Deployment already?!?!?!?

[NavyWife2013]

My sailor is still in A-school so when i asked him about moving, he said either he would be stationed on a base or he would be stationed on a ship and i would go to a port, or somthing like that, so when i talked to him last night he said he needed to make some things clear, that he has told me but he wasnt sure that i didnt understand, and one of those things he said was he could deploy after he is done with A-school , that that is wat he meant when he said he could be stationed on a ship. is this true he gets done with A-school, comes home on leave and then deploys? someone please explain this i am new at militairy in fact i wasnt very fond of it and now i cant even think straight with all the confusion! could he be killed? how dangerous are we talking? anyone know?

[NavyWife2013]

ok so when should he put in a chit to get married?

[lemonelephant]

He'll have to check that out.

[NavyWife2013]

when should he put his chit in to get married?

[NavyWife2013]

ok thnx

[BunkerQB]

2013, hahahaha - you are well on your way to becoming a great Navy wife. He comes home and says, "I don't know." You get on the internet and phone and try to to get all the answers. But he is one smart guy for choosing YOU to be his partner.

[sailorwifenmom]

This is not meant to rush your wedding plans, but if you are going to get married while he's on leave en route to his first command, then if I were you, as soon as he gets to his A school, he needs to put in the request, and you all should look into doing what you need to do to get married in that State. Then fly or drive down to where he is and make it legal.

You can still do a vow renewal and a reception when he's on leave, but the thing is, as far as the Navy is concerned, "going to get married" doesn't "count" - even if he's done the paperwork to let them know. It only counts once you do it, and he will have orders before he goes on leave. Once the orders are cut, they won't change them to accommodate a spouse. So, while they will authorize you to live at his homeport, apply for housing, and so on (assuming it is Stateside duty) they will not pay to move you, since you weren't married when he got the orders.

To be on the orders you have to be official, and the only official the Navy acknowledges as far as that goes is spouse.

Now, if you all were not planning on getting married this soon, I would NOT suggest this. But since you are, the difference in those few months can mean a huge difference in orders and money spent out of your pocket.

[abbyblue]

so you are a girl friend not a wife like you screen name says ?

[lemonelephant]

AbbyBlue, her screen name indicates she will be a Navy wife in 2013, which is next year.

[NavyWife2013]

yes i am a fiance we were planning on getting married in 2013 when he graduates A school, he is already in A- school, he finishes att the 20th this month then he will start GMA but we dont know how long his hold will be.

so we need to get married before he graduates and we can renew our vows when he has leave?

[amandamomof4]

I think what she is suggesting is a courthouse ceremony to get you married and a wedding at a later date. My daughter did this in 2010 when the army recruiter told her fiance and her right before he left for bootcamp, that it would be better all around if they were married before he left for boot camp. So two days before he left we went to the courthouse and did a ceremony before a judge. Then after he graduated from A school and came home on leave we had their wedding. Most of the guests did not know they were already married