My son is awaiting his swearing in and plane ride to Chicago. He wants me to come take him home. I have been on the phone with him off and on ALL night... The 'mom' in me wants to race right there and pick him up.....but I know that would be wrong. Is it normal for a kid to be so worked up ? He was sick throughout the night from all his worrying. Any ideas? Thanks!
Every bird needs to leave the nest. Your sons actions are acutally normal. The unknowns are always scarry.
I actually run a Deppers forum, and all the Deppers ping off of each other. Their excitment just flows though the forum, and they all cannot wait to get to bootcamp. From what you have said, I can tell by your post that your son sounds like he didn't do his research about the Navy and what is about to happen to him. Had he, then the jouney of the unknown wouldn't have scared him.
Every mom needs to cut the apron strings. Talk him up and tell him how proud you are that he is about to begin a jouney that will make him a future. America loves military veterans. Whether if you were in 4 years or 30 years, you're still a veteran. The benefits for even being in 4 years are awesome. Just keep talking and pushing.
I wrote these PowerPoint slides to help the deppers. But, I think they will help you too.
The mom in me would want to do the same thing. It might be finally hitting him what he is doing. By that I mean leaving home. My son has never been away from home this far away or long. Do you know what he is nervous about? My son was really nervous about flying. I just kept reassuring him it would be alright and that he was doing the right thing. Are there any other people with him? Maybe once the swearing in is complete and he gets around the others leaving with him he will be okay. It's a big step they are taking and I'm sure it's hard when the day finally comes. I'll be praying for you and your son.
I have tried everything....he still is apprehensive...but I know he will do an awesome job....It is KILLING me...my first child to leave the nest too...I told him that I can't rescue him and he needs to make this decision on his own...his dad, my ex...just told him to suck it up and get it done...
An important factor is what are his alternatives?
Another factor is "circle of friends" & family support
Is he concern that he won't make it physically?
Is he emotionally immature and just not ready to leave home?
The military is just not for him.
The Navy commitment is not forever - 5 years (w reserve of ?? not sure here) and the rewards are many. GI bill for education, technical training, sense of self esteem, work experience, travel, etc. etc.
Turned 18 in March...signed up a year ago...early/delayed entry.
My older son joined the Navy at 23 as an officer after graduating from college. He is on his fourth year and will leave the Navy after 5 years. His Bachelor of Science degree is in electrical engineering from a top engineering w brilliant job prospects. He flourished in the Navy.
My younger son started at the military academy (for Army) at 17. He was physically and academically ready but was not mature enough to appreciate the opportunities presented to him. In addition, the life style was not for him. He thought it was. He had thought about nothing else except getting into West Point since 13 year of age. He left the academy after 2 years. He gave up a huge opportunity - Ivy League equivalent education - job security - prestigious association with WP - the camaraderie. We never thought he would walk away. My questions and suggestions to you are based from my experience with my child.
This will probably be one of the most difficult decisions he has to make as a person. We are here to be supportive and provide what information we can and hopefully you can benefit from our experiences. In yours shoes, based on MY past experience w our younger son and if you can pay for college, what would I do? I would go get him.
Please let us know how it goes. He will be the same person no matter what but at the same time this experience with the Navy will change him forever regardless of his decision.
Thanks for your thoughts...he arrived at boot camp...and we had our last call....pray for him...I worry that he will not make the most of this...he is so capable...but I pray he is emotionally ready. Wanted to go bring him home it about killed me :(