Marriage on Graduation Weekend.

[HayleyMc]

Hi everyone!

So my fiancee is in bootcamp at Great Lakes and set to graduate April 3rd. He and I are planning on getting married the weekend of his graduation. He talked to the Chaplain there on base and she already approved our plan. We haven't been able to discuss it a whole lot due to limited communication there. I was wondering if anyone knows about getting a marriage license there? I looked up the courthouse in that area and they said we both have to be present to get the marriage license, and then wait a day to get married. Does anyone know if they can make an exception for military couples? 

He was able to send me a paper with information about the moving process. He is going to Nuke school in Charleston, SC. It said he will get some leave to help move and that we should have at least $2,000 for moving expenses. Are we responsible for moving everything ourselves, and will he get to come home to help me move? I live in Texas, and I'm not sure if he will be able to come here to help. The letter said I should be able to move up there within the next week or two. Any information would be greatly appreciated! 

[FutureNavyWife323]

My friend got married the weekend of PIR. I know it was a hassle, also the only way they could get married was he stayed in Great Lakes for A school so he had a second day of liberty. Right after graduation they went and got their marriage license and set up an appointment with a judge for the day after. This probably isn't what you want to hear but from what others have told me and my own experience they will not make an exception for military, I had to go to my husbands A school and get married in Mississippi two weeks after PIR.

[JHubby]

Not sure at all about the marriage part. We got married a month before she shipped to RTC. As far as moving is concerned, there are many different programs for moving depending on the type of move. There are TDY (Temp Duty) and PCS (perm change of station). I assume Nuke school is probably going to be a PCS due to it's length. I would do a quick internet search of PCS moving options and few the different ways to do it. Also, he'll probably talk to housing during his in processing at A-School that can recommend the best option.

[Anti M]

Lake County does not make exceptions for military weddings; and they do a lot of them.  There simply is no way around that 24 hour wait period.  

Nukes usually fly out of Great Lakes on Saturday morning.  What happens in SC is they are asked when they check in, or during indoc, if they plan to marry, or move a spouse, and then are shown how to accomplish that.  I hope some of the nuke wives here will jump in, but from what I have heard, Goose Creek does allow them to go get you.  You can do a PPM yourself, or he can arrange a move when he gets to SC.  His school there should assist him with that, as they move a lot of spouses.  In the meantime, don't pack stuff, but do your best to prep, clean and sort your goods.  

Congrats.

[SJ0522]

Hello!! I am a nuke wife and I've been in Goose Creek (where NNPTC-their school-is) for a a little over a month now. He will fly out Saturday morning and so you two won't have time to get married, I don't believe. If his flight is later in the day there is a possibility that you guys could leave the airport to go get married, but I wouldn't recommend that. Too much risk. You'll have to come here to get married and then wait for the Navy to get your house together. I do think he will get to move you, but I am not for sure. Unfortunately, dince you two aren't married now, you will not be on his orders to NNPTC. That basically means you move on your own dime, sadly. Once y'all are married he can apply for base housing and you should get a house rather quickly, but it could take a bit. I know of a guy who got married after he graduated BC (2-6-15) and is still waiting on a house. So, it may take some time. I hope I have helped answer some of your questions! If you have any other ones, feel free to ask!

[NavyGF]

Since it's technically "not allowed" to marry PIR weekend what could happen? You technically can't get permission to marry that weekend I thought?

[TomatoPotato]

Technically he could go to Captain's Mast for disobeying a direct order. He could get administratively separated, restricted to the barracks, and/or reduced in rank.  Is getting married worth the risk or reward for him to disobey a direct order.  It is not a very intelligent way to start someone's Navy Career.

[CourtNavyWife]

Hey my husband and i didnt get married PIR weekend so i dont know too much about that but i know back in my hometown to get military help for a quicker license he had to have orders to show. But im sure its different everywhere. We ended up driving to VA and doing everything in one day.

About the moving once you get married and on his page two his BAH will go up but it may take some time to kick in they always take forever with that stuff haha. When we move from PA to CA we paid up front and kept all our reciepts for reimbursement we got a little over 3 grand back. IF your husband has leave days available have him try to get them for the time you wanna move so he can be there. IF by chance he cant make sure you get a power of attorney for moving it is very important ! if you have anymore questions feel free to message me :) 

[CourtNavyWife]

yeah the whole married PIR weekend was and usually is a huge topic. when my husband started school in GL he had to take classes and stuff with the chaplain. They are warned not to marry. I didnt realize you said nuke for some reason but yeah hell most likely leave next morning so there would be no time. Its a pain to wait but the wait and doing it the right way in the navys eyes will save you headache and him risking getting in trouble.