I'm Nervous

[diva991]

Hello,

I am writing because my son is a Senior and he is planning to go to the Navy. While I know this is probably the best decision for him I'm so nervous for him to go to the Navy mostly because of the war. I don't know if this is the place for this but I just need to tell someone how I'm feeling. I am trying not to let him know how I feel and my husband doesn't quite get it.

 

[Sandy's_sailor son]

I will see if I can find out for you harkness26.

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

I believe I'd be killing me a recruiter...just kidding.

 

Go to the Social Secuity Office for your county. Don't know how quick they can get it for you...you'll need his birth certificate...the ORIGINAL. hope the recruiter hasn't lost that also. Is the recruiter even OFFERING to help? SInce it IS his fault!!!!!

[Sandy's_sailor son]

harkness, I passed your question on to Angie. She is a Chief at Great Lakes and she is on this site a lot. 

I also spoke to my son. He says that you need to have 2 forms of ID> but yes, run to the Social Security Office and let them know what has happened. I would also drag the recruiter there with you, LoL

[Angie]

Point on!  They need that SS card.  I would bang the door down at the recruiter office to talk to the RINC (Recruiter in Charge).  Along with going to the SS office. 

 

Harkness....

Below is the hyperlink for the people in charge of all the recruiters!  I would be filling a grivance againts that recruiter.  Give them 1 hour to find that SS card, if they don't I would be on the phone with the PAO at CNRC (# at hyperlink below). 

 

 http://www.cnrc.navy.mil/contact.htm

 

Make sure he gives you a POA so that you can check his credit score and keep an eye on his accounts so nothing happens.  If that SS card falls into the wrong hands......

 

Below is the hyperlink for the SS office.

http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/app/answers/detail/a_id/251

[Sandy's_sailor son]

Sysmom, I know how you felt when your son went into the Navy. My oldest boy went in last August. He and I were very close. I cried too when my son left. Now that I see what the Navy has done for him I am very happy that he chose the Navy. It is what he wanted to do since he was 8 years old. As he grew up the sea was calling him. He was very unhappy with his job back home, but he was hesitant to leave. He later told me that me that he didn't want to leave because he was worried about us. I told him not to worry. Life is too short not to follow your dreams, so he enlisted. I have never regretted that he joined. I just miss him. I talk to a lot of other Navy moms and I see that I am not the only one. Diva991. this is Natural.  Sysmom, the Dads miss their Navy sons just as much but they just don't talk about it.  It is a guy thing. LoL

Skysmom, Congratulations to you son. Thank him for his service to our country.

Sandy

 

[jacketfan24 (corpsman mom)]

I am in the same place.  All the responses on here really helped, but I am still nervous.  I know he is doing the right thing for himself, but since he wants to be a Corpsman, there is a good chance he will see some action overseas if this keeps up.  He is a senior and has taken his ASVABs already and scored well.  Now he is waiting on MEPS to review his medical file and approve him to go have the physical done.  He had a knee scope in Dec. of 2009, so they have to review the records first.  The recruiter says that's not an exclusion and his knee is fine, but he hates waiting.  It did make me nervous to see how hard the first three weeks are, but he tells me he will be fine because the screaming won't be personal (when the football coaches screamed at him, he took it very personally, because it was meant to be that way).  It's been hardest to convince my daughter; she is 3 years older than him and is disappointed because he is turning down a college scholarship to join.  She thinks he should still go to college right away.  It was just a partial scholarship, and he doesn't want loans.  The Navy was the best way to go to school in the future, and he loves a challenge. 

I have a feeling this site is going to be a lifeline for me once he is gone. 

 

[Sandy's_sailor son]

Hi Jacketfan!! I can understand you feeling a little nervous about your son joining. It is natural.

I think your son is doing the right thing by following his dreams and joining now. Why should your son rake up a big big college dept that he will be struggling to pay off for the rest of his life. My son went to college for 2 years before he Enlisted. Now he has to pay that back and it is one more headache. If your son becomes a sailor he can take classes while in the Navy and earn his BA. The Navy will pay for the classes and he will be dept free. Now a days students are getting degrees and can't find jobs. They are stuck at home with their parents. Who wants that??. Maybe if you talk to your daughter about this, she will feel better about her brother's decision. After all, this is his decision.

Your son sounds like a real go getter and he will make something of his life in the Navy.

My son was mature when he joined. He was 20. Now he is really grown up and has his life together.

By the time your son graduates from boot camp, he will have learned a lot about himself. The opportunities for person growth in the Navy are endless. When you see your son at his boot camp graduation (PIR) you will cry because you'll notice the how the Navy has changed him in a good way. He will still be your son, but he will be much more focused and driven to succeed. 

From how your describe your son, he will do great in boot camp. Not taking the yelling and the discipline from the RDC's personally is half the battle. RDC= Recruit Division Commander.

I wish your son the best of success,

Let us know how things go.

Sandy

[jacketfan24 (corpsman mom)]

Thank you.  He is so excited about this.  His current plan is to go in for four years, take classes while he's in, then get out and finish school (and medical school; he wants to be a physical therapist), then probably go back in.  He is already an amazingly mature kid; it will be interesting to see what the Navy does for him. 

As for my daughter, we are hoping that she comes around . It's surprised us that she is so outspoken about it.  Like you said, it's not her choice, but his.  She is away at school and hasn't had the opportunity to talk to him daily about his plans and dreams like we have.  I felt the same way as she did the first week, but I completely agree with him now.  I think part of the problem is the fact that there is a war and she is worried about his safety.  Based on what he plans to do, there is a chance he will see action, unlike most Navy jobs. 

Okay, for now I need to go to work.  Thanks for your kind words!

[Sandy's_sailor son]

Skysmom, and jacetfan24. On Liberty weekend, after my son's  PIR, my son was also pretty nervous. From what my son tells me, this is how all new Sailors out of boot camp are. New Sailors stick out like a sore thumb. I think it takes about 2 weeks to recover from boot camp.

[Sandy's_sailor son]

LoL, yes, that is the way it is in the military. I think it is good. It keeps them out of trouble because there are consequences to their actions.