The Beginning

[jehmke]

Hello All!
So I'm definitely new to this site, new to this lifestyle.

I decided to start this blog on N4M to put myself out there a little more on the site,be more active in it, and hopefully help/share experiences with someone that is going through the same thing that I am.

As of right now, I'm engaged to my sailor whose at NWS Charleston, and I'm living in Georgia. This is my first "long-distance" relationship, but I'm proud of how well we have done this far, and it only makes me feel better about our ability to handle the deployments in the future. Being near Ft. Gordon, GA, I've seen a lot of girls get into relationships with military men just to get away from our area, and typically that ends in a divorce in about 2 years and they end up back where they started anyways, so that's one of my underlying fears; rushing into anything, which brings me to this:

So far, I've learned that the Navy is pretty much "hurry up and wait."
We have a "plan", but we also know that his job can change that plan in a split second. It's kind of scary, having to wait on the Navy's decision as to how certain parts of your life will be. For instance, from where my sailor is at now, he can either go to NY or stay where he is for his 3rd leg of schooling. If he goes to NY, I can't go with him as neither of us can afford it, unless we are married, which will be rushing into things. If he stays where he is now, I plan on moving up there with him before we get married, since we only see each other pretty much every other weekend, we don't know each other as much as we feel we should to get married just yet, and neither of us believe in divorce unless it's extreme circumstances, and that's rare nowadays, as many couples (especially military) end in divorce.

This is my first post in a string of many to come, hopefully. I know that it probably was not much help to anyone, but I live life with this philosophy: If I have helped just one person, then I am accomplished.

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I think so far you are doing great :-). It is wise to not be in a hurry. Take your time and get to know each other. I worry so much about my own daughter who I feel rushed into her marriage simply because she and her (now) hubby didn't want to be apart. She only knew him 1 month before she left for bootcamp. He proposed right after bootcamp and 2 months later they were married. 4 days after that he left for bootcamp. I hope and pray they are right for each other and that they have a healthy and happy marriage. Good luck to you. :-)

[jehmke]

Thanks, everyone!

And @DA BUSCH!, I know a lot about the Navy from the Wife/Fiance/Girlfriend standpoint because one of my best friends was married to a sailor, and they're currently going through a divorce. I just observed and learned what will and won't work from their marriage, and if I have questions I have a few military wife friends I can go to. I think that's very important, especially with the separations that come with the military lifestyle.I tend to sit back and observe, and learn from other's mistakes and triumphs.

[jehmke]

**Correction: I don't know a lot, but what I do know...lol