Help, I can't stop crying.

[jenmack]

My son is being shipped Jan 4, 2011. I can't stop crying. Today, I am at work and have cried 3 times. I know I need to get myself together, but I am having a hard time doing this. My son is 23, still lives at home. This will not be the first time him leaving home. He lived away at college for a year. I understand this will be good for him.

My husband doesn't understand and I have nobody to talk to about this. Everybody tells me they understand, but I feel they don't. I know every mother on here has or will be going through what I am going through and I just need to know how to handle this.

Please I do need advice. 

[sunshine73]

WE understand exactly what you are going through. My son ships the same day as yours. Even though I am excited and know this is a wonderful opportunity for him, I find myself fighing tears and the ever present lump in my throat. I am a high school teacher and our schools NJROTC is Navy sponsored so I am reminded all day about his leaving. This is a wonderful site for support and information. Hang in there.

[joyceann]

Hi Honey, I am so sorry you are going through this also.  My son left 4 weeks ago Tuesday and I honestly didn't have a clue that it would hit me as hard as it did.  I cried for 2 weeks straight, to the point where I thought I may be losing it.  I didn't care if I ate or how I slept or if I went to work, all I knew is that my son was gone.  Last night was the first night that I passed the ramen noodles in the store and did not cry!!  yeah!  People tell you to find new hobbies and keep busy.  That is what I started to do after about the end of the second week, until then, I think I had the "empty nest" going on and combined with menopause, I wasn't able to deal with a whole lot without crying.  What helped me best was time, it really does get easier as you go along.  In a way, I think I had to go through my "grieving" period before I started to heal.  Good luck to you honey.  Check back in and let us know how you are.

[Denise-- Seabee Mom]

Odds are you will always cry about something sometime. But over time it gets better. Its going to take some adjustment but it is all doable. Dont expect anyone to understand. How can they. Dont be to hard on your husband. He isnt a mom. Yes you will find alot of moms that cry all the time you are also going to find moms that cant figure it out. After all the years of being a navy mom I dont get all the emotional upset that alot of mom have. I'm just not that type.  But you would be better off not to have expectations of other to be able to understand what your feeling. In life we know people say things to try and make other feel better or just to say something. So try not to be to hard. Your 1st couple weeks will be a bit tough. But then you start to get excited about PIR. Oh and by the way you'll cry again. When he gets to A-school you will have better contact. Use boot camp as training for yourself to get ready for deployments. Boot camp is only 8 week. Deployments can be 8 months. With very little contact.

Spend the next couple weeks enoying what time you have with your son. Enjoy Christmas and New Years. Honestly there is no telling when you will beable to spend another one with him.

Use the group tab and look for groups to join. New moms stop here and boot camp moms are both great group. Stop over and check out the Seasoned moms group. Once your son goes and you get a PIR date join that group. Thanks going to give you a ton of infomation.

Good luck and look for the positive. You'll do much better