This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  

Specific information on this policy change will be provided in the coming days and weeks.

We sincerely apologize for any inconvenience and appreciate your support.


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 6/23/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED -  Vaccinations still required


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Sub Moms

Welcome to the deep, silent world of submarines!  If you're new to this world, start by reading the "Pages" of info found in the right-hand column, below the strip of member avatars.

We welcome your questions.  But, while you're here, maintain silence... don't slam doors or the lid on the toilet!

 Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Group Administrator: Kaye S. Kaye S.

Members: 1298
Latest Activity: on Monday




in the right-hand column, under the avatars ----->


These articles are the "reference library" for moms, ready to answer FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions) 24x7 (twenty-four hours, seven days a week).  You may not have to post a question after all!  Thanks, Kaye S.






Need an Ombudsman?  OMBUDSMAN REGISTRY

Discussion Forum

Roll Call: Name your sailor's sub!

Started by Kaye S.. Last reply by jes12joy Jan 29, 2021. 1320 Replies

Personal Storage on Fast Attack Subs

Started by Catherine. Last reply by navyvet May 19, 2020. 1 Reply

Personal Storage on Fast Attack Subs

Started by Catherine. Last reply by JayDee659 May 18, 2020. 1 Reply

submarine visits to foreign ports

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Comment by CSW on Monday


Sent you a friend request. Stay strong.

Wishing you all a good Monday and keeping all our sailors in prayers for strong leadership and strength of character to navigate rough seas.

Comment by ShipOfDoodles on June 16, 2022 at 8:56am

LindaGirl and Shea--thanks for sharing! Good to know Dam Neck is a good duty station! I'll keep you posted on whether or not his "required" leave the latter part of August is still a go. He was told to take leave before they depart again early fall, so if he gets to come home as per the approved chit, we will consider ourselves lucky!! My son was reluctant to make his entrance into the world 24 years ago, so at 41 weeks, at age 40, I had to be induced. He STILL took his time. Not surprised he loves sub life, ha ha!

Comment by LindaGirl on June 16, 2022 at 7:16am

@ShipOfDoodles, my son was at Dam Neck in Virginia Beach on Shore Duty for 3 years. He absolutely loved it there, so much so, that when he put in for sub duty again, he choice to stay in Virginia Beach, in the hopes that when his sub duty is over, he can go back to Dam Neck for Shore Duty again. 

Comment by Shea on June 15, 2022 at 9:43pm
@ShipOfDoodles. My son star re-enlisted for his first go around as well. Did back to back sub duty as part of schooling he did. Was stationed in Bremerton on a boomer after that which he didn’t really care for. He much prefers fast attacks as they see more “action” if you will. He’s now in Virginia Beach on shore duty for another 2.5 years at Damneck. I hope you do get to see your son.
Comment by ShipOfDoodles on June 15, 2022 at 9:11pm

Thank you, Shea! He seems so happy, so that really helps. He earned his dolphins and star re-enlisted while way up north, so looks like he will be in for a while! I'm supposed to be in Kona October 2-9 (for a first time ever trip to HA) for my daughter-in-law's Ironman, but he is due to be out again during that time for who-knows-how-long. I'll have to wait for another opportunity, unless the fact they have been gone so much already means their schedule might change. I'm prepared for just about anything, ha ha. 

Comment by Shea on June 15, 2022 at 9:03pm
@ShipOfDoodles oh yes huge learning curve lol. My son is in his 10th year and the biggest thing I have learned is each command is totally different. Just when you think you understand they get a new commander who handles things totally different. My son’s first duty station was Pearl. He loved it. I hope you get to visit while he’s there. It’s a beautiful place!!
Comment by ShipOfDoodles on June 15, 2022 at 8:55pm

Hello Everyone-

I'm in the middle of a move this month, but the silence has been deafening these past few days so thought I would take a moment to say "hi" to other moms who experience the same.  Hoping when things settle down with work and move toward the end of summer, I will jump in more often. My sailor arrived at his first duty station at Pearl late in October. Mine's a Nuke, and it seems he has been out more than in these past nearly eight months. I do count myself lucky that I've heard from him a few times--more than I expected via email--no matter how unlike his "voice" the emails seem. Surely someone else is writing these? When I write I usually try to thank whoever is reviewing them while they are pending...

I noticed in the comments earlier that someone received a deployment handbook? Is there such a thing?!!! I'm learning that having a submariner in the family is a learning curve, much the same as raising a child from scratch--by the seat of my pants, ha ha. No training manuals, right? Regardless, I do have pictures of the frozen north and his eyelashes fringed in ice which he sent to me following the declassification of ICEX 2022. They were eerily awesome! So excited for him, and missing him oh, so much! My best to you all! Prayers for all our sons and daughters "somewhere out there..."  


Comment by Kaye S. on May 18, 2022 at 6:42pm

Hey, Kevsmom93!  Yeah, I'm still here.  No one will take the job!

SUB EMAIL ADDRESS:  Please look in the right hand ---> column to find an article on how to email your sub sailor.  You don't need to wait 'til it's given to you.

I posted last summer that my sailor is now on an aircraft carrier (after 15y on subs).  If someone would like to be admin for this group, tell me!  It's not hard and you'll meet the greatest people.  I've been at this for 16 years now & still love it - but need to transition off.  Thanks! ks

Comment by CSW on May 10, 2022 at 2:14pm

The Hammer-First BZ that's a good thing.  Letters of Commendation are ways that sailors are recognized for their performance, so receiving one is a distinction.  A Flag Letter of Commendation is worth one point and helps expedite advancement.  

Comment by The Hammer on May 10, 2022 at 1:43pm

Sub Moms... I have a question regarding commendations. My sailor has received a "Commander Submarine Force U.S. Pacific Fleet Letter of Commendation". While I'm thrilled that he was recognized for his work... I'm trying to understand if this is a big deal or if it's just an "atta boy" kind of thing. Any guidance is appreciated!


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