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Comment by CatMom509 on July 23, 2015 at 3:39pm

Hi Friends!

     "All the earth is the Lord's

      and He has set the world in order."

                                      I Samuel 2:8

Comment by ellen0502 on July 23, 2015 at 12:52pm

missducky, I am sorry you are having to deal with this situation.

My father was a Naval Officer (mustang), and my mother says it is different feeling with her grandson in the Navy than it was with my father. Not any less worry or thoughts, just different.

Also a hmmm...on her knowing about the FB groups, and I agree with diannep and her being partly right on OPSEC. I do belong to a couple "secret" Navy groups on FB, and my privacy settings are locked down tight, but I still don't post much about my son on my timeline, and never post where he is or what he is doing. Even in the "secret" groups none of us post where they are, when they are leaving, where they are going, or what they are doing, even when we all know. Secrets aren't always so secret, and it only takes one oops to put it all out there.

Perhaps it is a little jealousy, like diannep said, but don't let that ruin your experience. Talk to us here or your friends who want to hear about it, celebrate the milestones here, we listen and like to hear them.

Don't walk on eggshells, tromp on them with pride, but maybe limit the number of times you need to do it. :)

Comment by missducky on July 23, 2015 at 8:35am

Thank you diannep....the thing is...even though my SR has wanted to be a Sailor since he was 2, my Son in Law being in the Navy just sealed the deal! He ADORES him! Hence why I thought I could share things with them! But, now, I'm just gonna carry on and enjoy my time. I think I won't discuss things with her now, but certainly later. This is a tremendous change and experience for me, and while I VALUE her opinion, I cannot take the negativity. My SIL graduated BC in 2007, so it really wasn't that long ago. Things change. I just don't want things to be difficult during PIR. Oh, and she refuses to go to the Meet & Greet the night before, simply because "it's not regulated by the Navy"....Ok, well, I'LL go have fun. Just feel bad for my family right now....

Comment by diannep on July 23, 2015 at 8:20am

missducky:  Tough situation.....but from what some have posted on here, going through Bootcamp with a child in is different than with a husband in....not saying one is easier than another, but we have heard from Navy wives who now have a child in....who would say that going through with a husband was hard enough and they thought they were prepared for their child going in....but a child is so different! 

Hmmm.....on her knowing about your Navy FB groups.  But she is partly right in my opinion about OPSEC....the Navy has had issues with the FB groups in the past because of "loose lips" on there.  So DO be careful what you have exposed on your page now.---delete piks that may share too much, posts that others may make that expose too much...and be careful what you yourself post.  Having said that, oh boy.  She is obviously very jealous right now....so maybe your communication with her for now should be non-Navy related?   I thought about suggesting you confront her about her apparent jealousy for some reason, but thinking that may add to the problems.  However, I would have a talk with her when close to PIR....about how this is such a special time for her brother, just as it was for her hubby, and you want nothing to ruin anything, so PLEASE be joyful and happy, celebrating along with us that we know have two wonderful family members in the Navy....also, since she seems to have a need to be the authority on everything Navy-related now due to her hubby's experience as a sailor, maybe just listen to her advice and agree with everything!  I'm so sorry you are going through this....

Just limit what you talk about with her regarding your son right now.  Talk to friends instead or share here on this site!  We all understand.  I know inside she is truly proud of her brother, but maybe feels like her hubby will be "forgotten" in the celebration of her brother's new career.  One day, you may need to have a heart-to-heart with her that you are so very proud of her hubby's service too, always have been, and maybe HIS service is what inspired your son to go in? 

Lots of prayer that this will be resolved and celebration will be forthcoming!  Also, sibling rivalry seems to exist forever in many cases....even as adults!  My sister and I are in our 50's/60's, very close in our relationship, but we have our jealous times still!  So immature, I know, but you now that old saying:  Mom/Dad loved YOU more than ME!   I even have gotten it from my boys....  sigh.....

Hang in there!

Good Morning All !

Comment by missducky on July 23, 2015 at 7:50am

Sorry PIR family....gotta rant, so this may be a little long!  Backstory....I have 8 children. My SR is #7 (baby of my biological kids). My biological #3 daughter married a Navy man. We have become best friends since she married and had my first 3 Grandsons. Problem is now, she has become jealous! ANY time I tell her anything about her brother and his time at BC, she says "I don't care....it's not the same as when my husband was in boot camp...he is in daycare compared to what he went thru"! And, she wants to hear NOTHING related to her brother! She says I care more about him than her! I am a brand new Navy Mom, and am excited and terrified of all of this! I just wanted to talk to her about what I read, find out, and want to do. I got excited about the "kid in a box", first letters and such. Now I feel like I am walking on eggshells. Once I joined all the different groups on FB, it shows up on my timeline. She called me and told me to not join anything because of OPSEC. All the groups are SPYS! OMG....really? I am just a Mom, who loves her Son, as well as all the other kids, who wants to be a part of her SR's life, even if from afar. I just don't how to handle this. She is attending PIR, and I just want to diffuse this situation BEFORE then. She thinks she is the supreme authority on everything Navy (maybe so!), but am I wrong to be enjoying this part of my life with my SR? Should I just keep my mouth shut? Oh, and when I sent her pics of the decorations for our hotel room door, she commented on how stupid I was to "waste my time" on something so stupid....no one did it when her Hubby graduated. I am at a loss....any thoughts?

Comment by diannep on July 22, 2015 at 12:40pm

laura:  It is best not to take a suitcase for your sailor to take.  You may take some personal items and let him/her pick what they want to take to A School.  You can give them these items when you meet him/her at the airport---they cannot return to RTC with them.  They cannot wear civilian clothes until they phase up....so it is best to just send them a few to get started off.  You can ship the rest to them later. 

Your sailor will have to keep up with a large seabag (packed full!), a garment bag (uniforms), and a backpack.  So they really need to be able to fit what they take in their backpack.   Since they are responsible for managing their own luggage, to give them another suitcase is really alot for them to keep up with!

Comment by bearyfr on July 22, 2015 at 12:06pm

Are your SRs in staff or a performing member?

Comment by ellen0502 on July 22, 2015 at 11:59am

Comment by jbf2006 on July 22, 2015 at 11:40am

941...has photos up on RTC FB page

Comment by laura on July 22, 2015 at 11:29am

I am making plane reservation and we are trying to figure out how many bags to take.  Does anybody know if we can take a stuff to our new recruit like clothes and a suit case?

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