Comment

Comment by jacketfan24 (corpsman mom) on August 17, 2011 at 7:55am

I have actually been doing pretty well this week, but overall not so much.  He is nt my first child to leave home, but the first one to really LEAVE (my daughter is in college a few hours away and my oldest son lives on his own 20 minutes away).  I think that is what is the hardest thing for me; that he won't realy live at home again and we'll have to travel to see him.  I'd much rather have my family near me.  But he's doing what he feels called to do, and that is more important than what I want. 

Comment by Bandito's Mom on August 16, 2011 at 10:22pm

Thank you all, yes it does help to have this group get a bit more active.  I have been hanging out at the Nuke Moms group because that is eventually what SR will be.  But sometimes it just seems that they are so much further along than we are.    My son was having trouble getting weight and BMI down, DIL bought him a gym membership and you can really start to see changes in his body again.  He is also running on an Elyptical getting ready.   SR has been coming over every week to work on a car, and then staying for dinner.  So there have been some steady family time.  But, yes, every once in awhile, I freak out.  Can NOT let my imagination get the best of me.

 

Comment by jacketfan24 (corpsman mom) on August 16, 2011 at 5:44pm

Didn't mean to leave anyone out---I just read the rest of the posts.  Sounds like we are all going through the same things.  Maybe checking in more often would help us all. 

Comment by jacketfan24 (corpsman mom) on August 16, 2011 at 5:41pm

Invisible12---Mine leaves on Sept 6 and I am right there with you!  He can't wait but I am a mess half the time.  I've eaten every piece of chocolate I can get my hands on!  He doesn't want a going away party, so we have just been doing family dinners with each side of the family.  Three weeks from today exactly...but he is going on the 5th with the recruiter to MEPS, and doesn't want me to go there, so Labor day will be the day I see him last.  I think he wants more private goodbyes. 

Send me a message if you need to vent! 

Comment by Invisible12 on August 16, 2011 at 1:07pm

It's about time this group had some action!!!!  I was wondering if maybe my son was the only one leaving!  LOL.  He leaves Sept. 15th and I'm a mess.  He's been a depper for 6 months and now it's 4 weeks away.  There are days when I can't bear think about it, then there's the days that I just start crying out of nowhere and then there are the days where it just doesn't seem real - like I'm just going through the motions.  I've been planning his going away party so that has kept me very busy but I keep imagining what it's going to feel like the morning after the party - knowing that he'll be leaving 3 days after that.  I have typed notes of everything I need to do before and during BC but I feel so overwhelmed that I won't get anything done.  My son is 22 so he's not as young as some of your kids but he's still my baby.  I think it's starting to really hit him now.  He was slacking on his physical fitness but has now hired a personal trainer.  I think I've finally panicked him enough to do something.  He goes to his DEP meetings every week but they aren't allowed to work out anymore - something having to do with liability.  Well, now that I've blabbed I'm so happy there's action here now.  We're all in this together - September is right around the corner. 

Comment by Jenn (Proud AO Mom) on August 16, 2011 at 12:28pm

Hi Bandito's Mom - You didn't sound testy at all - and even if you did, you're allowed to.  I think we are all testy through this process at some time or another.  My guess is that people are posting but there are so many different pages concening DEP and boot camp - maybe they just aren't posting here.  My son leaves at the end of September - 6 weeks from tomorrow.  He's only been in DEP since April so the process for us has been fast.  I think that I'm dealing with it by not dealing with it - you know - as something that is coming eventually - but then I have some panic attacks thinking about everything we need to get done - buy a plain wallet, get his passport renewed, get a power of attorney done, write down addresses, get a phone card, get him his license (yup - I have the rare 18 year old that doesn't have a driver's license yet).  Sometimes it's just overwhelming.  So rather than deal with it I put it all on the backburner.  And I get frustrated with him - I don't think he's working hard enough to keep his fitness up to par with what he will need when he gets to GL - it has been so hot for his last two DEP meetings that they haven't gone out to run or do any physical fitness so his run time is going to be lagging unless he gets himself out there.  I don't think he sees his leaving as he will be leaving home basically for good.  While he will always have his room at my house I know that he won't be back to use it long term - not like if he were going to college - but I don't think he really thinks of that.  It's so scary and overwhelming - but I am so proud of him.  I've seen such a change in him since he signed up, so while a part of me wants to throw myself at him and say don't go! the other part can't wait to see what is in store for him and that is the part I have to remember to show him - the other part gets to cry in my bedroom later but right now we are just enjoying out time - trying to get in things that he likes to do.  We are going on vacation to visit my family in a week and he is really looking forward to that and then when we get back we'll have the big send off party.  It's busy and I'd just like time to slow down.

