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Comment by elizabeth77(USS SAN FRANCISCO) on October 3, 2011 at 6:50pm

This is sooo sad.  I found this posted on NavDads when I googled Nuke School Suicides.  I wonder how far she has gotten with her quest to find more resources for our sons and daughters in the Nuke program.  This must be the mother of one of the men who committed suicide right after my son arrived.  She has written many other posts.

 Reply by Mary Rose Hildinger on January 11, 2011 at 9:29am

Dear Scott,  after reading your message on Navy Dads, i wanted to reply. My son graduated from Boot Camp in March from Great Lakes Naval Base in IL. He went on to Charleston SC for Nuke school. He was a talented young man who wanted to serve our country. While in Nuke school he got very depressed about not living up to the expectations. He committed suicide so they say. After much research and talking with Congressman Mike Pence on Indy I have realized what tremendous amount of pressure our young men and woman are under. They dont prepare them or give them counseling like they should. I am trying to come up with a program that will help them understand what they are up against. This is all new to me and I would appreciate your support. I wish your son the best, and just be supportive and make sure that he can contact you. Mary from NY.

Comment by Sherri_M on October 3, 2011 at 6:49pm

well everyone....I just want to say GOOD LUCK to class 1104 with their comps tomorrow.  I am looking forward to hearing my son passed!!  

While I will not be as stressed, nervous, anxiious, etc, etc, etc as you all will be tomorrow waiting for your answers, believe me when I say...I will be thinking of all you moms and even more for all your sailors!  I will be saying extra prayers for the sailors and will be praying for patience and no stress for you moms!   Mine isn't taking the comps, as you all know, but I will be nail biting and anxiously awaiting the good news!  I will be celebrating right along with you once you hear!  I wish I was going to PS grad this weekend, but it wasn't in our cards. I will miss being there--because I was so looking forward to meeting so many of you, but know I will be there in spirit and I can't wait to see pictures of your handsome sailors at gradutaion!!!! 

Comment by swim4life on October 3, 2011 at 6:11pm

just wondering, after reading the comments, if most of us have been touched by suicide at some point in our lives.  My heart goes out to the sailor's family, and to all of you that have experienced loss and grief.  Mental illness and depression are very hard on families.  It is the hidden, invisible, unmentionable illness.  When we break a bone, we get a cast, and sympathy, and empathy.  When a mind is broken, or a heart, often no one knows.  I wonder what percentage of college students on any given campus commit suicide??  Maybe the percentage is not any higher at Nuke School, but with a small campus, and relatively small group of Nukes, maybe it's just that everyone knows.  May God continue to help them all, and send His angels to protect them....

Comment by Lisa (MMNuke Mom) on October 3, 2011 at 6:03pm

momofnuke, my son was div. 951 - what was yours?

Comment by BunkerQB on October 3, 2011 at 6:03pm

So how do we as parents create an environment where our sons/daughters who are development young adults feeling awkward and unsure of themselves can feel safe and loved? I know the military is trying to deal with this too.

Comment by Sharon ~ K's Mom on October 3, 2011 at 5:37pm

Having lost a loved one to "Suicide" puts you in a famly that you didn't ask to be part of. It is not an easy journey, there usually are many questions that will never have answers. Having lost my youngest brother to suicide when he was 40, it ended a lifetime of his depression. He actually took his life on one of our sisters birthdays, we buried him one day before his 41st birthday and two days later a niece got married. A roller coaster? You bet it was!! I was very close to my lil' brother, was there for him anytime, I knew where he was mentally when he called and said hello, the night he completed his suicide was the first time in 13 years that he didn't call. Do I hold any gulit? NO, I know that I did everything possible for him over the many years. He was under a doctor's care, had seen him that morning, re-filled his two scripts. He had a converstion with his ex girlfriend and he made a decision to end his life. I had all my answers as to "why" and I am only at peace due to the fact that I wake every day knowing where he is. He is out of his pain and anguish that he lived with for years. He is safe in the arms of Jesus, no one will hurt him again. The sad part is, he left his son and us to live without him and to be part of his life.

 

To the many families that don't have answers as to the "why" it is hard. It is truly sad that every 16 minutes, one will take their life. Everyone has a story, everyone has been touched by suicide in some way, it is time we all take a stand and help each other. There are signs, most times they are not realzied until after the fact. For guys, they won't say anything, it would make them less of a man. Well, I beg to differ. It takes a real man to say, I need some help. We are all human, never above asking for help. Society still has the stigma of this "S" word and it needs to stop. It is happening to younger and younger kids every day. Mental illness is rapant, we need to be aware. I choose to educate those that are not aware, I choose to help those who need it. I do a walk to raise funds to bring awareness through the American Foundation of Suicide Preventation (AFSP) and it brings families together and it is so important. The loss of this Sailor, though we don't know what he was going through, don't know what and why his wife was not there, it is not for us to judge, it is for us to offer help where needed. We need to realize that he was a person, he was loved and he loved. I have always shared, "The way of his passing will never define who he is as a person." To be "reminded" of the loss isn't necessary, we survivors live it everyday. The new show, "Anderson" had a program today on bullying and suicide. There are kids as young as seven years old taking their lives. LIfe is hard enough on a daily basis than to have others bully each other, we need to love on each other. I take issue when people say things like the famiies don't want to be "reminded" and comment time and time again about what we should and shouldn't do. This is a reality that is happening on a 16 minute basis, we need to wake up and educate people so as we can say NO MORE!!!!

Comment by elizabeth77(USS SAN FRANCISCO) on October 3, 2011 at 5:35pm

I appreciate all insights.  I would like this forum to be real.  THe first two suicides happened when my son had just recently arrived and one of the sailors lived right next to him.  Something I didn't understand until mush later is the fact he saw the commotion after one of the sailors jumped from a roof.  He said he had to pass by it.  My heart pains for him.  This is my son who had to be there when his father died of a heart attack while playing basketball with him and some of my son's friends.  It was tramatic for him.  He does not talk about this much or what has happened on base.  As he constantly reminds me he likes to look for the fun.  Some how I believe it takes it's toll.

 I appreciate an honest forum where people feel supported to put their feelings out there as long as they are not directly bashing someone else.

Comment by Kat (MM Nuke) on October 3, 2011 at 5:15pm

I was very saddened when I talked to my son about this situation.  He said "I wonder who it was.... THIS TIME?"  I know they get talked to about this stuff, and it has to be very hard to have it happen so close around them and to people they know.  GOOD PEOPLE.

Comment by NancyJo (NNPTC) on October 3, 2011 at 5:08pm

Txted with my son, said the sailor who committed suicide was actually with a group of people.  That sounded weird to me but not unheard of.  My son didn't know the sailor who died, but his buddies did. Yes, this is the 3rd suicide.  Two occurred just not too long after they all arrived in GC, like maybe, if my memory serves, within the first month or so?  Not good.

Comment by Kat (MM Nuke) on October 3, 2011 at 5:08pm

momofnuke - my son PIR'd 11/5/10 also.  What division was yours?  Mine was 363.

BunkerQB - I agree with you very much about the suicide reasons, and I also believe there are times when there could be other reasons as well.  I think that for this forum I'd like to see that we just keep it to being supportive and sympathetic to all involved and have kind words, like you said.                                        

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