Medical Help and Suicide Prevention

[Tabitha]

Hello All! I am in some serious need of help or advice. Our son has been doing really good up until this past summer after he was hit on his motorcycle by a truck who ran a red light. Thank the good Lord he was able to walk away from this accident but he walked away with three fractures in his spine and other smaller injuries. Two of the fractures are in his neck and one in his lower back. The navy hasn't been much help as far as doctor care or physical thearpy. He experience muscle spasms that cause his whole body to tingle. He had one so bad last night that he was found by the city police laying in the road. He was transported last night to the hospital. I'm assuming a military hospital. This isn't the first time this has happened. He was told by one of his chain of command that the pain was in his head. :( How could they say this and his x-rays show fractures? Because the pain has become so severe and he isn't getting the care or physical thearpy that he needs he is also becoming more and more depressed. So severe that he called me a few weeks ago and stated "Mom if you don't hear from me, you know I have done the unthinkable." After this comment my husband and myself talked to him for almost three hours on the phone. Telling him to talk to his chain of command about his thoughts. It took alot in him but he did it. His chain of command response was he needed to get in the gym to work on his physical well being. WHAT?????? Now how on earth will this help him when he has injuries is my thoughts. We have also found out that he a couple of times has over done his meds that they gave him for his injuries. This is so disheartening to think that he isn't being heard. He is in pain all the time and is also contemplating suicide. Our son has never been in this state of mind before. Before this accident happened he was a happy kid with a carefree spirit. He has always had a positive outlook on everything. Does anyone have any knowledge on how we as his parents can help him, or who we can talk to about our concerns or how we can get him the help that he needs? PLEASE!! I'm scared to pieces that phone call that every parent is scared of recieving is going to come any day now. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.

[anasazigypsy]

Not Surprise,Peoria.
https://www.abc15.com/news/region-west-valley/peoria/peoria-family-...

[Phoenixmom]

Thanks for this good info,  it is a scary thing I must say.

Ok North Central, I live on the West side of Phoenix. It is getting Pretty Bad. But everywhere around this area is Bad. wanted to move awhile ago so glad I remained with everything happening my way. Thanks for sharing. Hoping Tabitha can get somewhere with this info.

[Tabitha]

Thank you so much for the replies ladies and the prayers. Phoenixmom is there a link that that you posted in the first message? How do I get to it, I'm unable to see it.

[Phoenixmom]

ACT Treatment of Depression - Depression Treatment Program at ...

https://www.portlanddepressiontreatment.com › act-treatment-of-depression

Other important resources include:
Military OneSource 1-800-342-9647 www.militaryonesource.com 
Veterans Crisis Line: 1-800-273-8255, press 1 www.veteranscrisisline.net/
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255. 

[Phoenixmom]

Tabitha I posted the Ombudsman number on your my page something I googled. it has her email.

[Tabitha]

Oh I must be blind those links didn't pop up at first or I didn't see them. Thank you Phoenoxmom ♡

[Phoenixmom]

I hope this can help you and your Family, And I am so sorry this is happening. I just don't understand the meaning of this. My Heart hurts for you. Please let me know if any of these numbers help or leads you to getting help. I will be Praying it does and Praying for you and your family.

[Tabitha]

BSNukemom, I seen your message but for some reason I am not able to respond to it. Thank you so much for the advice and kind words. I'm sitting down right and going through all of the links I have been given and contacting the chaplain and ombudsman. I'm so grateful for you all and the support you provide. I'd be one lost mama without you all ♡

[NavyMomofJM]

Tabitha, I know I am coming late to this post. Let me say this first, I am so sorry that you son is going through this. There should be Ombudsman for your son command, their "job" is to be a conduit between wife, mothers, fathers, child and command. If you can find out who is the ombudsman for your son command and see if they can help you voice you concerns. Also, maybe have you son go talk to the Chaplain in his command, that is what they are there for to help the sailors in command. Since, I dont know where he is stationed, but you might do a little bit of research about his command and the base he is at. I hate to say this, you might have to make some noise to get something done. It saddens me that this still happens within the Navy. 

Your son is in our prayers and hope that everything works out for him

[Tabitha]

Hey all, Wanted to give an update. I'm sorry I have been MIA. Our son seems to be doing better. He was moved to Limbo and a different place doing shore duty. His new chief seems to really care about his situation. He has gotten to talk to counselor a few times as well as started physical thearpy every week. Praying he will heal physically and mentally. We got to go down and pick him up for Thanksgiving so he got to spend a few days home. It was so nice and he seemed to be himself for the most part. Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts. I'm so grateful for all of you and this website of supporting navy mamas. ♡

[anasazigypsy]

So glad to hear this. Sounds like you had much to be thankful for. Hopefully he'll totally be the new, improved version of himself soon.

[MoeBee]

Going through the same thing- accept our son did attempt suicide a month ago- we were notified and flew to base he was admitted to the psych ward for 2 days it was HORRIBLE conditions!  He was released on 2 anti depressant medications and therapy 4 days a week.  Just this past few weeks he was called into legal and had is NRJ on Tuesday and Captains Mast yesterday- he is not on restriction to the ship- for 45 days - and being given a General Honorable discharge after 5 years.  He had an impeccable record not one mark on him - they took the low road and are discharging him instead of getting him the treatment he needed.  The incident was the day after Veterans day-  his first Psychiatrists appointment scheduled for get this.......... JANUARY 8th! 2 months after a suicide attempt - horrendous.  My son had just enlisted for 6 more years was set to go back to Japan for 3 years on May and they are now discharging him.  I am OK with that part because the Navy has done absolutely NOTHING for this situation= they preach Suicide is taken seriously- well I know first hand it is NOT.   He will be just fine in the Civilian world has a strong work ethic and at this point I just want out son HOME where WE can actually follow up on his treatment and get him well and sane again.  They failed our son.