worked a double today and planned on putting my time off in too but we still haven't received his form letter! I really think his PIR date will be 2/7 but I don't wanna assume. The cards are a good idea! I'm running out of things to talk about. I told him about the Beyonce album in the letter I just finished and I know he doesn't care about that lol. What about y'all any plans for the future? Is he going to A-school or anything like that after bootcamp?

[MikesWIFE]

My husband and I got married recently I still have two years left of school and plan to stay at my university. If you know that you will be together after school then getting married now allows you to get the benefits that the Navy offers. For us, its MYCAA which is financial support for tuition. 

[SP_]

I know he tells me that too. How do y'all handle being apart from each other being married? I know the distance can't be avoided whether we're married or not with him in the Navy. I guess it just bothers me being apart from him who would be my husband because I'm in school and he's doing his job wherever it is. I understand your point. It does make more sense and benefits financially.