Going Crazy!

[ashleighj]

I just needed to vent for a quick second or maybe minute. My husband was pro req'd for OCS 5 weeks ago and we still haven't received the official letter with a start date on it. His recruiter told us 2-4 weeks max and while I know we are only 10 days past that promise date, I am losing my mind. Every time he calls her it goes to voicemail and she never calls him back. I just want a date so I can figure things out (like if I should buy laundry detergent at Costco or the smaller version at Target lol). But seriously the least she could do is call him back right? Reassure him that everything is fine? Am I expecting too much? Did anyone else have this problem with their loved ones wait times exceeding what the recruiter promised, we were also told 6 weeks for a decision for a recommendation and it took 4 months, guess this should have been my first clue. He is doing fine, staying on track with his PT prep and studying what he has so far. It's just me that's a basket case lol.

[CheriH]

I am so sorry Ashleighj!  And I'm sorry to say that this is totally normal.  My son commissioned mid-May; was scheduled to get married the next weekend; and heading to Pensacola sometime after that.  They didn't find out until  2 days before the wedding his report date in Pensacola which was 12 days later.  They were told the Navy would move them; but at the last minute had to do a DITY (do it yourself move). His bride had taken all their wedding gifts out of the boxes because they were told that the movers would insist on packing them.  They came home from their honeymoon and found out they didn't have time for the Navy to arrange a move, so they had to pack it all themselves.  

When he finished Primary they waited over a month for orders.  They couldn't arrange an apartment, or for movers until they got the orders.  When the orders finally arrived they had less than 2 weeks to get to Kingsville.  Again...a DITY move.  

My guess is that his recruiter is waiting to hear something.  And I'm sure that this won't be the only time you will wait for the Navy to tell you what is next.  Hang in there.  My DIL says that she expects it now.  Not that it makes it easier!  But you are not alone!!

[Hurricane]

Here's the "welcome to the military," it will be okay. We found out one month prior my hubby would leave. This won't be the first time you will deal with this, they call it "hurry up and wait." We had this happen with orders (2 weeks after he was supposed to get them, he finally got them. Just buy what you want, he will be gone for twelve weeks Anyway and before the military moves you, you will want to wash all bedding so you can use the detergent up then. Just try not to stress or worry about the date he will leave, worry more about getting things in order with the home and power of attorney.

[flyboymom]

Hi Ashleighj,

The key to happiness for a Navy spouse/significant other is the ability to remain very flexible, at all times.  A tall order, to be sure!  You will learn over time to take things in stride and to expect the unexpected.  It just takes some practice  :)   Enjoy the experience and know that we are here for you.

[ashleighj]

Thank you guys! I know this is something that I will have to get used too. I am a planner by nature so that makes it a little bit harder, but I am hoping in time I learn to adapt. I think I am the most frustrated with his recruiters lack of communication with him, we just want to hear that everything it okay. Thanks again for letting me vent, I am going to stay positive and hope for the best!!!!