Oh - and congratulations to you on your son's marriage - I'm sure getting ready to see him off and plan a wedding was way more stressful.

Comment by Bandito's Mom on August 16, 2011 at 12:57am

Abreys Mom, Thank you for replying.  Sorry if I sounded a bit testy.  Maybe not doing as well as I think.  It has been over a year since son decided that he was joining the Navy, had some weight to lose and finally signed his contract in January.  Lots have happened since then, he got married, his wife's g-pa passed away, ,,,, yet always lurking there in the background is that he will be going to BC in September.  I seem to be okay with this now, but I do anticipate massive sadness after he leaves.  I am maybe dealing with that by going on a trip with a friend and seeing my sis.  (not sure how the new DIL will fare)

A party with 50+, sounds like a real event.  We just had the wedding, so our goodby party will be closer to 15-20

On the plus side, I think my son is done waiting and actually prepared to go.  But then again, his wife is a planner and probably why his things are getting in order.

 

Comment by Diana(PO3/IT3) on August 16, 2011 at 12:36am

Bandito's Mom: Yes, lots of anxiety on my end. My daughter leaves in 7 weeks. I think she may be in denial of all that needs to get done here before she leaves.....sorting through things to toss, donate, save, or box to ship someplace later. She is using her 'free' time (she's a national park ranger for 2 more weeks) to visit friends - leaving me to do all the worrying about what needs to be done. This feels like limbo period...what else can we cram in, talk about, do.... We've already had one 'send off' party. The "big" one is in 4 weeks - about 50+ people coming to our home to wish her well....I'm thinking maybe then it will hit her (it's already hit me....)  Sometimes I wonder if we all aren't trying to stop time a bit knowing once they ship out, things will be much, much different. Our little girls (boys) are no longer that. Having them conveniently nearby will come to an abrupt end. She has a huge, wonderful world ahead of her doing something more than worthwhile. For that I stay focused on, that she is embarking on what I brought her up to be - someone who can stand on her own 2 feet and make a positive difference somewhere....

 

And how about you Bandito's Mom? How are you holding up? 3 weeks. I hope you are enjoying these last weeks of celebrating what was before you gather again to celebrate what is....

Comment by Bandito's Mom on August 16, 2011 at 12:15am

OK, really, honestly,,,,, is no one else checking this site and wanting to know what to do next?  No one is willing to share their hopes and fears?  Or are we all just waiting for when they finally leave for Bootcamp?  and then we will divide up into PIR's.  I have to think that there are hundreds of people starting boot camp each week, right?  do none of them know about N4M?   --- not really sure who else is out there and reading this group.  My SR is leaving in 3, yes 3, weeks.  Anyone else going through anxiety, pride, other feelings?

Comment by Bandito's Mom on August 2, 2011 at 1:33am

Crisanthomom,If your daughter signed for something that is easy for the Navy to fill and wants to change to something that is harder for them to fill and she qualifies, they will probably let her.  But not the other way around.

• ‹ Previous
• 1
• …
• 175
• 176
• 177
• 178
• 179
• …
• 243
• Next ›
• Page