This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."


**UPDATE - 2020**

Due to COVID there is no public PIR. The graduations are on Thursday, and the video of the graduation is posted on RTC's FaceBook on Friday at approx 3pm. Please keep in mind that a division may need to complete additional quarantine during training which will delay their graduation.

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Sub Moms

Welcome to the deep, silent world of submarines!  If you're new to this world, start by reading the "Pages" of info found in the right-hand column, below the strip of member avatars.

We welcome your questions.  But, while you're here, maintain silence... don't slam doors or the lid on the toilet!

 Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

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These articles are the "reference library" for moms, ready to answer FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions) 24x7 (twenty-four hours, seven days a week).  You may not have to post a question after all!  Thanks, Kaye S.






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Personal Storage on Fast Attack Subs

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Personal Storage on Fast Attack Subs

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submarine visits to foreign ports

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Comment by WearsLargeHats on February 17, 2021 at 11:26pm

There is something like a beach resort at Dam Neck. We are hoping things open up later in the year so we can visit up there. Too, I am fond of Va Beach hotels with an ocean-view balcony. You can watch the ships come and go out of Norfolk, and Oceana NAS is like a constant airshow. Maybe there is some hope they will have the actual airshow in September.

Comment by LindaGirl on February 17, 2021 at 8:29pm
Shea, your son is going to love Shore Duty in Virginia Beach. My son is just finishing up his 3 years of Shore Duty there, and as a matter of fact just got his new orders today, for April. He had a lot of free, downtime that he relished, although this past year because of Covid restrictions, it put a damper on all the things he would have been able to do if it weren’t for the virus. Hopefully soon with vaccines coming out and herd immunity setting in, things will be able to start to open up, allowing your son to take full advantage of all that Virginia Beach has to offer. I know my son will miss Shore Duty, it was a nice break from being on a sub 24/7.
Comment by Tulip on February 17, 2021 at 8:10pm
Glad to be back on here and see some familiar names. My son is readying for an underway and his fiancé returns from deployment while he is gone. They haven’t seen each other for more than a year so praying his requested leave stays approved!

Hope all are staying safe and healthy and warm! In Memphis we are not set up to handle this much snow and below freezing temps. Sure is pretty to look at but not used to it any longer since we moved from Ohio more than 8 years ago.
Comment by Shea on February 17, 2021 at 4:34pm
Good afternoon everyone. I hope you all are safe and well during these crazy times. I have not posted in awhile since not many changes in the last 3 years. But change is in the wind for my sailor. After 3 years in Bangor he will be stationed in Virginia Beach starting in late summer for his long awaited shore duty. He’s been on sub duty since he enlisted nearly 9 years ago with no break. He’s looking forward to the weather and this mom is looking forward to a new place to visit.
Comment by WearsLargeHats on October 11, 2020 at 5:32pm

Finally, after more than a year of waiting, our son has shore-duty orders to ****** Virginia, where he will be ******* at *******. It will be good to have him in the same time zone and only a few hours drive away. 

Comment by SubMom on July 8, 2020 at 1:08pm

Our son recently returned from deployment and it has been wonderful talking with him. A friend of mine said she didn't know how we went so long without any contact - honestly we don't know either. Fact is, like everyone else on this page, it's what we had to do. Now we need COVID-19 to go away so we can visit :)

Comment by John and Yvonne on May 13, 2020 at 11:06pm


We hope that when he gets back he will be able to explore the island! And of course the beaches! 

Yvonne and John

Comment by Catherine on May 13, 2020 at 7:26pm

Thanks again for all the info. I need to spend some time  learning how to navigate this site. Seems to be a mixture of older (out of date?) info and new stuff.  Will be exciting to learn where he will ultimately be stationed!  Think he is interested most in fast attack subs. His first big adjustment will be living in Groton, CT for A-School given that we are from the desert Southwest!  Am sure school will keep him pretty busy (and he won't have a vehicle) but hoping he gets to explore outside of the base a little. Husband and I also hope to visit him there at some point.

Stay safe everyone!

Comment by CarlaB on May 13, 2020 at 7:13am

John and Yvonne - my son has only been in Hawaii less than a year and was deployed for 6 months, and then COVID-19 has had them all isolated since shortly after he got back from deployment so he really hasn't had a chance to get settled yet.  He is leaving again soon to ride along with another boat for a change of home port, so will be gone for a couple of months again.  Someday hopefully he gets the chance to get settled and enjoy it!

Comment by LindaGirl on May 12, 2020 at 10:39pm

Catherine, keep in mind, as a single sailor going so far away to Hawaii sounds exciting and adventurous, but for many young, single sailors, this is their first assignment away from home, besides boot camp and A school and it can sometimes be overwhelming and frightening, until they make friends and are actually working on a sub for what they are trained for.  For married sailors with or without a family, it is an adventure, as you have a family to come home to at the end of the day, someone who you know is waiting for you. You can explore together, knowing that you have a spouse who has your back.  A single sailor does not have that support which makes it more difficult for them being so far from home, without family support, but from a distance. 


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