Heartbroken

[HooyahWendy]

My daughter left for boot camp 2 days ago and I've been crying uncontrollably. I hate not having contact with her. I also have so many unanswered questions, especially like will she come home after A school for a while. I know this will get easier but right now I can't seem to get myself together

[Noni]

Heartbroken
As a mom who has a daughter, who is a officer. It does not get easier sorry to say. I live about 5 miles away from GL. My daughter is 3000 miles away. If I can help please send me a message.

[HooyahWendy]

thank you. I can't believe what a wreck I am.

[Scanditaly]

HI Wendy;  please accept my heartfelt condolences on the separation of you and your daughter.  You are doing the right thing, coming here and posting, and hopefully you will get stronger day by day. 

My SR son's girlfriend came to visit and she was talking about how she called her mother everyday when she was in college.  For us this is not the case, as SR is a third child and the last to leave the nest.  We are a bit relieved with the breathing room. When my daughter was in college, it did not hit me till year 3, and THAT was horrible year. So, we all experience separation in different ways, and I am glad that you have the kind of relationship with her that you feel the loss. Post anytime.....we are all here for you.

[samsmom]

My son did get to come home for a week after A school. He put in a chit (request) for leave. It is difficult to get through the bootcamp weeks but you will survive! Keep writing and waiting for your calls. A school is better because you can text and call. This time is an emotional bootcamp for moms as we learn to savor the contact we get. My son gave me a big bear hug at PIR and I saw he had grown up but he still loved me the same. I'll be praying for you as you go through these weeks.

[Phoenixmom]

Heartbroken, Believe me when I say you are not the only one who has gone thru this, we as Mothers hold tight to our Children no matter the age, my son went in recently he left July 5th, you talk about crying, everyone thought I was in Mourning. I cried at home, at work, for about a whole week and a half, in fact I got tears in my eyes as I am writing you because I know how you are feeling. There is nothing anyone can say to you right now to make it better, but to know within yourself that she is ok. I had to come to realize that and then when I got on this site, To know that their were The wonderful Mothers that were going thru the same thing I was I didn't feel alone anymore. We all go thru that because it is the not knowing that eats us up. There is so much info on this site where you can find answers to all your questions, and if you want to know what she is doing at this time here is the place to go "Arrival and What Happens at the RTC" here will break it down for the processing weeks and what they are doing. Join Boot camp moms you also will find info on their. Keep your head up and keep the faith, and know your Beloved SR is in good hands, you Have to stay focused and strong for her because she may be feeling the same and second guessing herself as to why she did this, A lot of the SR'S second guess themselves when they enter because they had no Idea how hard it was going to be, but they have to remember the purpose they chose to do this, and we have to continue to be strong for them and believe me it goes a long way. I used to pray over the phone with my son and he actually told me thanks mom I really needed that, he was one to second guess himself and was ready to quit, but I had to convince him why he was there and the purpose behind it. So please Heartbroken if their is anything that you need their are plenty of Ladies that can help with your questions or concerns just ask and know that we are hear for you, Everyday you will know more and then you will become stronger, shoot you may know more than your daughter does and she's in there. That's No Joke! Welcome to the site and know Ma'am you will be ok and in good hands.

[Phoenixmom]

HSMom I appreciate your comment very much, and  Just know anything you need to ask please do. I am on this site to help out in any way that I can. My son is a Sailor Graduated Sept. 1st and he is Loving A school. I am for all the encouragement and prayer, I believe it gets a person to feel better. Wishing you and Your New Sailor to be all the Best, and may his Journey be all that he expects and more. Good Day!

[Scanditaly]

HI to all you moms on this thread.  Having just returned from PIR, I want to share a few things with you.  First, Wendy, hope you are feeling better and supported and are adjusting to being away from your daughter.  It was nice to see my son so happy and confident from his time in RTC.  I really felt like I passed the torch to the Navy, and now I am not in charge of him anymore.  It felt really good to know that he is learning skills (ironing and folding clothes to name two) but also keeping priorities, schedules, and making friends.  When I made a half-joke about not being needed any longer, he retorted with "of course I still need you Mom, just not for the same things.  We went over some paperwork for his IRA savings account, looked at the insurance policy issued to him, discussed how he will acquire the domestic necessities after "A" school when he gets an apartment, and also what level of help he might need when he eventually deploys...  so, I am still needed, but just not for the same things.

Wendy; If you raised your daughter to the best of your ability, then trust those abilities and let her become a strong, independent woman.  I might be repeating myself, but after what I witnessed this weekend at PIR; with all the families and all the sailors and all the possibilities, I am confident that I raised my boy to have those traits I mentioned, and you probably have as well. 

I am going to ask you a question, Wendy.  Please don't feel the need to answer her on this board; this is more for your reflection.  Do you have any feelings of guilt regarding your daughter?  Regrets?  Again, don't answer here. As my oldest daughter said when she made her decision to go far away to college, "Mom, I'm not running away from you, I'm running toward my adult life." Swear to God she said this, and I felt so happy and sad at the same time.  ]

[Mynavybaby]

My son left to boot camp yesterday. I thought I was over reacting because I feel so emotional and worried...so many different emotions. Crying at just the thought of what he’s going through. Does he miss me? The unknown. Your post helped. It’s a process and trust that I raised him the best I could and now am here to support him in his adult life. Thank you!

[HooyahWendy]

great advise...thank you. I'm beginning to adjust...slowly. I'm so proud of her but I just wanted to hang on to that little girl a little longer.

[Gusty]

I'm so sorry. My son left today and I'm also heartbroken. I knew it would be hard but I didn't think it would be THIS hard. 
I'm so glad to have found this group. I hope we can all draw strength from each other. 

[HooyahWendy]

it's a difficult adjustment. We will get through this together.

[B'sNukeMoM⚓️MMN(Vet)]

Hang in there!