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Comment by SAwife11 on March 5, 2011 at 2:41pm

thanks waynesmom! do you have a son currently in ship 5? my fiance said that he has met a lot of people that are in his same situation and that some are going home on tuesday. anyone have a loved on currently in ship 5 the mental part of it or even physical half of ship 5?

Comment by waynesmom (Ship 07 Div 114) on March 5, 2011 at 10:55am

SAwife-- I was told by Seps Admin. that if there are not being discharged for a fraudulent or legal reason, they will fly home.

Comment by SAwife11 on March 4, 2011 at 8:00pm

my fiance is coming home tuesday! i got the call and he says that if he keeps his mouth shut, doesn't complain then he won't be there any longer. and Tobianne, ya he said that if he complains of one little thing they will push his date back and we both don't want that. I hope they give him a plane ticket. if they don't is there anyway we can ask and pay the difference?

Comment by Tobianne on March 2, 2011 at 3:53pm

Chads mom- I in no way intended to  upset you, I apologize. No it is not my sons eyes, it is his hearing. No they can not fix it. It is a genetic loss.

 

I did not and I still do not feel I was saying anything wrong. I am right there with you, I lived that. The phone calls of  how seps was. How he could not have a knife and they treated them all the same. I cried right along with him. I know you did also. We hurt for our kids. We do not understand really what they are feeling. I am looking at this from an aspect that, if you are upset, he will also be. He needs you and any support he can get. He is worth so much more than how they feel when they get to seps.

I have never discounted any feelings. I am and always will be a mother, I feel everything you all feel.

My statement about not going for medical while being sick, is what they all fear. Even during BC.

I have never once made anyone feel as there child is less, I know they are more. They may need to come home and heal and go back, some may never get that chance, as in the case of my son. His hearing can not be repaired.

I hope you take a second look and see that, in no way was that meant to make you feel bad.

I was merely going off of my own experience with this. I went through the whole why does this take so long, when I called, why is my son sick and got the answers that he is more than welcome to go to medical, it is in the same building.

Everyone of us have had our moments where we want to blame someone, who can we blame? We can not blame our children, they gave more than most of the friends they hang out with, they signed a paper to do this. We can not blame the military. Some do have a case with the recruiters, many do pass kids on and never say that this is a possibility that they will get sent home.

 

With a "just not right" answer, I would  want to know what! That to me is not a reason to put them out, a definitive reason is needed.

As I said, I am hoping he can go from this point and do great things, they are all capable of this. I again apologize, never was trying to make your feelings small or nonviable. They are real and true feelings, however with that said, many will stand to say with me paper work and protocol is the beast and it seems that this is always why things take forever. It is looked at by so many people. goes from one building to the next, seems to take days.

Comment by Chad's Mom on March 2, 2011 at 3:01pm

Tobianne...I appreciate your comments and my son does not dislike the Navy due to the fact that his father and two grandfathers were also sailors. We too support all the military branches, especially the Navy, and believe in what they are trying to do. But I take issue with it being said that my son is coming home because there is something "just not right" with him. 

The Navy is not for everybody, that doesn't mean something is wrong with them. I'm glad your son can come home, get his eyes fixed, and then go for it again. I'm happy that your daughter made it also. Unfortunately that's not the case for my son and other sons and daughters.

I would urge you to re-read why this sight exists. It is suppose to be a haven for those seeking support, not for others to discount how we feel and what we are going through.

I thank you for your concern and wish you and your family all the best.

Comment by Tobianne on March 2, 2011 at 9:24am

chads mom- I understand your upset, however.... my son was also sick. I ask him why did you not go to medical and his answer was much the same as I have heard over and over again. They are afraid to go to medical. If they are found unfit to travel they have to stay longer. This could be what he has been told by other recruits. So my son just used his cold pack they gave him until he got home. As he was afraid he would be stuck there another 7 days.

 

I do completely agree about getting on and past this. Lets just understand that yes the Navy excepted them on the state front, once there they were found to have something not right. In my sons case, I would never want him to chance possibly not hearing something and either getting hurt or causing the hurt of many others.

I know it seems like it takes forever to get them home, but this is paperwork, if anything was done wrong on either part it could lead to disaster. We only want the best for our kids. I am so glad he will be home with you today. I know I cried as I saw my son, the same as when he left.

I do know that yes he hated seps, but he still stands strong for the USN. He believes in this branch. He supports all that his country is trying to do.

Your son is young and yes he can go on and do something great.

Best of luck to him in his future endeavors.

Comment by Chad's Mom on March 1, 2011 at 8:24pm

Whoo Hoo!!!  My son is coming home tomorrow :) :) :) 

I haven't been posting because I have been sick but also because I was soooo mad!  I talked to my son on Friday evening about 7:30 and found out that he got strep throat and they would not give him anything but one cough drop every six hours.  He said his throat was on fire and he could barely talk. He was in pain all weekend and now that he was finally scheduled to come home, they gave him the peanut butter shot, finally. He said within 2 hours he started feeling better. 

However, I am just thrilled that he is finally coming home tomorrow and hopefully they will put him on a plane.  Thanks ladies for all of your prayers and support.

I too am ready to put this all behind us and let my son get on with his life. He's only 19 so there is a lot of life to get on with.

Comment by Fleur de lis Mom on February 28, 2011 at 11:27am

The time at SEPS is hard.  They are disappointed, tired, and homesick.  Seeing her unit march by was extremly hard.  My daughter's calls were hard on me, she kept saying that she was going crazy.  She did not like being confined to the building and not being allowed to go outside. 

Comment by Tobianne on February 27, 2011 at 6:01pm

it is not a sign of weakness ladies, they do break them down. I am not sure why they took his wallet. That is a bit odd, unless he was always trying to carry it. These things usually stay in the "locked" drawer.

My son was homesick, however he was separated for his hearing. My daughter was very homesick, and got news about a friends death and that made it so much worse.  She did make it and is 2 weeks away from graduating her ECS school in MS.

Remind them that some are not meant to be in the military, they are meant to be home and do things here.

I am praying all goes well with the ones that are home, and for the ones waiting to be home.

Comment by SAwife11 on February 27, 2011 at 5:44pm

thanks ladies. ya i just talked to him this morning and he said he is being separated. if he wants to come home he needs to come home. i'm not going to have him in there to be depressed and get even more psychological problems in the next 5 years. my man is strong and when he breaks down like this and says he can't do it, its because he really can't. thanks everyone. I can't wait to have him home in two weeks.

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