I went to see a recruiter today. I have been thinking about (re) enlisting in the Navy. Wait, let me back up. When I was 18, I married my "high school sweetheart" and we both started the Naval enlistment process. He had medical set-backs, but I was good to go. However, after enlisting (but before bootcamp) I became pregnant and was medically discharged. I never re-enlisted. Now, we have 2 children, BUT we are divorced. I REALLY want to re-enlist and better my life, and my kids' lives. My ex and I currently have joint custody of the kids, but the recruiter said I would have to give primary custody to my ex and even then, there is a chance I wouldn't be eligible.
Thanks in advance
Yeah, your recruiter is wrong. My daughter enlisted during her divorce (it was final while she was in BC) she has one child. Her recruiter told her the same thing but when she got to Great Lakes she found out she can have custody of her son if the father or a grandparent signs a paper stating they can pick up the child(ren) within 48 hours if she is deployed. Your children can come live with you while you are in A school and anyother shore duty and you can get family housing. Just make sure your custody arregment states that you will get custody back after you complete BC. My daughter has not gotten her son back cause hers does not say that and the father will not change it.
thatnis some good news, but the one difference is, I am already divorced. I wonder if that changes anything .. and the recruiter told me that my custody stuff CAN'T say anything about the military .. I am scared that, although he and i usually get along really well, that if i was to give custody primarily to my ex, that he would fight me later on.
Again your recruiter is wrong. Your custody agreement must say something about the miltary. You have to go back to court and get it in writing that your ex is to give you the kids back after BC. Best of luck to you eBee. the miltary has many great oppurtunites for women but thier will be times you have to put the Navy before your family. When you are on a ship, who will take care of your kids? You need to have a family plan.
See .. you are SO helpful .. i wish the recruiter was as helpful .. maybe I need to find a different one to talk to :-) I'll keep you posted !!! Thanks again