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Comment by diannep on October 23, 2014 at 2:38pm

splash:  Good comeback comment to your friend about the sexual assault issue.  I would like to know where anyone can live/work/go to school, etc where the possibility of that happening is not alive and well.....if there is such a place, I'll move there for many reasons, but believe it doesn't exist this side of heaven!

Comment by ParkyWife(Ship14Div034) on October 23, 2014 at 2:37pm

Got mail! 7 letters!

Comment by diannep on October 23, 2014 at 2:36pm

Jennifer:  No one understands exactly the same way as a mother....I didn't give birth to my son (adopted--3 days old then, took him home from the hospital), but I felt the same way when he was there. However him being one of the older ones (23), and having lived in another city on his own for 18 mos, made it a bit easier for me. 

Polo:  I so agree with what you said about the "olden days" and faith then....there are pluses and negatives for the internet now....so many great things, so many not great things.  I think the thing I miss the most now is the face to face time with friends, or even that phone call, rather than an email or text message.  We all seem to be on the hamster's treadmill these days just to get through life! 

Comment by CatMom509 on October 23, 2014 at 2:36pm

Good Day!

     "The counsel of the Lord stands forever,

      the plans of His heart to all generations."

                                              Psalm 33:11

Comment by CatMom509 on October 23, 2014 at 2:35pm

Gals,

I'm just so happy that my Sailor daughter found Navy for Moms and sent me the link before she left for the Navy!  This place here and all the moms, dads, and other helpful family members has always been a safe place for me of encouragement and understanding.  Only other Navy families truly can empathize with the Navy journey. 

So please try to say to yourselves, "They just don't understand....and ones who aren't moms really don't understand."  Don't let that put a wedge in an otherwise good relationship.  Our responses to others affect our own peace and calm, so don't let others stress you out when they just don't understand.

 

 

Comment by CatMom509 on October 23, 2014 at 2:27pm

Polo,

You're so welcome!!

Comment by Jennifer PIR 12/05/14 on October 23, 2014 at 11:09am

Bug5280 I posted a picture of me and my son on instigram saying last supper with him. One of my own daughters said to me "he's not dead". It hurt me for her to say that but she as his sister does not understand how I feel as mom. I gave birth to him. Let me go thru this how I need to. I'm very proud of my son for giving himself to the Navy for them to do with him as they wish but in the end he is still my baby, my litle boy, the man that I love like no other. He cannot ever be replaced if something bad were to happen to him. I pray for him every day that God keeps him safe and will one day bring him home to his Mommy.

Comment by splash on October 23, 2014 at 11:01am

Bug5280. The comment your "friend" made is really cold. No compassion there at all!  It is a definate loss that most do not understand.

 

Comment by splash on October 23, 2014 at 10:51am

I have also struggled with mom's that compare our situations to their child going of to college. I have to tell myself that they are really trying to be helpful and compassionate and that they really do not understand the difference. On top of not being able to talk to or see our children...I want to tell them about the gas chamber and Battlestations 21 and explain that there is a difference. And the military does own our children. BUT...The most irritating thing that people have said to me is...there is so much sexual assault in the military...aren't you woried about your daughter?  and I kindly remind them the same issue exists in college dorms. And truthfully I think more often. I have sent a child off to college. It is VERY different. I am also thankful for this site and the support we all have here. Just reading about what others are feeling is helpful. One of my best friends has a son leaving for the Air Force Nov 3rd. She is having the same feelings.

Comment by Jennifer PIR 12/05/14 on October 23, 2014 at 10:35am

I know how you other moms feel about missing your child. Thankfully I had a friend that compared our situation to being similar to losing a child. Now saying that I don't mean to offend anyone who had to go thru the loss of a child, but she was referencing the loss we feel because one day our child is there, we can talk to them and hug them, kiss them and the next day they are gone and we cannot talk, hug or kiss them. I know it is a rather crude comparison but for me it is similar in the loss feeling. I know that our end result is completely different because one day we will get to talk, hug and kiss our child again. But right now the pain in them being gone is so very strong.

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