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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak
All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018.
Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)
Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC
...and visit Navy.com - America's Navy and Navy.mil also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.
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**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.
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I want you to know my son is 18 & is his girlfriend is 19. They have been together over 3 years and would very much like to get married. So I get it. However, they realize that to throw the strain of marriage into their lives, while they are trying to get their careers set is not a good way to start out. Please read all the way through and don't be discouraged by what I have to say. Your number one goal as a young lady should be to take care of yourself. Be confident and proud of who you are and who you want to become. My initial question would be - what is the rush? You are okay with distance and truly love each other, that is great! You should both get your careers set and do one wedding the right way, the first time around. Sadly, getting married to give you his last name and rescue you from your circumstances are not solid reasons to get married. Marriage is for life, not a fix on current circumstances. Whether you want to believe it or not you are both young and will grow and change. Allow yourselves to do that. So in a few years down the road, when you are both set in your career paths, and feel the same about each other (even through the changes you will both go through) then get married and start you future together. You have so much time. Do it right the first time so there are no regrets. Marriage takes a lot of work and is hard enough without adding the stress of military life, long separations, etc. If your relationship can handle the next few years, then you will know that your future together can be solid. I am not saying to give up on your marriage dream - just make wise decisions. You need to be able to see yourself through your current circumstances and you can! Especially with your boyfriends support. Marriage at this point in time is not needed for you to do that. If you both make your own way first, you will have so much more respect for each other. True respect for each other will be a very solid foundation for your relationship's future. I wish you the best of luck and will pray that things work out for both you and your boyfriend.
She cannot get BAH while he is in Boot Camp since they are not married and BAH while in "A" School would not start until after the marriage.
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Finish your school, you will not be in your current situation forever, it just feels like it. No need to rush. If you take care of yourself first, finish school and get some life and world experience, you will make a better, more capable spouse.
He cannot marry on PIR weekend, and does not get leave to go home until after A school. If you want to marry soon, you, and your guardian, would need to go to where he is attending A school. He would need to put in a special request chit asking permission, and they might deny it because you are underage. The chit is ONLY for during A school, so they can teach the sailor about the responsibilities and benefits for dependents. A sailor may marry at any rank, the Navy cannot deny a legal marriage when both participants are of age. He will need to ask when he gets to A school what the most current regulation allows.
But here is "how things work" regarding BAH and such.
1. While he is in A school, a spouse would receive BAH for wherever they are residing. He would not be able to live with you during A school anyway, nor would the Navy pay to move you to his location. If you go there, he'd still be required to live in the barracks as a student sailor.
2. When he gets orders to a new permanent duty station, the orders will either be accompanied or unaccompanied. Married sailors, who are married before the orders are issued, get accompanied orders if they are going where a dependent can go, usually anywhere in the US. The BAH switches to the location of the new duty station, no matter where the spouse resides.
Getting orders is not the same thing as deployment. Orders tell him where he will be assigned for the next three years or so after A school. If it is a ship, he moves to where the ship is homeported. When the ship goes to sea, THAT is deployment. Most spouses stay in their home near the base, work, study, and are supported by the Family Readiness Group.
3. Lots of Navy spouses find work at new locations. Health care is quite portable, although nurses need to get an additional certification in new states. Ask about reciprocity at your nursing school.
A couple CAN live on a sailor's pay, as BAH is additional and there are other allowances. When he would be home, he'd get a food allowance for not eating at the galley, and when he is deployed there is an allowance for family separation. Budgeting and attention to finances is required, but he gets classes on that, and a spouse can take them too, for free through fleet and family services. It is not impossible at all, but it is hard work and budgeting is something you need to learn about.
4. Pretty much yes, although some things don't mix with the Navy life, like smoking pot (not saying you do, that's just one example). You are not expected to participate in Navy things, but you will find the groups of spouses can be excellent support.
I married my sailor when I was 18 and he was 22. He was out of boot camp and "A" school. He was stationed on a ship. It was not easy. We had our first child when I was 19 1/2. That was even more difficult. As everyone has said marriage is hard and it takes work. If you are willing to put in the effort it can be wonderful. That being said you should not get married just get out of a bad situation. If home life is difficult see if you have a friend you can live with or move out and find a roommate. Finish your nursing school and get some experience under your belt that way when and if you do get married wherever you go with him you have a better chance of finding a job.
My husband and I have been married for 24 years now with 2 girls. Our youngest is in boot camp right now. So I am not saying marrying early cannot be done but some sometimes it may be wiser to wait. When it comes to the wedding there is no right or wrong way to do it. If I had it to do over again I would have never spent the money on a wedding. I would have used it towards a nice honeymoon, paying off debt, or saving for a home when the time came.
In the end just make sure the choices you make are made for the correct reasons and they are choices you can live with.
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