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Comment by CatMom509 on November 3, 2014 at 11:10am

Greetings to All!

     "Morning by morning O Lord,

      You hear my voice, morning by mornng

      I lay my requests before You

      and wait in expectation."

                                                Psalm 5:3

Comment by diannep on November 3, 2014 at 9:03am

Good Morning!

Megan, hopes that all works out....

Comment by CatMom509 on November 3, 2014 at 4:17am

Megan,

In a perfect world, I wish parents would make an effort to get to know their children's significant other (as long they're not a negative influence or something along that line) and vice versa.  Now being in the Navy your SR will already have limited shared time with both parents/significant others.

A 3 year relationship is a major one in my book.  You seem sweet and recognize that the parent relationship is going to be primary and yours is secondary at this point.  If it's meant to be, and you end up marrying your SR later, then your marriage will become primary and the parental one will become secondary.  If you were getting closer to your SR's mom, don't know why she is not offering to help you in getting to PIR (as far as arranging to stay in the same hotel, flying at the same time, going to the hotel together, etc....)  She may be afraid she is losing him to you already and doesn't want to share.  But as he matures and strikes out on his own, she should realize that one day she will gain a daughter-in-law.  But not everyone thinks the same as I do.  She still sees him as her son she can have to herself.  It's hard to realize as a mom that your child is moving out of your home and into his/her own life independently.

Are you in the position where you could meet his mom at a coffee place (if you like that sort of place) to get on the same page as far as his sharing his time with you and them?  Tell her you are not competing with them and he wants you to be there to celebrate his accomplishment in the Navy too.  This is hard on all of you, not just them.  You would appreciate it if they could help you by having you stay in the same hotel, so your new Sailor doesn't have to try to travel to two places to see you and his parents.  His time will be short as he will be flying out to Texas on Saturday.  Try this first and see how she is.  Treat her with respect and I hope she extends the same to you.  As far as his dad, you will have to deal with having him around if you are trying to work things out with the mom, so whatever is the thing with dad, it will be hard to ignore him if you are trying to work on a good future relationship.

Rental car places generally don't rent to young folks under 25 and your SR won't be allowed to drive during liberty.  You may have to rely on Sarge to get you around.  He is $99 roundtrip from O'Hare (pick you up from the airport and bring you back to the airport after PIR, plus a free ride to PIR, but you will pay $3.00 to get back to your hotel); same benefits but $159 from Midway Airport, and $169.00 from Milwaukee. Plus you will need a ride to the airport to meet your SR there to see him off.  Do you have the funds to do all this?  Airfare, hotel stay, shuttle costs, etc...

By the way, the 4 on his Access list must be his mom, dad, brother, and you, correct??  You should already all be on the list, especially if he said you all are on it.  He's the one who wrote up the list.  I pray that this situation will work out for all of you~~  Hope I helped you a little... 

Comment by Megan on November 3, 2014 at 12:47am

Thank you Michael's Mom,

I would tottally understand if his family is put on and I am not, he keeps insisting putting me on the list and I told him if that's what makes him happy then I would be honored. The Navy is what he's wanted to do but his parents never gave him a choice. I know they care and want the best possible future for their son but they aren't very supportive and that may just be the way they cope. So long as his dad isn't there I'm sure it will be ok if I sit with them but thank you for the offer who knows, I may end up needing to take you up on that. I just hope he has an amazing time after PIR and it  goes smoothly. 

Comment by Dennis on November 3, 2014 at 12:46am

Megan look for the Facebook page for your SR PIR and also this page, this is a Navy family and they are all here to help each other,one suggestion you will find out about the meet and greet the Thursday prior to the PIR, stay at the hotels that are close to the base they have inexpensive, shuttles to the PIR.
If you need a taxi go to Sarges taxi service facebook page the are good prices and they m know the drill when it comes to having your new sailor back to his ship on time, if your Sailor is staying at greatlakes he will have liberty from 0600 to 2100 till Sunday night, if not you may have to meet him at the airport for him to fly out to his need destination .
The key here is buddy up with someone who is traveling alone like you
There are many great people out on this site and also on the Facebook page that are willing to help you.
We are one big Navy family now.
Good luck.

Comment by GeekGoddess on November 2, 2014 at 10:08pm

Megan I don't have any advice on the situation but I'll be traveling alone to Chicago for the fist time as well to see my boyfriend graduate.

Comment by Megan on November 2, 2014 at 9:38pm

So moms I wanted to mention a scenario and get your perspectives on it. As I am only a girlfriend (of three years) I don't know how a mother or father would normally react.

My SR told me the two people he wanted most at his PIR were me and his brother, because we supported him the most and understand his feelings pertaining his job and the time he will spend away. His parents think he will be home for every holiday and his job as a corpsman isn't dangerous whats so ever. But anyway, before he left his mother and I were getting closer and had talked about keeping eachother in the loop with phone calls, letters, plans for graduation, etc. I've never really been close with his parents as much as I tried, although he isn't either. But his mom didn't tell me she had found out his PIR date until after I was searching the internet to figure it out and told her. She said she had already gotten the form that said it. Then it took her two weeks to tell me I was on the list, I had heard it from my Sailor before she told me and he was very upset about it but I told him she may have been too busy and had forgotten. Well he told me in this last phone call she had already booked the flights and hotel too. I feel as though they do not want me around because she didn't even invite me or tell me the information when I asked if she had gotten the chance to book things after my phone call with him. She simply said, "yes." My parents are kind of upset that she hasn't been communicating with me and I too feel kind of unwanted. My SR said he absolutely wants me there if I can make it so now I'm going by myself (at 19) and flying/staying alone in Chicago for the first time ever. Which I don't mind the traveling alone I know I'll be fine. But I'm afraid of how things will play out come time for PIR. I don't think they will want me spending time with him while he's with them at all. I understand family time but what if I don't get to spend any time with him? Is this a normal thing to heppen? How would you moms take this situation? I've been around for three years as his girlfriend and about 6 months as a friend so I'm no stranger to them. I'm just worried and a little down :/

Comment by Lydia on November 2, 2014 at 8:49pm

Got a call from my son this evening!! His doing great. Hope everyone gets a call as well. God Bless

Comment by CatMom509 on November 2, 2014 at 7:15pm

Happy Birthday to your SR daughter, Splash!!

Comment by CatMom509 on November 2, 2014 at 7:13pm

Blessed Sunday!

     "And the peace of God,

      which transcends all understanding,

      will guard your hearts and your

      minds in Christ Jesus."

                                    Philippians 4:7

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