This Girl is swimming Deep!!

[NavyWife2013]

for those of you who dont know, my fiance and i broke up thursday, he was seen on facebook with another girl in a group picture, didnt look like a relationship or a possible relationship at the time, all 3 of his sisters and 2 of their husbands where blowing up on him AND her, they called her a lesbian and all kinds of awful names and told buddy he was a jerk for heating on me and also called him a lot of rude names, so he had enough he was trying to get through school, most of his friends decided he was a jerk and left, to include her, well so then he decided that he would only have enough friends to get through school, and unfortunately that includes me to go on the "get out" list, i am currently back at his mom's imoved back friday morning, my parents was saying bad things about him, did not even hear the story nor see the pictures, all they knew was we broke up i had no support wat so ever just criticism his mom helped me get through this i texted her at 1am and asked if she was off tommorrow if i could come over that i needed her help she said sure whats up i told im single i told her 3 times she didnt believe it either, so she said come on over, and the only thing i could think of was its pretty sad getting support from his mom whom has no idea what happenned either, and criticism from my own family, so we talked and she got me soomewhat calmed and i said, who am i? id who i am or what i want in life but i got excited about traveling the world and seeing new places, i have considered reserves since Buddy graduated boot in october, so decided i will go active duty so i am i talked to a recruiter tuesday and take the ASVAB  this coming tuesday and will keep you updated. :) i am super excited Buddy and i are talking about getting back together after he is through with school and gets to his next duty station, he does not know i am joining nor will he know until im graduating, his mom is going to do her best to get him at my graduation, and Buddy's little nephew that we have practically raised :)  like i told the other girls i have already started studying for te tests my recruiter is giving me a workout plan and a diet plan to help me i already have the sailors cree, the mission of the neavy, and the RTC maxim (short and easy) down so i know that i can do this if i can remember all that in a day i can do this i have started to do push ups and sit ups and im walking, pacing, and jogging, i havent started running yet due to the fact i havent ran in years, but im working my way up there :) if i dont make as an honor recruit i WILL be right behind them my goal is to max my push ups run time and sit ups by the time i ship off to boot i will know the START guise like the back of my hand and i will pass all test gien to me upon arrival at boot i have to work on my leadership skills and im already a great team player so i know that i can do this!!!

i know some of u are think im chasing him, but i know that i wont be with him we will be seperate until we are married f that happens, but i dont want him back if he isnt happy being with me, i love him and he is welcome back in my arms anytime he wants but until then i got to focus on being a sailor!!! :) :) :)

thank you, all of you who has helped in anyway i appreciate everything you have done and i will continue to give updates and let you know if i have anyquestions, and i will also help anyone that i can :) you all are wonderfull!!!

[Angie]

oh yea...you might want to change your name to future Sailor or something else...

[BunkerQB]

That is really good. Print the points above and tape it to your mirror. In fact, it would be even better if you hand wrote it because the process of writing something down has an effect on you getting the job done (studies have been done on this).

[Saipan]

As I've said before, good luck in what you are trying to do with your life and don't let others bring you down.  You should have support in any outcome you have, even though others may not see it as you following your own path.  

Angie, you said you were retired someone on here right?  I surely do hope so, as I don't believe someone as negative about life as you should be allowed to counsel Sailors anyway.  I'm sure not too much hope came from you anyway, good thing you were a counselor and not a recruiter!!  I think all posts created should come with a "Do you wish to block Angie?" button to keep you and your negative nancy replies off.  

[Angie]

If you don't like my posts don't read them...I am not negative...I am realistic and I don't sugar coat things...seems this generation (and lots of their parents) want things sugar coated

by the way love the name...as it reminds me of the hookers who would be waiting for the men when we pulled into port

[BunkerQB]

Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...     OK guys. Auntie B is here. Let's take a step back from circle. You know I am fond of both of you and don't want to see either you to go away. Trust me life will take both of you to places that are difficult and heartbreaking. I am not talking about physical, geographical places. I am taking about emotional and psychological places.

We are all here because we CARE. We care about our men and women who are serving and we care about our fellow moms, wives, dads, husbands, children, etc.  Bottom line is, we care about each other as a member of a family, a community, a country, the world (human race). 

