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Comment by CatMom509 on June 21, 2014 at 11:57am

Hello!!

     "Beloved, I pray that you may prosper

      in all things and be in health, just as

      your soul prospers."

                                                 3 John 2

Comment by diannep on June 21, 2014 at 9:51am

Good Morning All !

Comment by Alice-m2S on June 21, 2014 at 7:22am

Lynn, I have been including stamped envelopes with my letters. Sometimes I self address them, some I leave blank for him to use as he wishes. He has appreciated that and has been writing. The letters are short as they don't have much time. I didn't expect him to write at all, but he has. He even wrote a very meaningful letter to his sister who he has a love/hate relationship with.

Comment by CatMom509 on June 21, 2014 at 3:36am

Lynn,

Have you checked out the "Letter Writing & Fun Stuff/Questionnaires...." up in the Pages section?  Maybe you could include one of the questionnaires for him to fill out and return to you in that SASE?  I downloaded one, then changed it to fit my Sailor daughter's situation or asks things I wanted to know and be more applicable.  It came back with her funny answers!!

Comment by diannep on June 20, 2014 at 11:58pm

Re:  The advice that was given before that may not have been the right advice.  I want that person to know that I'm sure you were giving that out of concern for Lynn's feelings....and that was honorable!  When one of the ladies hurts on this site, all of us do, and we network with one another.  It is just that even with the hurt that some of us may go through because of things like this, the most important thing is that the SRs become sailors....we can all put our hurt aside, knowing that soon, all will be healed when you have those sailors! 

Comment by Alice-m2S on June 20, 2014 at 9:05pm

Lynn, he wouldn't care about making you proud if he didn't love you. I even believe that to want to make someone proud means you love them deeply, almost beyond words. I also can imagine that he will be touched to know you are reaching out to his girlfriend and driving with her.

Comment by Alice-m2S on June 20, 2014 at 5:45pm

Thank you Diannep. I actually married that boyfriend and we have 3 children, my SR being the oldest. Sunday is actually our 24th wedding anniversary. My parents truly are a huge part of the reason my life has turned out so well. I still make mistakes, but their support and love is something I always know is there.

Comment by diannep on June 20, 2014 at 5:29pm

...by the way, I think Alice's post below is excellent advice, Lynn, from someone who has "been there!"

Comment by diannep on June 20, 2014 at 5:29pm

Hmmm....Lynn....I am so very sorry that you aren't hearing from him, but disagree with some of the advice below.  PLEASE do not write him and lecture him about this...he has enough to focus on in Bootcamp....so rather....just try to keep writing encouraging letters to him, and say how much you miss him and look forward to hearing from him ( I would NOT mention the gf as they may just cause issues!).  They must stay focused in order to make it through Bootcamp, and lecturing him, as was suggested, could do lots of damage to that plan.  I know you are so deeply hurt, and I'm so very sorry....but soon, he will be a sailor and you will be so very proud!  Once in A School, with phone and computer back, hopefully your contact will be much better!

Comment by Alice-m2S on June 20, 2014 at 5:04pm

Lynn, I know this may be very upsetting, but just hang in there. I will be very honest, when I went to basic myself, many moons ago, I just was not thinking about my parents at first. They did not get my first call or my first letters, my boyfriend did. Now I wasn't upset with them or anything, I was just young and wrapped up in love. My parents never questioned or guilted me even though they may have wanted too understandably. They did write me a lot and were a solid foundation of support for me as I transformed. I eventually recognized on my own my selfishness and lack of consideration of their feelings and need to be appreciated, much due to the maturity I gained through my basic experience. My parents and I are very close now. In fact I owe them so much for setting such an incredible example of marriage, parenting, patience and unconditional love. I do not think I could have handled me as well as they did. I'm sharing this with you not because it will magically take away your pain because I'm sure it won't unfortunately. I'm sharing it because I pray it gives you some hope. Hope is a wonderful thing and can help ease pain, so try to hang on to that. Sending you {{{{{hugs}}}}}}!

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