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Comment by Buzzbeck on February 29, 2016 at 10:34pm

Sailor mom and Proud mama: Our sailor was continually challenged in A School. At first his test scores went up and down, as did his confidence. He did not ask for help at first. I worried, prayed, and texted encouragement. Seems like in month 2 he hit the pace he needed, and it gave him confidence. He is in Power School now. Your sailors' ASVAB scores got them into the Nuke program, so they belong there. They must now rise to the mental and physical challenge. Your support may make a difference for them as they adapt in the first months.

Comment by Proud momma on February 29, 2016 at 8:12pm

sailormom my Son is at RTC but will be heading to nuke school after and I already worry because I hear so many stories about how difficult it is.

Comment by sailormom on February 29, 2016 at 6:52pm

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and words of encouragement.  I was able to share some of your thoughts with my Sailor and I'm hoping he will find some encouragement and direction in your wise words too.  I get so made at myself.  i read everything you all have shared and I tell myself that I know how hard this is and how high the failure rate is and that I also know it's not the end of the world.  But the minute I hear that boy's voice (I know he's an almost 23 year old man- but still my boy lol) and pick up on his discouragement or slight anxiety at the fear of failure etc, etc. I automatically worry and want to help.  I hope to be better at letting go and not worrying but I'm not counting on it in the short term haha!  Thank you all from the bottom  of my heart. I don't post much but read all you share all the time and your collective advice and support is simply priceless.  Maybe someday I will be able to offer the same in return.  <3

Comment by B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet) on February 29, 2016 at 6:08pm

Hi all - Happy Monday.

sailormom - hang in there!  I don't think there's a nuke out there that didn't struggle at some point during nuke school.  There are many different sections and some they will get more than others.  That's ok though 'cuz like everyone said once they make it through the pipeline and get to the fleet it's a whole new set of challenges.  Continue to encourage him and let him know that you are there for him no matter what. Hopefully he can speak to his SLPO and can find a buddy to help him study....just remember that no matter what happens it isn't the end of the world.

Comment by BoyWonderMom on February 29, 2016 at 5:59pm

J's/S'mom,you're right. My son always thought he was the dumbest of them all. (If you can say that a nuc is dumb academically speaking) While his carrier is in overhaul, he still needs to work and qualify as if they were out at sea. He's feeling extra good with himself this days as he sees he kids who did brilliantly in Nuke school, struggle with the real thing. He's doing remarkably well and looking forward. So I agree, it doesn't matter how you do in the pipeline, if you get through it and keep on doing your best, you got it when you get to the fleet. A nuc is always learning.

Comment by Jennifergs on February 29, 2016 at 4:44pm

Sailormom, my son stressed the entire time he was in Nuke school. I remember several times he told me that he was the class anchor. When I would ask him, he would say that they usually re-rated them, but the choices were based on what jobs they needed to fill at the time. He also said that he thought class evaluations played a role based on attitude and work-ethic.

Comment by CO-TwinSalorsMom on February 29, 2016 at 4:11pm

My son ended up second in his class, but it was super hard. I remember he did poor on the first test and he thought it was kink of a wake up call as to how hard they are expected to work. He said also the instructors are really helpful if you need it.

Comment by sailormom on February 29, 2016 at 4:10pm

JayDee659 - thank you for your advice. It didn't sound like my son would even have time to get help from a study buddy if he has to test again the very next day but maybe that's not right. I know he doesn't have any friends there so he is trying to get it on his own. Hopefully he can find someone willing to help out. I think he doesn't want to be a burden to anyone else. I know it's all on him and if it doesn't work out that's the way it's meant to be. It's hard knowing your kid is struggling and feeling overwhelmed and not being able to do a darn thing to help except cheer him on. I have that part mastered. I completely know my role. I also have heard and taken to heart the stress of this program and the speed with which information is given and has to be absorbed and mastered. I just wondered what he meant when he said he would be "out". Whatever will be, will be. Thanks again!

Comment by NancyJo (NNPTC) on February 29, 2016 at 3:31pm

JayDee659 is right. This is what they mean when they talk about stress. Your sailor got this far which means he has the smarts. It's pretty early in the process to quit just yet. If he sticks with it, study buddies are a great thing. The navy wants our kids to succeed. It may be that this isn't for him but let's not jump the gun just yet. Take a deep breath and remember, we're the cheerleaders. Worrying is natural but it's on him in the end.

Usually getting separated from the navy involves infractions of the rules. An inaptitude for the work means re-rating. Let's see what happens. {{N4M hugs!!}}

Comment by JayDee659 on February 29, 2016 at 3:11pm

Sailormom - from what I've heard from my daughter I'd guess that they would give him a different job.  There are others on here that will know better though.  Try not to worry whatever happens is how it is supposed to be.  My daughter ended up tutoring several in her class on math.  Those that she helped ended up helping her when they got into some mechanical lessons that she didn't understand.  It seems like the group is pretty generous about helping each other out.  He should seek out others to help, I find that I frequently will learn better by working with several different people.  

Hang in there, it will all be okay. :)

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