Technology has not made this world easier - in fact, it has made the world more difficult. Our resources are being depleted, our population is expanding. The available opportunities per person has decreased in the last 60 years.  In the 40s, 50s, even 60s you could get a good job and if you work hard, you could buy a home and support a family. Today you need a college degree to get most jobs and even if you have a college degree, it is difficult because most jobs required experience or technical training. On top of that, the requirements change - it's like trying to catch the handful of shifting sand

Everyday I hear of (or encounter) young people who are floundering, feeling useless and depressed because there are no clear paths to success. That is why you see more and more young adults & mid adults (from 18 to 40) living with parents. 

Being a member of the US Navy is an incredible resource allowing these young adults to get training, an opportunity to get away from home (and grow up), see the world (you all know what I mean) and the best part - have a PAYING JOB.  Do I get frustrating when I encounter for the umpteenth time a mother's lament that she is going to loose her best friend and don't know how to survive?  Yes, this mother has not really thought of the alternatives. But I have learned over the last 3 years to accept her naivete and just let her have her "vent" moment. It really doesn't harm me in any way. 

I am sure being 64 years of age has helped me become more patient and understanding. I know on several occasion when I tried to be more "direct" I have come across as being judgmental - so my message was not heard.  Oh yes, I tend to be blunt and to the point because I have always had more on my plate than most people so therefore, in order for me to accomplish it all, I have to get from point A to point B as fast as I can. We have to find ways of delivering the message in a neutral tone of voice. 

I won't bore you with what is so frustrating in my life right now.  But it does give me great pleasure to be friends with so many people from so many places and from so many walks of life. It has been the best part of being a member of Navy For Moms.

You don't have to like each other - I don't want either of you to feel you have to change. Furthermore, a little tussle is not harmful - like a little fight amongst siblings.

Well, Auntie B has got to get to work and make some money. Will talk later.

((((NAVY HUG)))) to both of you ...........  and everyone out there too.

[BR549]

Very well said !  Thank you Auntie B!!!   

[Angie]

Making a public apologize to you Saipan Sweethearts, as I shouldn't not have slammed your name.  That being said, unless you have meet me in person, please do not slam me or what I did in the Navy....there was a saying in the Navy, that recruiters gave 1/2 truths and the counselors filled in the blanks of what really happened while in the Navy. 

[Saipan]

Thank you, accepted.  All I ask is that you realize how you respond to others and know that you are sometimes a bully.  I am very aware of how things go in the Navy, I am not just a spouse so I have experience on both sides.  Perhaps our differences begin with you being surface and I am an air dale?LOL! I look at this young girl experiencing life's hardships and hope that she finds her calling and this could very well be it, you never know. Giving support or simply not saying anything at all is not necessarily "sugar-coating" anything; life will chew a person up and spit them up all on its own, we don't always need to make others feel bad about their situations or decisions.  I know I cannot change the way you "advise" to others on here but just know that if I can come along after you and offer words of encouragement, I will.  This girl may never even get to RTC but she could very well be someone important who changes things in the future, no one including herself will ever know until someone gives her that encouragement and she goes for it.  

AND, for anyone who may have gotten a little excited I'm not a hooker so sorry for the disappointment. J/k.  The name comes from my first sea command, the USS Saipan.  I was lucky and got 2 years of shore first and ended up being one of the first females onboard after they began bringing us on.  Had I taken orders to somewhere else like CA, I wouldn't have met my husband in VA sooo. . . . I kinda like the name!

[NavyWife2013]

ok so just an update...i needed a 35 on the ASVAB and i recieved a 35, i am not proud of this score but was surprised to recieve it given the circumstances, i didnt sleep the night before so going on 24hrs of no sleep, and the proctor was pacing most of the time talking on his phone so i was distracted and was not as awake as i wanted plus didnt have much study time, but i am filling out the paperwork to go ahead and get started wensday, and if there is a spot open im going to see if im interested if not im going to retest in about a month

super excited!!!!

[BunkerQB]

You should buy that book (titled something like ASVAB for Dummies) and take the practice exams. Free yourself from distractions prior to taking the test.