My son left for bootcamp on Wednesday and I've been crying off and on ever since. I feel so lost not beling able to call him, FB him or contact hm in any way. I never thought it would be this difficult. I'm really struggling. I'm not worried about his safety, just feel so disconnected, like he's gone forever. He is my firstborn too, maybe that's it? I don't know, but he reached this milestone that I feel like I wasn't prepared for. Anyone else feel like that?
I am new on here and my daughter is leaving for bootcamp in Sept. I am an emotional wreck, she is also my first born and I feel like I am never going to see her again. I have six months yet to deal with this and she has yet to graduate high school. Being that she is just graduating I know that the with all of the planning for that, the six months will fly by so fast. I am so scared for her and excited at the same time. I never let her know how sad I am because I dont want her to be discouraged. I am thankful to be able to share this with someone who knows what I am going through.
I know the feeling well. My son is now on his 2 week in Boot Camp (BC). And all of us moms feel the same way. This site is a excellent source to support you and give you a greater insite of whats in store for your daughter future. Please take the time to read some of the groups. They have it in sections such as new moms, Boot Camp, What you need to talk to you daugther before she leaves ect..When you find a group that fits join it! Their are great Admin in each group so you can email or reply for answers...Keep your head up...we will all get through this to gather.
If you could help us pass the word about the survival guide, it would really help us out. Since my son has just finish his 5 year commitment to the Navy, I will be phasing to a supportive role. Your journey is just beginning. If you can direct to newbies to the survival guide - a lot will be explained and they won't feel so uninformed. Thank much and fair winds and following seas to you and your recruit.
Perhaps, you can look for new member from your state and post the welcoming message ( like the one I posted on your comment wall)?
All I can say to comfort you right now is that there is nothing quite like the feeling of pride you will have when you realize that your daughter has done herself so proud!!(0: My daughter will graduate from Boot Camp Friday morning, and although in the beginning Boot Camp seemed like an eternity, but now that I am on the other side of it, it really did fly by!! The Navy had been my daughter's dream from the time she was 9 years old, and now she is about to cross the finish line - and it makes you as a mother, so incredibly proud(0:
watch the movies that are on this site about bootcamp, they really helped give me peace, also read the posting of the moms as they feel the same way as you. I did and as time passed and you get your first letters and call, somehow your worry changes to pride and it gets easier, and actually exciting to see the growth! my son is PIR on the 30th and I feel nothing but excitement and pride, the hurt is gone! good luck to you!
I totally agree!! Not only has this site been an incredible support emotionally, the videos really helped me feel like I knew what was going on the whole time(0:
I am doing better but the first couple days or week were difficult. My youngest went and he was always homeschoooled although he went to college for a year before he went in. I got the call and the box and now am waiting to hear from him.
To new members,
We have a Survival Guide for Navy For Moms Newbie (click on this, it'll take you to right page). You'll find everything you need to get started. Videos, PDF files of boot camp processing days, links to all the important groups such as the Boot Camp Moms group. Additionally, you'll find tips on how to use this site. Keep in mind the videos and PDF files may take some time to download the first time you try it. It'll look like nothing is happening. Be patient. If you lose the page, don't worry. You can always find it by going to the MAIN page for this site (click the MAIN tab on the above menu bar). . BTW, you all have a personal page. Click the MY PAGE tab on above menu bar to access your page anytime - you should do it at least once a day to see if you have any messages from other moms on your comment wall. Good luck.
My son stayed in a hotel last night and flew out for IL today for bootcamp. I miss him so much. I keep crying. I go back in my brain to when he was born and how he's really an adult now. I'm trying my best to cope, but not being able to speak to him or hear from him for weeks is the hardest part of it all. But overall, I'm proud of the man that he is and I'm excited at watching the evolution of the man he is growing into. I understand your feelings and I can relate to everything you have said because he is in fact my first born as well. And to me it feels like someone cut the umbilical cord AGAIN after 21 years of he and I bonding. It's painful yet filled with joy to know that my son is standing on his own and serving our country. I pray and I pray, and when I cry, I just pray some more - and this is just DAY 1.
i feel your pain already and my son doesn't leave until april 3rd...praying for you today!
You are not alone, I had the same exact feelings, and now my son is nearing the end of boot camp with a PIR on the 30th. I can tell you gets better, even though right now that seems impossible, When my son called me to tell me he was there, he even sound miserable, which made me more worried, and I cried all night off and on.But now haveing gone this far, I can say it is all worth it and he will be fine, and you will be too, hang in there..know that you are not alone in how your feeling, we have all been there, and this site is great help. watch the boot camp videos they really helped me understand what is going on with my son. and helped me feel at peace.
i hope i wont be going through the same my daughter leaves for boot camp august 6 2012