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Comment by boomMom on June 7, 2012 at 2:14pm

Karen - Sorry!! I forgot to address your question about my son. Um.....nope...nothing yet...It does suck, big time, not knowing anything, but just knowing that he's still there, gives me hope! I need to listen to Jill's advice and not hope too much....sigh....

Comment by Jill on June 7, 2012 at 2:12pm

Karen: PHOTOS!! 

Comment by Jill on June 7, 2012 at 2:11pm

BoomMom: You are just cooler than the flip side of my pillow.  (And you throw tantrums so much better than I do...)   

Pam: I do know they can talk to the chaplain, my SR says he's been there long enough to be on a first name basis with the chaplain AND his wife.... (More big sighs)... 

Comment by boomMom on June 7, 2012 at 2:05pm

Pam-JG's mom - I'd like to clarify myself when I used the term counselor. I put the quotation marks around them on purpose. It was the term that my son had given the RDC's that were helping him. He said there was the RDC in charge of PT that would give him pointers on his running instead of yelling at him that he was too slow! The one that my son liked was the RDC that said, "I'm here to work on your mind." He was there to help my son realize that he had some sort of mental block when running. Sheesh! Who doesn't?!? lol My son was not injured when he first got to Ship 04; he didn't pass his PFA run, so he couldn't graduate and was put into FIT. He has since attained injuries, though, but I haven't heard from him for a while. Talking to the Chaplin sounds like a good idea for your SR. I'm glad you have 1ProudMom to collaborate and validate; like Jill said, most of us have boys (that know each other, btw) and they can't talk or be on the girls side. It sounded like great advice, 1ProudMom!

Karen! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I think this is the first recounting of your visits with Patrick, that I didn't cry!! In fact, I was LOL at the poor, embarrassed Sailor! Poor baby! But, I'm so proud of Patrick! And I'm glad he doesn't have to go to San Diego sub school like my husband did back in the "olden days!" lol Thanks for sharing! I can't wait for the pictures. Remember now---NO NAMES!! lol

Jillian!! WHAT?!?? Tell your SR to kick the doc with his GOOD foot!! "...didn't look all that bad...." !!! The NERVE! Make HIM run with it then!! <deep inhale...exhale...> Okay--tantrum done. Don't worry, Jill, tell your son I got his back!! em>mumble...mumble...mumble>

Prayers and a sprinkle of positive thoughts to all the SRs in RCU and their moms/wives/girlfriends here.......~*+~*+~*+~*+~*+~*+~*+~*+~*+

Comment by Patrick's Mom on June 7, 2012 at 12:42pm

Hi Abbie & Pam, so happy to log on to see the warm welcome you've received from some of the "veteran" Moms here!  I'm an oldie too...my son was in RCU back in January - March with multiple stress fractures to both of his legs.  He just graduated from Basic Submarine School last weekend, and I tell you that to give you hope for the future!

Also very happy that Pam and 1ProudMom have girls there together.  You will both be excellent support for each other, and perhaps the Lord has a plan for your daughters to support each other too!  Wouldn't that be fantastic?!

Jill - what is this about going from Phase 2 back to Phase 4???!!!  That's fabulous news!  Praying the end is in plain sight for your boy!

BoomMom - any update there girlie?  Hoping you've heard from your boy - anxiously awaiting any and all news!

Sharon great job on welcoming and sharing info with the new Moms.  What a blessing you continue to be here!

Janet - Hoping Garrett is doing well and progressing in his training!  How are you?!  I know as wonderful as it is to see them, it's a bit depressing right afterward cause you're without them again!

I know I already shared how wonderful BESS (Basic Enlisted Submarine School) graduation was.  I thought I'd tell you a bit more for those interested...  There were 89 sailors, so handsome in their dress whites.  Graduation was held in a nice room on base decorated with many plaques pertaining to submariners.  Each graduate was called up on stage one by one and the officers handing out their certificates were GREAT!  They told us right up front that if we needed them to stop for a picture just to yell it out!  (My son informed me BEFORE graduation to please NOT do that!!!)  Anyway, there were those who did, and to one of the Sailors who was stopped for a picture, one officer said "there you go, now that's the shade of red we're looking for!"  That poor kid - he was red as a ripe tomato!!!  We did get some pics, and hopefully in the near future I'll have time to get some up to my page.  I'll let you know.  We (my husband, ex-husband, his wife and their 7 year old daughter) had a wonderful weekend with Patrick.  It seemed the thing we did MOST was EAT!!!  We went into Mystic, CT one afternoon and walked the main street which had quaint little shops and a delicious ice cream shop that we HAD to stop at!  It was just such a blessing to all be together and enjoy our son and see what a fine and responsible young man he's growing into!

He did request leave for a week thinking he'd be coming home with us.  It was denied because he classed-up to his next class yesterday.  That was a big disappointment for us all, but I'm blessed we are actually close enough to make the trip to Groton, CT where he'll most likely be for at least another 10 months or so.  However, I certainly look forward to that leave when it finally is granted.  I can't imagine him coming downstairs in the morning to a big breakfast I'll joyfully prepare for him (like the old days)!

I want you to know I think of you all often, and continue to pray for each of your SR's.  To all of you "old" Moms here whose kids are still in RCU, I'm hoping and praying for great progress and their release VERY soon.  I look forward to your updates each and every time I log in here.

To you new Moms - WELCOME!  The ladies here are the BEST!  You will find much comfort and love here.  It's like a little family to me, that I don't want to let go of.  I've been in other groups on Navy For Moms, but there is none I've found like this one.  Because of what our children (and we) are going through/have gone through we have a special kinship/friendship and closeness here.  These Moms really care for each other and their kids.  So glad you found this group.  Praying it will help you get through this difficult time.  The best is yet to come, and yes, your kids WILL get there!

