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Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Weddings **Future Brides**


Weddings **Future Brides**

Wedding bliss doesn't always seem like that if you planning a white wedding with a military man.

Gather Ideas, Planning tips, great website good deals.

*Mother of the Groom or Bride share you stories or experiance

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Latest Activity: Dec 22, 2016

Discussion Forum

Big wedding planning

Started by EricakK81. Last reply by EricakK81 Jan 20, 2014. 4 Replies

How do you plan a big wedding ? He is in A school right now but on hold and doesn't know when his class will start. How do u pick a date and plan for the wedding? We r getting married court house…Continue

Catholic Wedding

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Hey Ladies! For anyone that may know anything about the catholic church and getting married in one but not being catholic, I would love to talk to you. I need someone's expertise! My fiance is…Continue

My fiancé was told to postpone the wedding

Started by kikicook12. Last reply by amberrose Feb 2, 2012. 2 Replies

My fiancé and I had originally planned to get married before he finished A school and got his first orders, but recently he's been told from a number of higher ups that a wedding will be too…Continue

info for a church wedding

Started by Ari♥. Last reply by jodybrock Jan 27, 2012. 3 Replies

Hi, I have a question, I hope someone of you have some information about this, Im catolic and we want to get married by the church BUT my fiance doesn´t have the sacrament of confirmation, do you…Continue

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Comment by Anti M on July 6, 2011 at 9:33am
I answered this over on the GF group... not only will you not be on his orders, but you cannot count on "the new guy" getting to take leave that soon.  His ship may be deployed, they may need him to finish his quals before he can take leave, he may be sent overseas.  You know he will be home in Septmeber, why not marry then?
Comment by abuon18 on July 6, 2011 at 9:22am
annamichael, i can't really answer that for you but i can say from discussing my own wedding plans with everyone on here that if you wait until he's done with school to get married you will not be on his orders, he will not get BAH for you, he will not be able to live with you and the Navy will not move you to where ever his permanent duty station is. Plus, he will have his orders before he finishes C school.
Comment by annamichael on July 5, 2011 at 6:33pm
Hey everyone, my fiance should graduate A school in September, then come home for 2 weeks, then C school for 16 weeks (ITOF program). So, if he graduates in February, then gets his orders, how realistic is it that he would be able to come home on leave for a few days in May for us to get married?
Comment by Anti M on June 30, 2011 at 10:48am
LOL, thank the Navy for teaching me six step troubleshooting.
Comment by abuon18 on June 30, 2011 at 10:33am
Well number 6 is DEFINITELY not an option, but thank you for taking the time to make this list for me! I will share it with my fiance and see what will work best for us!
Comment by Anti M on June 30, 2011 at 10:19am

My laptop is being flaky... but make list of plans, pros and cons.

1. Marry now. Con: the recruiter will freak and you both may feel rushed. Pro: easy, and the money will come faster.

2. Marry during PIR weekend. He CAN talk to his RDC and get permission. Con: again, rushed feeling and a real hassle in timing. Pro: you're in Great Lakes anyway and won't have to wonder if he'll get to take leave.

3. Marry between ATT and A school. Pro: you're at home and it is what you want. Con: It may not happen.

4. Fly to San Diego and marry there. Pro: you're still early enough to be on his PCS orders to his first command ( a pro for all previous choices)
Con: expensive and unknown factors until he gets to A school.

5. Marry after A school when he gets leave Pro: you're at home, not rushed and family can attend. Con: you aren't on the orders.

6. Don't get married at all. Pro: easy. Con: WAAAAAHHHH!!!!!!

Comment by Anti M on June 30, 2011 at 10:14am
Even if it were the work option, he'd still have to request it from one or the other command.
Comment by abuon18 on June 30, 2011 at 10:14am

Please tell your hubby thanks for the advice, it is nice to have input from people who have actually been in the Navy as well as other wives and fiancees!

Comment by abuon18 on June 30, 2011 at 10:13am
Thanks Anti, that makes sense about needing to request leave from SD not ATT. I was under the impression that it wouldn't be leave that he would need to request which is where I was wrong. I will just have to talk to him and figure it out! He leaves in 11 days for boot camp is he allowed to get married within that time frame? I'm sure I seem a little neurotic as well, I am just trying to sort out the correct information from the wrong information, there is just so much from both sides! I am working on the Plan B's which is where all of my questions are coming from :) since I am very flexible as far as getting time off from my job, and being able to just pack up and move, I am not worried about when I will see him again, but the most pressing issue is making sure we get married early enough so I can be on his permanent duty station orders!
Comment by abuon18 on June 30, 2011 at 10:09am
I guess it just depends on how long it takes to get enough sailors after the previous class has started....if that makes sense how I said it! It's hard for me to just wait and see... I'm trying to learn how to but I'm a planner by nature and occupation so this is all a little frustrating! 

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