help with insight for my girlfriend.......Help plz

[Tyeson_2211]

i have been considering joining the navy for awhile now and been trying to convince her that it isnt as bad as it sounds....she is very worried that the navy is like the rest of the military (the war) and being in afgan for a year....what i really want to do is be a rescue swimmer..and she just dont understand everything about the navy...so i was just looking for some help from girls who have been through this first hand and theyre worries and how it came to be where you are now with your boyfriend or husband so i can live my dream and do this with my girlfriend.....thank you:)

[Nate's Mom (Wendy) ;P]

Navygirlfriend,Retired Navywife and now a Navymom. It is/was the best experience in my life. It takes a strong person to be spouse of a military member. you have to be willing to step up when needed, step down when need and understand the rollercoaster of emotions. If you serious, go for it. If she is, than she will be your best ally. But going in blindly is very hard. But as hard as it is it is also extremely honorable and enjoyed every moment. Put your self with like minded ambition driven friends as she should do. There are pit falls and if your hangin out with the wrong crowd it wont work for what you want to do or for her. Lots of great advice on here. Mine to you, if your driven you will achieve. Same for your girlfriend. I wish you the very best of luck and her. =)

[ILoveMySeal]

It's hard to make someone understand exactly why you are doing something, especially when it is something that will be difficult. It certainly doesn't mean your relationship is doomed, no matter how new it is. I guess the best advice that I can give is take it day by day TOGETHER. If you have a meeting with the recruiter that she can go to, bring her. Make her feel like she matters in your decision to join our military and that you plan to KEEP her involved. Long story short, do what you can to include her, but her pride in your choice to join the Navy is something she'll have to develop on her own. Pride and love for her man is what keeps a sailors girl going :)

Hopefully that helps.

[Anna]

I have to disagree with a lot of the posts here. My husband and I were together for 6 years before he joined the Navy. While I will always support him, we make life-altering decisions together. If I told him he couldn't join it would not be because I was being un-supportive. Joining the military will change your relationship and you should both have a life and relationship that is best for you. You both need to be honest with each other about your needs and plans for the future. Look at your options critically and don't rush into anything.

[Viki]

My daughter did it and is glad for the opportunities...
she now lives in Hawaii !

[Blue_Muffin's_Red_Cupcake]

Girlfriend-

I know exactly how you feel. My sailor leaves for BC in less than 5 months, and honestly, I'm terrified. BUT even though I am terrified for him, I am so proud of him. Its scary, knowing I probably won't be able to see him for at least 3 months in a row, and that is only boot camp. Sometimes I worry about not being able to see him, touch him, kiss him, but I know when he gets back it'll just get better! Yes, he may be more analytical and mentally tougher, but thats where you come in! I wrote a blog post not 2 days ago and someone replied and basically told me to look it all up! Check out what he's doing at BC online, go through it with him! Try to keep the conversations or letters you do have or receive on happy things! Let him know how much you love him or how proud you are of him! My sailor told me just the other say something that I will always treasure in my heart; "The only thing stronger than an American Soldier is his girlfriend."

[I_love_Thomas]

To the girlfriend, my boyfriend just left and I am feeling so many emotions. Scared, proud, lonely. The first few days, I cried at sight of his toothbrush and socks, but I had him leave me his pajamas so I could sleep in them and feel somewhat close to him, still. If you two are serious and you know you want to be only with him and you know you will wait for him, then by all means, encourage the hero. You may not think you will be strong enough without him, but it will make you both so much stronger together. It may hurt, it may be a long process, but love will keep you alive if you are a truly meant to be couple. We are here together as girlfriends, wives, siblings, and all sorts. You have us if not your friends and family as well.

[dream70]

Life is all about decisions. Your decisions and your girlfriend's if she decides to spend the rest of your lives together. I am just reaching retirement with this year from 21 years in the Navy. My wife has been right by my side for 19 of those years. We have 2 boys ages 18 and 23. We wouldn't have stayed together without the support of the Navy.

If Rescue Swimmer is your ultimate goal and time apart is a no-go, there are other Services that provide those jobs that keep you close to home. The Coast Guard perhaps? The important thing is that you are still serving our country and they have great rescue swimmers.