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Marriage after bootcamp
We'll be getting married the weekend he gets out of bootcamp because he'll have liberty weekend. I told him I didn't want a big wedding and he was fine with that. After we get married and he goes to A school? What happens? What do I need to know or tell him to tell his officers and stuff? If he doesn't get stationed on a boat right away, we might plan to live together or i'll have an apartment Texas. That we aren't sure on yet. Any important info would be appreciated. (:
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Permalink Reply by Anti M on
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You know they'll break the rules anyway. When the crack down arrives, it will be ugly.
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Just so you know, they are instructed not to marry PIR weekend. No one has been punished for it, but you should have the information, because it could theoretically happen. No one on RTC can give permission for him to marry because when he checks into TSC on Friday afternoon, anything from the boot camp side no longer has authority.
Illinois has a next day wait period after getting the marriage license before you can marry. You'd get the license on Friday, and marry early on Saturday. I take it his A school is in Great Lakes. You need to check Lake County IL to see their hours and what paperwork you need.
http://countyclerk.lakecountyil.gov/vitalrecords/pages/marriage-lic...
Once you are married, he takes the marriage certificate, your ID and/or birth certificate, and SSN to the personnel office. There they will enter you into DEERS (dependent enrollment), and Tricare (health care), and if you are present, get an ID card.
He will not be able to live with you during A school, in most cases. If it is a short one, this is not much of a problem.
Many ratings begin with sea duty, almost all the ones at Great Lakes are sea going rates. Expect a ship. There is a rotation to sea/shore assignments, you can look it up by rating. Also, "boats" are submarines.
When he is in A school, he will receive a housing allowance for you based on your zip code, and he lives in the student barracks. Once he has a permanent duty station, the BAH switches to that zip code. The Navy prefers the married sailors to live with their spouses once they are out of training, as it promotes good morale. If you have an apartment somewhere else, he has to figure out his own living arrangements. He will not get a free barracks room, he'd have to pay for one if he could get it. If he got or shared an apartment, he'd have to pay for it. He may be able to berth aboard his ship, but that really, really sucks and is very depressing.
I hope this helps.
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Permalink Reply by jde on
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You might want to check how how long it takes to get a marriage license in Illinois. I believe there is a day waiting period. The courts will be closed on Saturday so justice of the peace probably will not be an option.
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It is how it is done, they have special Saturday hours in Waukegan (not far).
Saturday 9:30 a.m. to 11:00 a.m. Babcox Justice Center
20 South County Street
Waukegan, IllinoisSunday 9:00 a.m. ONLY Babcox Justice Center
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Permalink Reply by CourtNavyWife on
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Getting married PIR weekend is a big no in the navy's eyes .. some have done it but its hectic and could get him in major trouble. Id say wait till he gets leave either during or after A school. He will most likely start on a ship its normally sea duty then they reenlist to shore.. When he gets his orders then look into housing depending on where he gets will make you know if military housing is best or non. We are in san diego weve lived in non now in military housing and are going back to non just cause price wise. What is his rate?
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Permalink Reply by NavyGF on
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We've decided not to. He told me he's undesignated so he goes to A school for 10 days and comes home for 5 but he's already told me where he's going and how long he'll be on a ship so i'm guessing he already got his orders. /: I don't know what to do now...
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You two can talk over marrying while he is home on leave, or you can discuss the long range option of riding out a deployment and see how it goes, then marrying when the opportunity happens. In any case, you have a lot of options, just not the convenient one.
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Permalink Reply by heathee12 on
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It can work out if you both want it!!! My husband (then my bf) and I did long distance for 3 years and were engaged while we lived in opposite coast of the country. Was it hard? Yeah sometimes it was - even now we are in the middle of a pcs to Hawaii and my husband is already there and we have a month apart. Hang in they and don't worry it CAN work.
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Permalink Reply by Petrin on
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It will be ok. If he is the one for you, then a little wait will be good or you both.
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Unfortunately, it seems not to have worked out, she posted in Comments just after his PIR:
Comment by NavyGF on May 23, 2015 at 9:07pm
I'm sad to say I'll be leaving this group. My fiancé and I are over. I'm okay though. How do I remove myself from this group?I hope she finds a good path forward, and happiness. -
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