Confused on whats next and what to prepare for!!!

[NavyWife2013]

talked to my sailor earlier, he said he will comp (i guess that means graduate) late feb. early march, then go to c school for 8 months, and then deployment for 7-10 months then we can get married.

y cant we get married between a school and c school?

he said they wont allow him over seas if were married enless there is a war and he is needed and he wants to go over seas.

i cant live here much longer i am bouncing back and forth between his parents and mine and idk what to do anymore, im extremely stressed wherever i go mainly cause i cant do what i want to do its nothing but drama in both areas.

can someone explain to me wats going on or what i should do im not sure what my next step is everytime we have a plan it gets messed up, i was gonna go see him feb 8th but now that he is in night school his duty section changed and now he wants to focus on school, but wants to see me when he comps. please help me figure this out idk what to expect anymore

i really wish we would have married before he signed his contract!

[Angie]

After you talk to him about deployment, sounds like you two need to have a heart to heart.  Have you thought that maybe he has changed his mind about getting married and he thinks this is the best way out?

[BunkerQB]

I think you should think about getting a job (if you don't have one already) and move out on your own. Find some friends, get a job, have your own life for awhile. Don't live with either you parents or his parents. This will sound harsh but it appears that you want to get married to escape the life that you currently have. That is not the answer. Find yourself first. Go to school. Get an education. Get a career. When you are independent, he will be more interested in your relationship. Trust in yourself and your own ability to make a life for yourself. You can have a successful career w/o college. You can do start a business.

Good luck.

[NavyWife2013]

i do have a job but am unable to go full time, due to unavailability, i have thought about getting on my own but the only reason i havent is because he told me there was no point, that we would marry in a couple months, and i would go to a base with him, and every apartment i found involves signing a 1 yr lease. i know i can afford to be on my own if i dont have extras, i also have a babysitting job, that pays well, so i make a decent amount every month but just wont be able to go out much or buy extra stuff i fi want to save.

-Angie, i have thought about that and i have talked to him about it, he told me he still plans on marrying me but he isnt allowed to till after deployment, we have had an open and honest relationship, we have always talked to eachother if we have any problems with each other or even some one/ something else, i believe its still like that, but i could be wrong. i will talk to him about things again, i believe i will talk to him around 2 am, but not 100% sure. thank you guys you have helped quite a bit! :)