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Comment by KC'smom on June 13, 2011 at 9:17am

I think that you guys should go out and get matching tattoos together as a special occasion!!  I wouldn't want my daughter to get one, but you know what?? I got one when I turned 18 and I remember my parents thought I ruined my life!!  You can get one together where no one can see it!!!  hahahaha. that would cheer her up! Poor girl. I'm excited for you that you get to see her.

Comment by KC'smom on June 12, 2011 at 12:41pm

motherhen - I hope this is a chance for a new beginning for her!!  But just out of curiosity, what was the deal with the tattoo. How did she cut part of it off? And what was it?

Comment by KC'smom on June 11, 2011 at 7:44pm

aw, that is so sad. I don't really know what to make of that! She worked so hard and passed all her requirements..... I would be devestated, too. It is definitely an emotional roller coaster.  I know my son will sink into a big depression if he gets separated. I won't even know what to do.

Comment by mama bear on June 11, 2011 at 6:20pm

sorry to hear about your daughter, the way of Navy life doesn't make sense to me, If it doesn't make sense to someone who is much older how in the world is it going to make sense to young person.  Hopefully your daughter can get better and wiser from this one experience that didn't pan out.  I just read the the Lord has a journey for each of us and he has mapped it out will just need to follow it. Both of you take care and enjoy a different journey  in life, you are in my prayers.

Comment by itsmemom on June 10, 2011 at 10:29pm

kc---my daughter had some homesick issues, she also had to deal with a cancer scare (had a abnormal pap---they did another test-but had to wait 10 days for results) plus a few other things. She was seeing someone, there.  The person she was talking to, she did not care for---and requested someone else-was denied seeing someone else. . Anyways, some doctor there (whom she NEVER met nor talk to) stamp her records recommending separation. She was not told this until the Monday AFTER PIR!  She was told on morning of PIR that she was going to be on a med hold for a few days---then moved over to A school (which was going to be at Great Lakes). Anyways,someone messed up the way everything was handled (even a few higher ups were ? how did this happen).  For a couple of days they kept bouncing her between THRU unit (Temp. Housing) and Seps. Not sure what to do with her.  She could of fought her Sep's and legal thought she may of had a good chance of winning it. But, she couldn't stand the thought of being in Ship 5 for several months, lost her job/rank, Was told she could fight it from on the outside (not really true). They tell these kids that they can get back in with a waiver being separated on with a reentry code of a 3E-needing a waiver to come back in.  From what I read it is almost impossible to get back in with any reentry code unless its a 1 sometimes a 2.  When the kids are in Ship 5, all they want to do is go home.  I also feel that if she would of been allowed to go on to her A school (would of been @ Great Lakes) she would of been doing a lot better.  She would of had her phone/computer back, her cancer scare was over (everything ok) family was close by (brother in Chicago, we are 5 hours away).  But, she is home now---trying to figure out what to do with her life, and trying to find a job.  This past 3-4 months has really open my eyes to what the military can do to our young sons and daughters.  A lot of its really good, but there is a lot of bad things too.

Comment by srm54 (Ship 9, Div 005) on June 10, 2011 at 8:21pm

motherhen6902 - I understand how you feel.  You wonder what does your child do now that the Navy doesn't seem to be their path.  It is very important to start helping your child realize there are other options in the world. Especially if they will not be able to rejoin.  Would your daughter be interested in going to school? Can you take her down to the local college for career counseling.  Is there a vocational or technical school she would be interested in attending.  My son was also not highly motivated until he decided to join the Navy and that was his dream.  Unfortunately, it didn't happen last fall.  He had to make decisions on what he could do next.  Nine months later none of those options worked out but it helped him to get through the period immediately following the return home. He is now hoping to rejoin the Navy as his problem seems to be resolved. If that doesn't happen he has a few other ideas to follow up on.  Just start thinking of anything that you think may be an option, even if it turns out not to be. 

 

Comment by mama bear on June 10, 2011 at 11:32am

Its funny how our children decribe whats going on the sick area.  Either way it doesn't sound a place I would choose to stay to get better.  A hospital is boring I know I have been there many times for asthma, but nothing like being injured or sick in the Navy.  Motherhen I hope your daughter does well back home, give alots of love, support and time.  Just listen even if she doesn't say anything listen with your eyes.  You can hear lot by their actions.  Be there for always.  Your family will be in my prayers

Comment by navymom on June 10, 2011 at 12:05am

Ship 5 is the most humiliating place.  The kids are bored and treated as if they have done something wrong when they haven't.  It is very hard to overcome.  My son has been home since Oct. 27th and is still struggling with the rejection.  Something should be done to prevent this.

 

Comment by KC'smom on June 9, 2011 at 11:56pm

Oh my goodness! How horrible. I had no idea about any of this. I had no idea that so many people get stress fractures, either. Those poor girls. I hope she can return to her usual self when she returns and doesn't feel like a failure. That's what I'm afraid of, is if my son does get 'separated' he will be really depressed and feel like a failure.

Comment by mama bear on June 9, 2011 at 2:21pm

as parents we all want the best for our children but when your young adult has made the decision to join any service group and then through no fault of theirs they become sick or injured it's frustrating to not be able to reach out and do something.  is there any way that as parents we could ban together and make this process better for our kids

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