With love and blessings,

Karen

Comment by Pam-JG's mom on June 7, 2012 at 10:27am

Good Morning Sharon W, boomMom, 1proudMom (ship9 div 138), Jill. I cant begin to tell you how i felt just now when i turned on my computer and there u all were... Thank you so very much. Just hearing from you this morning has helped me feel better. Working HARD on keeping positive and sending those thoughts Jessi's way. I will let you all know if and when i hear something. I will pray for YOU and YOURS right along with Jessi. Am so very glad to hear that there are counselors there for these kids to talk to. I didnt know that. Jessi had mention in her letter that she was hoping to speak to the chaplin soon but didnt say they had counselors. THANK YOU for letting me know that.  Once again thank you all so very very much. ..... Pam

Comment by 1ProudMom on June 7, 2012 at 10:05am

Pam - I should have mentioned a few things that may give you a little jump on sending her love from home.  My SR wrote a few weeks back and said they are allowed to have coloring books (LOL) and asked me to send one with some crayons.  With no TV, music, books and no other outlets I guess this is very therapeutic for them.  I sent them and she was thrilled!  Also, every day when I write her I include a "quote of the day" (I searched the internet for inspirational quotes on hope, determination, perseverence, etc) and I also send her 2 clipped cartoons from our daily paper.  She LOVES both these and looks forward to them every day!  I verified with her that they are allowed.

Just thought it might help you know what you can include to try and lift her spirits. 

Comment by Jill on June 7, 2012 at 9:51am

Good morning to all of you!  Pam and 1ProudMom, I'm so glad you found each other on here, cause we don't know a lot about the girls side of things, most of us have boys. it's not an easy thing to be where you are, but having the ladies on this site will see you through, I promise.  Pam, this is just the start of you and your daughter's journey, there will be ups and downs.  One thing that has helped me is NOT to count the days until you think something will happen, or until you "think" the journey is going to be over.  Believe me, just about the time you think you have a timeframe figured out on what's going to happen when, you will be wrong, and that makes coping even harder.  So try the best you can to keep telling yourself that your daughter is in good care, (and she really is), and we will be here for you.  We get pretty wrapped up in all these kids, so don't forget to update us when you know anything at all.  Welcome to our little world, and stay strong.  Keep writing and praying, the rest will work out.

Ladies: I did get a letter yesterday, but couldn't post anything till this morning cause my internet was out at home.  :(   The xray confirmed a heel fracture, he was moved to Phase 2, then back to Phase 4 in a week (????) cause the doc said it didn't look all that bad.  He says he has given up trying to predict what will happen next, or what he thinks he'll be able to do or not do... So only time will tell, he figures best case scenario is at least another month.  (If you listen close, you can hear both of us sighing.)   So looks like you ladies are stuck with me for awhile.  :)

Comment by 1ProudMom on June 7, 2012 at 9:05am

Pam - I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter.  I, too, have a daughter in Div 2341.  She's been there now for 5 weeks with stress fractures in her foot.  They originally told her 4-6 weeks but I'm thinking that is now "out the window" as her foot doesn't yet seem to be improving.  I understand your concern more for her frame of mind than for her physical state.  I have, also, very much felt that way.  My daughter was horribly depressed the first few weeks and cried because she felt like she had let everyone down.  Some of her letters and phone calls sound better but she still has days where she feels very low. I just keep encouraging her to try and find joy in the little things.  She wrote a couple of weeks ago and said she had a good day because it was clean sheet day, she had a delicious chicken salad sandwich for lunch and they got to go outside for PT!  LOL!  That's my girl! :o)

I'm unsure how hard/easy it is for the girls to find one another but if you want to friend me on here and send me your daughter's last name, I'd be happy to share my daughter's and I'll ask my daughter to look for her.  Maybe it would help them both!

((HUGS)) to you.  It does get easier (not easy but definitely easier) as the days move forward.

Comment by boomMom on June 7, 2012 at 8:45am

Oh, Pam-JG's mom, I am sooo sorry that your SR is in such a low place right now, but just know, it should be only temporary. I have a son in 2341 and they can't talk to the girls so I don't know too much about them, but I'm pretty sure that there are other female SR's there to help your daughter; they've all been at that point before.There are "counselors" there to help her too. It's going to be harder on YOU, believe it or not, because you won't know anything until she does call you. Use your faith to keep yourself strong for her while you're waiting. I know this communicating with letters really suck because it's all week-old news by the time you get it!

All our kids started out in 2341 feeling like failures; it'll take a while for her to adjust to the slower-paced environment that is the RCU. The RDCs there don't yell as much, and they actually try to counsel the SRs there instead of intimidating them. It also seems that doctor visits are only on Tuesdays or Wednesdays, so prognosis or diagnosis are far and few between because now, you need to wait until NEXT week Thursday to READ about it!! Very frustrating! Be patient, Mom! I hope she does get to call you on Sunday; the girls don't get in as much trouble as the boys do...not surprised! <wink!> Just know that she will be in good hands with the staff at RCU. And I'll pray for her AND you to gain strength in this set back.

In the meantime, read back posts to understand that there are moms here going through (or have gone through) the same feelings of helplessness that you are going through now. And it might seem impossible, but your daughter must have had some kind of fighting spirit in the first place to even brave the trials of bootcamp, so if she can hold on to that spirit and her faith that God has put her there to teach her something, she will get through this just fine. I do hope that her recovery time is short and that you hear from her this weekend. It sounds like you've told her all the right things already! Good job, Mom!

Big hugs for you and your SR {{{{Pam and Jessi}}}}

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